Does one really need to be very active socially (e.g. attending parties, functions, events, hanging out with friends all the time etc) to be able to attract and retain women? Notwithstanding that this type of lifestyle would be more conducive to increasing opportunities to meet women, if I'm the type of guy who prefers to relax at home rather than be "out and about", how does this impact me with women?
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Hi lls_321
I would say that when you are socially active, like you have mentioned attending parties, functions, events. It is definitely a bigger market to be able to attract women and retain women. It is a great lifestyle, and i feel that a guy should have this kind of lifestyle sometimes, in his life.
You can still get to know women. but sometimes you want to share your life experiences rather than just what you do at work, which is where the social life comes in. Having some friends to hang out to do bowling or pool once a month, this actually makes you more desirable and make people think you are fun.
Zac
lls_321 said:
I would say that when you are socially active, like you have mentioned attending parties, functions, events. It is definitely a bigger market to be able to attract women and retain women. It is a great lifestyle, and i feel that a guy should have this kind of lifestyle sometimes, in his life.
lls_321 said:
You can still get to know women. but sometimes you want to share your life experiences rather than just what you do at work, which is where the social life comes in.
Having some friends to hang out to do bowling or pool once a month, this actually makes you more desirable and make people think you are fun. Zac
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To go one simpler on Zac, I'd say:
1. An active social life increases the number of opportunities you have to meet women greatly, and habituates you to socializing regularly, so it's advised for getting good with women in general and finding the woman you want in particular, but
2. An inactive social life you'll find actually helps you set better early expectations for a relationship, especially if you're not a super-active person by default anyway. See: "How to Start a Relationship with a New Girlfriend"
The suggestion is, get active to find her, and inactive (at least, inactive with HER) while in the early stages of dating her. If you want to get more active with her as the relationship progresses, you're free to do so, but if you're not active by default you'll be fine.
There are some women who NEED lots of activity by nature. That's just how they are. They WILL need you to be very active to be happy in a relationship with you... however, they probably aren't your ideal mates, either. You may be attracted to their energy, but you'll go nuts in a relationship with them. Keep things low key early in a relationship, and any girl who wants something different than you do will screen herself out and won't keep dating you - then, you continue your search for a woman who's truly compatible with the kind of relationship you desire.
Chase
To go one simpler on Zac, I'd say:
1. An active social life increases the number of opportunities you have to meet women greatly, and habituates you to socializing regularly, so it's advised for getting good with women in general and finding the woman you want in particular, but
2. An inactive social life you'll find actually helps you set better early expectations for a relationship, especially if you're not a super-active person by default anyway. See: "How to Start a Relationship with a New Girlfriend"
The suggestion is, get active to find her, and inactive (at least, inactive with HER) while in the early stages of dating her. If you want to get more active with her as the relationship progresses, you're free to do so, but if you're not active by default you'll be fine.
There are some women who NEED lots of activity by nature. That's just how they are. They WILL need you to be very active to be happy in a relationship with you... however, they probably aren't your ideal mates, either. You may be attracted to their energy, but you'll go nuts in a relationship with them. Keep things low key early in a relationship, and any girl who wants something different than you do will screen herself out and won't keep dating you - then, you continue your search for a woman who's truly compatible with the kind of relationship you desire.
Chase
