Social Savant

Average · Mar 20, 2017

Humans are social creatures. Therefore, to be able to flawlessly control social interactions to your benefit, is to be able to control humans as a resource. This journal is to keep track of all of the different social laws which I have remained oblivious over for the last 18 years. The next few years are going to be hard because not only will I have to go through the hurdles of rejection and humiliation, but I must show that they are not getting to me (even though they are) and put on a smiley face in order to display strength and to not give them the satisfaction of seeing me in pain.

Of seeing me weaker than them.

If all goes well, not only will I have learned the lessons which will serve to aid me in building strong relationships and reinforcing existing ones, but I shall become an even stronger man with a powerful resource:

The power of mankind.

Objectives
Long term goals:
To learn how to socialize with a group of people
To learn how to maintain a friendship
To learn how to maintain multiple friendships
To learn how to be an alpha in every relationship
To learn how to provide value in relationships

Short term goal:
To get in a social circle

Average · Mar 29, 2017

Could everybody be friendly?

I have seen many people with many friends. Lots of these people seem to get along well and are already showing signs of the usual aggression that people usually hold back out of lack of fear of social repercussions. It may be possible that social circles are first come first served luxuries which may be harder to obtain as the year progresses (I.e. I should have done this from the beginning of the year).

Nothing that I can think of doing seems the socially acceptable way to approach a group of people and attempt to join them at this stage in time. I may have to do things which are far out of my comfort zone and force my way into a social circle, or completely give up on it for the time being since I’ve got other things to worry about.

Or

I will have to switch up my plan of action. Until I get out of this weird situation with my marks, I shall opt to take it easy and go in low key and just stick to talking to people one on one and to just be as friendly to any and everybody who approaches me. Since it appears that people are inconsistent with the friends that surround them (or I just don’t bother to recognize them) it may be that everybody everywhere is being friendly with one another.

This could be possible because today, when I walked into a class late, everybody had their own groups and to me, it looked like everyone chose to stick with their social circles. As I entered a group, however, it became plain to me that nobody there knew each other, and that everybody was just being friendly to one another.
This evidence suggests that social circles may not be as common as I thought them to be, and that people are just open. But this is a cause for further analysis. I will use this information to give myself confidence to talk to people one at a time and gain friendships individually, and then maybe, I may be able to be accepted into this weird thing called: a social circle.

New short term goal:
Remain friendly but keep a low profile

Average · Apr 2, 2017

Average · Apr 6, 2017

mission approaching failure

Today was the first time in 2017 when I could experience what a proper college day looks like, and for me.....it seems to be antisocial.

Everytime I had a break, I shuffled over to my pad because I had nothing to do. Everybody was either in their own personal social circle, or they were on their way to class.

It is now apparent that social circles in college must consist of classmates since they're the ones whose breaks coincide with my own. But since most of my classmates are already part of their own circles and appeared to have other-ed me (I.e there's an awkwardness whenever I try speaking to em), I don't think social skills will be much of a focus this year.

Even if I do socialize, I probably won't apply as much finesse since I won't care about socializing as much anymore.

PS: I've also noticed that I'm intimidated easily or that I act intimidated as a sign of respect......I'll have to cut that out by maintaining stronger eye contact, straight posture and less movement when talking to people.

New short term goals:
1. Focus more on being a lover and school marks. (Being a social savant will have to be a side effect of it).
2. Maintain stronger eye contact

Average · Apr 6, 2017

Hmmmmmm.......

Ok, looking back on my previous goals, they all seem vague. In the sense that I won't be able to know whether or not I've achieved them or not. Also, I also seem to be jumping from goal to goal. So lemme make a short list of 2 (for now) things I plan on tackling for seven days starting tomorrow.

1. Eye contact. Never break eye contact immediately coz that immediate sense of urgency is usually just social pressure. Only break eye contact:

•After the suggested amount of time by girlschase has passed
•to make sure I don't fall down.
•after lagging the break time. (E.g after somebody looks at me, my first response is to look away, now I'll lag that time by staring at them for 2 seconds and then looking away to the side)

NEVER for any other reason.

2. Classmates: Speak to at least one classmate a day for 5 minutes in an attempt to bridge the gap between me and them. A fun game would be to try and figure out (or give) what it is the person values that I can bring to the table.

Average · Apr 6, 2017

Hmmmmmm.......

Ok, looking back on my previous goals, they all seem vague. In the sense that I won't be able to know whether or not I've achieved them or not. Also, I also seem to be jumping from goal to goal. So lemme make a short list of 2 (for now) things I plan on tackling for seven days starting tomorrow.

1. Eye contact. Never break eye contact immediately coz that immediate sense of urgency is usually just social pressure. Only break eye contact:

•After the suggested amount of time by girlschase has passed
•to make sure I don't fall down.
•after lagging the break time. (E.g after somebody looks at me, my first response is to look away, now I'll lag that time by staring at them for 2 seconds and then looking away to the side)

NEVER for any other reason.

2. Classmates: Speak to at least one classmate a day for 5 minutes in an attempt to bridge the gap between me and them. A fun game would be to try and figure out (or give) what it is the person values that I can bring to the table.

Average · Apr 23, 2017

Watched the dark knight rises. Made me realize two things:

1. The actor who played joker really was a phenomenal actor
2. The joker was a very powerful character, who was like that largely in thanks to his keeping calm during high pressure moments because he knew he'd come out ok.

I'm using the second point to achieve power in any situation. Which means I'll:

1. Stay calm
2. Move slowly (more like I own the room, streets, etc)
3. Eye contact

Average · May 15, 2017

People seem kinda friendly

Its weird how friendly people are when they interact with me. But when I do it, there's an awkward feeling/atmosphere. Is it all in my head?

Average · May 17, 2017

Control the smile

I tend to smile when I'm nervous or feeling awkward. Gonna have to stop that.

Average · May 18, 2017

People don't care

Me failing some courses because of the school's incompetence made me think they'd try to help. But they didn't. Instead they tried to spin the whole thing around to make me look at fault. Which made me realize:

•People don't care
•People want YOU to be the problem no matter what

This should motivate me to

•Rely on my own powers more (except in team situations of course)
•Be weary of self blame, self depression, self negativity, etc

Average · May 21, 2017

Motivation for college gaming

Average · Jan 17, 2018

Socialising trigger places

You should have different social circles for the different places that you'll be in. These places are:

Home
Each class
Gym (unless you enjoy being alone)

There are also places where you won't necessarily be alone, might not have a social circle, but will see somebody regularly who is part of staff and you can be friendly with. These places include

The store
Library
Cafeteria
Admin offices

Pretty much any place with staff really

Try to be friendlier with people and try to remember these social circles as you might not spend all your time with them, you will probably spend the most time with them when in these areas. Even if you tend to talk to everyone

Inowtakethelead · Feb 1, 2018

Re: Socialising trigger places

Ash said:
You should have different social circles for the different places that you'll be in. These places are:

Home
Each class
Gym (unless you enjoy being alone)

There are also places where you won't necessarily be alone, might not have a social circle, but will see somebody regularly who is part of staff and you can be friendly with. These places include

The store
Library
Cafeteria
Admin offices

Pretty much any place with staff really

Try to be friendlier with people and try to remember these social circles as you might not spend all your time with them, you will probably spend the most time with them when in these areas. Even if you tend to talk to everyone

Thanks great posts, i love the joker reference.

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