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I've been logged off for a while to for school reasons (projects, finals), but while studying for Abnormal Psychology I came across something I felt I should post about.
There's a chapter on Sexual Disorders (ranging from hypoactive sex to weird fetishes, and much more) that speaks about disorders of desire. In this it distinguishes desire from arousal and makes an a point that's congruent with a lot of stuff on building fast attraction with women written about on here.
Desire: a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen
Arousal: the action or fact of arousing or being aroused
It makes sense that desire and arousal would often coincide, but the fact that it does more often with women may back up why once displaying the right characteristics to women, they become much easier to take as a lover soon after the moment of their excitement.
This implies that sexual fantasies/thoughts come right along with that building attraction for women.
For example, pre-selection works in this way. A girl sees you engaging in an enjoyable conversation with other women, seemingly desiring you, and as social creatures they now want a taste. Their desire is switched on. Then they probably throw a few signs your way, and you engage. If the cards are played correctly, (you meet the initial expectation - continue displaying fundamentals, lead the direction of the conversation) a minute later you could have the girl turned on, and ready to follow your lead to sex. All the while the desire builds intertwined with arousal, but desire is just the catalyst to arousal, and she can't distinguish this; emotions building the whole time.
Personally, and possibly because of lack of experience, I've found myself either wanting one or the other, or wanting one far more than the other in nearly every interaction with women. The only time this was not the case was with an old girlfriend.
Retrospectively, there's times where I desire to 'get' a girl merely as a trophy to myself of accomplishing the challenge. In fact, I've been with a few women that I flat out dislike their personalities, but wanted to prove to myself I could overcome this and get the cat (ex. hot and bitchy). (Desire up, Arousal down)
Sure, they'd be sexy, but when they open their mouths I'd like nothing more than to leave (stuffing something in their mouth being a more satifying solution), if it went anywhere I'd hardly be aroused until we actually started hooking up. (Desire up, Arousal down) --> (Desire down, arousal up)
In other some cases, if they were attractive enough I'd always find myself hitting them up again even if spending time with them sucked.. I'd get the idea of fucking them and nothing else in my head. (Desire down, Arousal up)
Point being, I feel like I can look back and say: "that was desire, and that was arousal"
Anyways, I had to put studying down for a second to check in on GC, and throw this find in here. I'm sure there's plenty more examples of most men being different than most women when it comes to the duality of desire and arousal.
Keep it real yall
Hueman
I've been logged off for a while to for school reasons (projects, finals), but while studying for Abnormal Psychology I came across something I felt I should post about.
There's a chapter on Sexual Disorders (ranging from hypoactive sex to weird fetishes, and much more) that speaks about disorders of desire. In this it distinguishes desire from arousal and makes an a point that's congruent with a lot of stuff on building fast attraction with women written about on here.
Desire: a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen
Arousal: the action or fact of arousing or being aroused
It makes sense that desire and arousal would often coincide, but the fact that it does more often with women may back up why once displaying the right characteristics to women, they become much easier to take as a lover soon after the moment of their excitement.
This implies that sexual fantasies/thoughts come right along with that building attraction for women.
For example, pre-selection works in this way. A girl sees you engaging in an enjoyable conversation with other women, seemingly desiring you, and as social creatures they now want a taste. Their desire is switched on. Then they probably throw a few signs your way, and you engage. If the cards are played correctly, (you meet the initial expectation - continue displaying fundamentals, lead the direction of the conversation) a minute later you could have the girl turned on, and ready to follow your lead to sex. All the while the desire builds intertwined with arousal, but desire is just the catalyst to arousal, and she can't distinguish this; emotions building the whole time.
Personally, and possibly because of lack of experience, I've found myself either wanting one or the other, or wanting one far more than the other in nearly every interaction with women. The only time this was not the case was with an old girlfriend.
Retrospectively, there's times where I desire to 'get' a girl merely as a trophy to myself of accomplishing the challenge. In fact, I've been with a few women that I flat out dislike their personalities, but wanted to prove to myself I could overcome this and get the cat (ex. hot and bitchy). (Desire up, Arousal down)
Sure, they'd be sexy, but when they open their mouths I'd like nothing more than to leave (stuffing something in their mouth being a more satifying solution), if it went anywhere I'd hardly be aroused until we actually started hooking up. (Desire up, Arousal down) --> (Desire down, arousal up)
In other some cases, if they were attractive enough I'd always find myself hitting them up again even if spending time with them sucked.. I'd get the idea of fucking them and nothing else in my head. (Desire down, Arousal up)
Point being, I feel like I can look back and say: "that was desire, and that was arousal"
Anyways, I had to put studying down for a second to check in on GC, and throw this find in here. I'm sure there's plenty more examples of most men being different than most women when it comes to the duality of desire and arousal.
Keep it real yall
Hueman
