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At a cafeteria.
An Asian girl looked at me.
I went to her table.
“Good evening,” I said.
“Hello,” she said with a high pitched voice.
“Hi,” I said.
This was called “maintaining my vibe”
She said, “My friend was about to come back soon.”
A black girl arrived. She was chatting with me right away. Then she asked:
“You guys know each other?”
So it was because I assumed rapport.
“No, he was just come there. I don’t know him,” Asian girl said.
“What’s your name?” I asked the black girl.
“Helena. Nice to meet you,” black girl said.
So I and black girl chatted with each other.
Why? Reward/punishment.
When a girl didn’t want to talk with me, the solution is talking with another girl.
After a while, Asian girl started talking to me.
“You’re going here?” Asian girl said.
“Yeah, I am. You?” I said.
“We work,” said Asian girl.
And I went back to black girl. After a while, Asian girl talked to me again.
She was chasing me.
I answered her, then I went back to black girl.
And then I realized this was the “initial girl problem”
In this case, I went there initially because of the Asian girl. Then the black girl arrived, showing interest, and I switched to black girl.
They knew that.
If I didn’t switch back to Asian girl, I would look indecisive.
I should have rewarded the Asian girl and gradually switching back to her.
Soon enough, they left.
The solution for “initial girl problem” is “reward/punishment”:
– If the original girl is not chasing me, go for the other girl. Like the girls at a concert I met a few week ago.
– If the original girl starts chasing me, gradually switch back to her. Like this girl.
An Asian girl looked at me.
I went to her table.
“Good evening,” I said.
“Hello,” she said with a high pitched voice.
“Hi,” I said.
This was called “maintaining my vibe”
She said, “My friend was about to come back soon.”
A black girl arrived. She was chatting with me right away. Then she asked:
“You guys know each other?”
So it was because I assumed rapport.
“No, he was just come there. I don’t know him,” Asian girl said.
“What’s your name?” I asked the black girl.
“Helena. Nice to meet you,” black girl said.
So I and black girl chatted with each other.
Why? Reward/punishment.
When a girl didn’t want to talk with me, the solution is talking with another girl.
After a while, Asian girl started talking to me.
“You’re going here?” Asian girl said.
“Yeah, I am. You?” I said.
“We work,” said Asian girl.
And I went back to black girl. After a while, Asian girl talked to me again.
She was chasing me.
I answered her, then I went back to black girl.
And then I realized this was the “initial girl problem”
In this case, I went there initially because of the Asian girl. Then the black girl arrived, showing interest, and I switched to black girl.
They knew that.
If I didn’t switch back to Asian girl, I would look indecisive.
I should have rewarded the Asian girl and gradually switching back to her.
Soon enough, they left.
The solution for “initial girl problem” is “reward/punishment”:
– If the original girl is not chasing me, go for the other girl. Like the girls at a concert I met a few week ago.
– If the original girl starts chasing me, gradually switch back to her. Like this girl.
