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So what do you do when people wants to contribute to your life?

trashKENNUT

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i had a friend. I didn't treat him badly, but he occasionally texted me out.

He buys me dinner, drives me to places, invites girls to join our group, tries to chat soccer with me even if he was an avid basketball fan. I let him down.

Afterawhile, the awkwardness appears more blatant. I feel that i should have avoid this, but then we were classmates, and while everyone in the class was friendly to him and the another cool guy, those two guys make me look like i was literally the boss in the class. (and maybe i was, because everyone is cool with me), even most of my teachers.

Sometimes i wish i know how to handle this things. People whom wants to play a role in your life but they do not know how. In the past, i honestly think the world is selfish, sometimes when i was down, but then, today, there are a lot of people who are willing to do things for me, at times, it seems wow.

You just haven't see abit of those people yet, if you think people are not at least abit compassionate in general.

Zac
 

Glitch

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Always the thinking man Zac.

I've had this too and even to this day still find it slightly awkward. Due to certain situations in life I have a very jaded mentality and one that seriously makes me feel like I'm 30+ at times even though I'm almost half that age. I guess life wanted me to grow up a bit faster.

To be honest all you can really do is return the favour. Treat others as they treat you.

As for giving 'direction' on how a person can 'contribute' to your life is just to accept it and be grateful. This can be a difficult concept if you have the mentality that the world and the people will always want something from you and 99% of the time you will be correct. However even I have managed to find those that are genuinely kind and good people that deserve my loyalty and help regarding any matter. I can count the number of people in my true circle on two hands.

So this maybe difficult if your mentality is similar to mine but just accept it and appreciate it as true kindness and gratitude is an extremely rare commodity.

Regarding being the boss: Just play it as you are, you are your own person. It's up everyone else how they perceive you.

Glitch
 

trashKENNUT

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Glitch,

I do treat them as they treat me. I tried to involve in their lifes, I try to take interest, and go to their hangouts, invite them for barbeques and games. The problem is that i feel that it is a problem and i don't know why. Another thing is i don't want to feel like me and him are building friendships because of mutual stuff.

I have many acquaintances to help me with things and do mutual stuff. Today, I need friends who have the same mentality i have now. like

- soccer
- dance
- women
- making money online

I just haven't found enough of this people yet. It's like i am misfiring things.

Zac
 

Glitch

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I see. So it is more of having people with the same mentality and attitudes as your current self?

I also feel the same way too. Sure GC is a good place to find others on a similar wavelength but it doesn't compare to having an actual person that you can rely on who shares the same attitudes as yourself.

Currently I have no solution and have been trying to figure one out. It's like the way you think is not in synch with the 'norm' and it is sometimes difficult for people to comprehend your true thoughts compared to the 'usual'.

The only thing is to keep at it, currently I find in life there are very few people you can truly connect with and even then a person can do a complete 180. Much like the article Chase put: Many weak bonds and few strong bonds.

Just keep at it Zac,

Glitch
 
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trashKENNUT

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Glitch,

Glitch said:
I see. So it is more of having people with the same mentality and attitudes as your current self?

I also feel the same way too. Sure GC is a good place to find others on a similar wavelength but it doesn't compare to having an actual person that you can rely on who shares the same attitudes as yourself.

Currently I have no solution and have been trying to figure one out. It's like the way you think is not in synch with the 'norm' and it is sometimes difficult for people to comprehend your true thoughts compared to the 'usual'.

The only thing is to keep at it, currently I find in life there are very few people you can truly connect with and even then a person can do a complete 180. Much like the article Chase put: Many weak bonds and few strong bonds.

Just keep at it Zac,

I don't think anyone has that solution, really. :) I actually learn that most people are experiencing the same thing, even successful people. You might think they all are successful and mingle easily, but

unfortunately we all have compatibility problems. We pretty much like the usb port. -.-

Zac
 

Glitch

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Hahah, very true Zac,

While I've only recently joined I've always enjoyed your thought posting, especially the motivational ones.

We may not have a solution but we'll just continue through life as we are and when we do find some people worthy of our time it'll make finding them that much better.

Side note: Have you started up a blog yet? I remember someone mentioning it and that you may or may not start one.

Looking forward to those future thoughts you have,

Glitch
 

trashKENNUT

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Glitch,

Glitch said:
Side note: Have you started up a blog yet? I remember someone mentioning it and that you may or may not start one.

I am trying to complete Girlschase case study of mine by this week so that i can send to Chase. It's quite a trouble. I might pass the deadline (if there's any. It's going to be a week or so). SO i am just sending it to help him if i can so. and the blog to be up after that.

Zac
 

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Sweet stuff Zac!

Looking forward to the article and the future blog, let me know when you get around to it.

Glitch
 
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