Social momentum advice

[matthewpoland023]

On days I do well and my outings during day game or interactions in social circle seem to just be flowing naturally, I can see now looking back that I had a great deal of social momentum built up to get there. On the other hand, when I come in cold (several times straight into direct approaches with odd body language, and got blown out painfully), I will get a response not to my liking and shut down. I then stop approaching like a big puss. But if I get rejected after i have built up social momentum, I usually brush it off a lot easier and keep it moving to better interactions. My question is how do I recreate that social momentum often that I need to help me succeed and what are the best ways to do warm up approaches/ build up social momentum. Also, how do I stop this negative feed back loop in my head after the initial approach doesn't go well and keep it moving and persist? Suggestions will be appreciated

 

[Reave Krieger]

Don't start with genuine interest openers but with situationally relevant.

This way you can't really be rejected and still build social momentum. (Though when not warmed up yet, even those openers can lead to people not wanting to talk to you. But then it's not you, it's them!)

e.g.: Ask them for directions or for the time or what race their dog is or just say "Hi!"... You can say anything as long as you say something

Then you can proceed with genuine interest or playful... Whatever you like most!

Another way: You do something very embarrassing at the beginning of an outing. Like dancing in the street (not if you're a pro that is) or howl like a wolf when a lot of people are watching you... Then everything you do afterwards will feel like a breeze.

Keep it up!

 

[matthewpoland023]

Very good advice thanks man I appreciate it.

 

[Lotus]

matthewpoland,

The easiest way to build social momentum is use everyone you interact with during the day. Force yourself to talk to the unattractive girl at the coffee shop, the gay guy serving you lunch, all the way to the fat women checking out your groceries. By the time you see the cute girl you want to ask out you are hot as a coal. She's going to dig your energy and want to take a ride on your pixie stick.

Only approaching and socialize with attractive people is selfish and women can sense it. Expand your horizons and allow everyone to enjoy your energy. Girls will pick up on that as well.

-Lotus

 

[Zoro]

My question is how do I recreate that social momentum often that I need to help me succeed and what are the best ways to do warm up approaches/ build up social momentum./quote]

Lotus said it well.

Think of it as a lifestyle. You aren't "warming up" (even though you are), you are just a social person. You will build social awareness, have awkward situations, have fun interesting conversations, make friends, network, all from just being social. I started focusing on social momentum and found that, yes it did help me approach women, but the best part was connecting with cool people I didn't think could exist.

 

[matthewpoland023]

You guys are cool as fuck thank you. I have a friend who is the most socially adept son of a bitch I have ever met and as a result he is not only a millionaire that never spent a day in college but has pussy on tap. He does everything you are suggesting me and when the time comes to talk to that hot chick it is effortless and on the off chance he does get rejected it is brushed off without a second thought and he laughs it off. Thank you

 

[Zoro]

You guys are cool as fuck thank you. I have a friend who is the most socially adept son of a bitch I have ever met and as a result he is not only a millionaire that never spent a day in college but has pussy on tap. He does everything you are suggesting me and when the time comes to talk to that hot chick it is effortless and on the off chance he does get rejected it is brushed off without a second thought and he laughs it off. Thank you

Sounds like you can learn a lot from that dude. Do whatever he is doing and then teach us lol