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Hey everyone.
I was referred to GirlsChase by one of my good friends who said it was a good place to gather good, applicable information and had a great forum for getting useful advice from a friendly community in addition to being a great place to set up a field report journal to help myself out.
I have been mainly reading the website for the past couple days and I am blown away by the accuracy of this stuff. Through study I have confirmed what seems to be my problem, and also identified some strengths.
I am 19 but have only had sex with one girl in my life, and it was a drunken mistake (though she was damn fine). That one girl did seem to enjoy it, and she had been around the block. I have never had much trouble getting girls' attention, but I have a bit of social anxiety that prevents me from approaching most of the time, and when I do get up the courage I most of the time screw it up because I think too much rather than just going with the flow. To try and compensate for this, I drink insane amounts of alcohol, so that when I finally am able to drown my anxiety and open some girls I am wayy to drunk to do anything but rant about life like a fucking lunatic. When I get approached by girls, I either freeze up and am overly agreeable or I ignore them/insult them completely by accident because I don't know what the hell else to do.
All of these factors has led to a lot of girls viewing me as a huge asshole, because I am in the unique position of being attractive, funny, and extremely social around groups of people and crowds, but anxious talking to girls one on one. Girls I do not know see me wittily playing entertainer, talking to attractive girls I know and trust (though all just friends), and commanding the respect of multiple dudes who tend to think I am the shit because I'm funny, good at drinking, and seem to be a ladies man; but when I talk to these girls or they to me I act disinterested or awkward, and they assume I am an asshole, a homosexual, or both.
The funniest part is my problem talking to girls doesn't stem from fear of rejection as much as it stems from losing my carefully constructed facade of being the shit. I put far too much stock in what others think of me, and have always hated being disliked or looked down upon by others, but ironically my fear of failure hurting my image has hurt my image more than a couple rejections would have. This little conundrum is compounded by the fact that in addition to this fear, I have an ingrained hatred of small talk and can't reach a deeper conversation level with a girl because that would require me to commit myself to trying have sex with her which I can't permit myself to do out of the fear of failing.
I have all the tools, but lack the will to use them. Any sort of advice would be appreciated.
I was referred to GirlsChase by one of my good friends who said it was a good place to gather good, applicable information and had a great forum for getting useful advice from a friendly community in addition to being a great place to set up a field report journal to help myself out.
I have been mainly reading the website for the past couple days and I am blown away by the accuracy of this stuff. Through study I have confirmed what seems to be my problem, and also identified some strengths.
I am 19 but have only had sex with one girl in my life, and it was a drunken mistake (though she was damn fine). That one girl did seem to enjoy it, and she had been around the block. I have never had much trouble getting girls' attention, but I have a bit of social anxiety that prevents me from approaching most of the time, and when I do get up the courage I most of the time screw it up because I think too much rather than just going with the flow. To try and compensate for this, I drink insane amounts of alcohol, so that when I finally am able to drown my anxiety and open some girls I am wayy to drunk to do anything but rant about life like a fucking lunatic. When I get approached by girls, I either freeze up and am overly agreeable or I ignore them/insult them completely by accident because I don't know what the hell else to do.
All of these factors has led to a lot of girls viewing me as a huge asshole, because I am in the unique position of being attractive, funny, and extremely social around groups of people and crowds, but anxious talking to girls one on one. Girls I do not know see me wittily playing entertainer, talking to attractive girls I know and trust (though all just friends), and commanding the respect of multiple dudes who tend to think I am the shit because I'm funny, good at drinking, and seem to be a ladies man; but when I talk to these girls or they to me I act disinterested or awkward, and they assume I am an asshole, a homosexual, or both.
The funniest part is my problem talking to girls doesn't stem from fear of rejection as much as it stems from losing my carefully constructed facade of being the shit. I put far too much stock in what others think of me, and have always hated being disliked or looked down upon by others, but ironically my fear of failure hurting my image has hurt my image more than a couple rejections would have. This little conundrum is compounded by the fact that in addition to this fear, I have an ingrained hatred of small talk and can't reach a deeper conversation level with a girl because that would require me to commit myself to trying have sex with her which I can't permit myself to do out of the fear of failing.
I have all the tools, but lack the will to use them. Any sort of advice would be appreciated.
