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Social Circle is something that I have been really trying to "Nail Down" lately and I've noticed a few things about it.
Firstly, escalation windows are so SHORT. Seriously, like shorter than you can say the word short. When you have a girl in social circle that you are trying to pick up and an escalation window presents itself, you have very little time to react and take advantage. For example: Last night I was out on a pub crawl and there was a girl on this pub crawl that is part of my social circle/extended social circle. I've madeout and messed around with this girl a bit back in the day at bars and parties (prior Girlschase) but never escalated to sex. Anyways, she came up to me at some point in the night, while I was standing at the bar and started flirting with me. She was touching me just above my hip while saying: "Hey Rdawg, how have you been? It's been a while since I've seen you.", followed by a little more small talk/compliments for maybe a minute or two and then for her to only walk away.
As you see above, I failed to act quickly and moved to slow, which lead her to just walk away.
However, another escalation window presented itself with this same girl about 20 minutes later. This same girl's best friend was flirting with me and playing with my hair and as soon as she saw her best friend flirting with me, she had to come join and play with my hair as well and flirt with me again. Escalation window presented itself quickly and it closed just as quick as it opened.
I again failed to act quickly. And this process somewhat repeated throughout the night. She would present another escalation window but the more windows she presented, the smaller they got. The escalation window may have started at 2 minutes from the first one she presented, all the way to the last one being maybe a few seconds.
You may be asking me, why aren't I hitting these escalation windows, even if I know there present? Well, social circle game hasn't been something that I have practiced much, at least not until recently were I have been trying to hit it hard. So, when it comes to social circle, I've been thrown off a bit by the whole process of social circle pick up. My issue actually may be a bit of a mindset problem as well.
So, I woke up this morning and thought of sending her a message along the lines of...
However, I went against it based on the instinct of a common response I tend to see to a text like this with girls in social circle or missed escalation windows. If I were to send that message, the response most likely would have been:
Ahh ya.. never a good position to be held in because your being held to a lower standard/value. At some point, if a girl sent a text like this, it practically means she may have held you to a very high standard but you dropped off pretty quick and are just subpar to her now.
So how do you handle a situation like this in social circle? Well, you move on to try and pick up other girls, while hoping to run into that girl again at some point. It's not the worst situation to be in because that girl will technically always be there since she is in your social circle. It's just a matter of running into her again at that party, bar, or social event and capitalizing on that escalation window quickly when it presents itself.
The purpose of this post was to show that when an escalation window presents itself from a girl in social circle, you must begin moving things quickly. The only advantage of a girl in social circle that you are trying to pick up is that if you do miss an escalation window, your more than likely going to get another opportunity at some point, whether that is later in the night or another day. Secondly, the other purpose was to show the type of texts you may receive from girl's if you were to text them after failing to hit those escalation windows from girl's in social circle.
Note: All of this stuff is covered in Peter Fontes and Chase's articles on social circle. It's just nice to see this first hand and break it down from another perspective. Also, I just kind of wanted to add the "text" portion in, if you were to text a girl from social circle after failing to hit escalation windows.
Firstly, escalation windows are so SHORT. Seriously, like shorter than you can say the word short. When you have a girl in social circle that you are trying to pick up and an escalation window presents itself, you have very little time to react and take advantage. For example: Last night I was out on a pub crawl and there was a girl on this pub crawl that is part of my social circle/extended social circle. I've madeout and messed around with this girl a bit back in the day at bars and parties (prior Girlschase) but never escalated to sex. Anyways, she came up to me at some point in the night, while I was standing at the bar and started flirting with me. She was touching me just above my hip while saying: "Hey Rdawg, how have you been? It's been a while since I've seen you.", followed by a little more small talk/compliments for maybe a minute or two and then for her to only walk away.
As you see above, I failed to act quickly and moved to slow, which lead her to just walk away.
However, another escalation window presented itself with this same girl about 20 minutes later. This same girl's best friend was flirting with me and playing with my hair and as soon as she saw her best friend flirting with me, she had to come join and play with my hair as well and flirt with me again. Escalation window presented itself quickly and it closed just as quick as it opened.
I again failed to act quickly. And this process somewhat repeated throughout the night. She would present another escalation window but the more windows she presented, the smaller they got. The escalation window may have started at 2 minutes from the first one she presented, all the way to the last one being maybe a few seconds.
You may be asking me, why aren't I hitting these escalation windows, even if I know there present? Well, social circle game hasn't been something that I have practiced much, at least not until recently were I have been trying to hit it hard. So, when it comes to social circle, I've been thrown off a bit by the whole process of social circle pick up. My issue actually may be a bit of a mindset problem as well.
So, I woke up this morning and thought of sending her a message along the lines of...
"Hey XYZ, it was nice seeing you out last night, let's catch up and grab some drinks!"
However, I went against it based on the instinct of a common response I tend to see to a text like this with girls in social circle or missed escalation windows. If I were to send that message, the response most likely would have been:
The response seems to be common and the underlying message behind it is: "Hey Rdawg, you kind of missed your opportunity already but I still think your attractive and I would probably still fuck you but maybe at a party or bar if we were to run into each other."
Ahh ya.. never a good position to be held in because your being held to a lower standard/value. At some point, if a girl sent a text like this, it practically means she may have held you to a very high standard but you dropped off pretty quick and are just subpar to her now.
So how do you handle a situation like this in social circle? Well, you move on to try and pick up other girls, while hoping to run into that girl again at some point. It's not the worst situation to be in because that girl will technically always be there since she is in your social circle. It's just a matter of running into her again at that party, bar, or social event and capitalizing on that escalation window quickly when it presents itself.
The purpose of this post was to show that when an escalation window presents itself from a girl in social circle, you must begin moving things quickly. The only advantage of a girl in social circle that you are trying to pick up is that if you do miss an escalation window, your more than likely going to get another opportunity at some point, whether that is later in the night or another day. Secondly, the other purpose was to show the type of texts you may receive from girl's if you were to text them after failing to hit those escalation windows from girl's in social circle.
Note: All of this stuff is covered in Peter Fontes and Chase's articles on social circle. It's just nice to see this first hand and break it down from another perspective. Also, I just kind of wanted to add the "text" portion in, if you were to text a girl from social circle after failing to hit escalation windows.
