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Last Friday night, I went out, alone, to the bar.
I gave myself a mental relief by affirming that this night is just a 2 hour practice, in which I dont have to make anything happen other than have some fun and talk to some girls.
Also, I had arranged Saturday night outing with my infamous wing
I talked to random girl when I was in a restroom, just to get in that social state.
Then I hit the bar and get a drink. The music is just my taste. I stand there with a smile on my face, feeling the music and sipping my drink.
6 feet from me I noticed a 5 set dancing and having fun. Couple of them were already looking at me, but I was a bit hesitant to approach since, they were actually, with more people, including this one guy, who was hugging and dancing with one of the girls (I think he is just a friend tho).
I had the best looking girl as my target, but she was right next to this guy so, I thought its better to open different girl form the group, and then later get to her if I want. At this point Im not warmed up enough, and its not that big of a bar, so I havent seen a lot of approachable sets.
I gave myself a mental relief by affirming that this night is just a 2 hour practice, in which I dont have to make anything happen other than have some fun and talk to some girls.
Also, I had arranged Saturday night outing with my infamous wing
I talked to random girl when I was in a restroom, just to get in that social state.
Then I hit the bar and get a drink. The music is just my taste. I stand there with a smile on my face, feeling the music and sipping my drink.
6 feet from me I noticed a 5 set dancing and having fun. Couple of them were already looking at me, but I was a bit hesitant to approach since, they were actually, with more people, including this one guy, who was hugging and dancing with one of the girls (I think he is just a friend tho).
I had the best looking girl as my target, but she was right next to this guy so, I thought its better to open different girl form the group, and then later get to her if I want. At this point Im not warmed up enough, and its not that big of a bar, so I havent seen a lot of approachable sets.
I decided to approach the girl that was not that cute at all(blonde), but she was facing me so it was easy for me to see the other girls while I was talking to her.
I open with: I see you guys have a lot of fun and Im gonna join you.
She mumbled something, but not in a dismissive way.
Then I asked about the other girls, and I had found out that they were not together, meaning, this girl (blonde), was with her friend (brunette) that happened to dance and have fun with the girls nearest to her.
I met the brunette, and she was WAY more fun than the blonde, but blonde was a little better looking ( still nowhere near my standards, but I gotta get more experience, not a trophy for pulling the best looking girl in town).
I ran played fuck, marry, kill, 2 lies 1 truth game, qualifying for the blonde, and at some point I was having fun. It was way easier to talked to her friend, and I really befriended her, she was laughing at all my jokes, and in some way helping me with the blonde. But blonde was really not that interesting, but fuck it I was gonna try something ( brunette had a boyfriend, besides she was not pretty).
30 min in I realized that I was not touching her enough, so I randomly, when she was talking, I took her hands to look at her rings.
She complied without resistance, and it was the same from that point on. Her friend made a joke that the number of rings represent the number of boyfriends the blonde has. We called back that joke a million times that night.
I just touched her hands and waist couple of times, and that was if for touching.
Since my target was boring, I tried to challenge her. I noticed that her behavior slightly changed for the better, but that was still not it.
(truth be told, she said that she was in her house the whole day, and that she havent talked to anybody until now, BUT so was I)
her friend was more engaged than the blonde, when I told her that she is way more fun then her friend, she entertained, said that her friend is too, I just gotta get to know her.
I used this to set up the date.
Then her freind moved a bit to dance, letting me to isolate the blonde.
This was kind of uncomofrtable, becasue, you guessed it the blonde was not that fun, but also we got to the infamous sticking point of mine (moving forward, escalating).
I didnt have an intention to kiss her there, becase I felt that a lot of people were watching us, and It was just not the spot in the bar where you should kiss. Frankly, if she was more attractive, I suppose that my thought process would have been different.
Honestly when I write this, I feel like this sounds like excuses, and just now I realized that I could have moved her upstairs, which is actually a great iso place in the bar...
We talked about her 15 boyfirends, and she something like, she has to spend time with each of them, and I said:
You mean to satisfy them (wink)
then I asked her to tell me her body count, and she got a little serious, and said that we dont know each other well enough to tell me.
I think this girl is not sexual at all, but she is sexually inexperineced for sure.
Other then that I dont remeber what we were talking about, but I think that it was something about a date. I couldnt really read her, I think she was confused and didnt know what to expect.
I decided not to try to kiss her and I thought that the date was secured so im good. ( 2 goals for this month were: to go on 2 dates with 2 different girls, and kiss 2 different girls. I was half succesful before that night so I thought that Im just gonna get this girl on a date, kiss her and move on)
I sensed that they are preparing to go home, and I asked her when she is free next week.
She said for the weekend, but I thought, fuck no, Im not gonna waste time with her for that long, especially because I go out then, plus I got a lot of stuff I gotta do on weekends.
I said lets do it Monday or Tuesday, and after her firend (who was ready to leave) whispered something to her, she agreed. I thought that this was just their way to end this and go home, and maybe the date fell through.
After that night we agreed to meet on monday but she was almost half an hour late, so I left. ( she texted me that she was gonna be late when I HAD ALREADY been WAINTING FOR 5 MIN. I thought its ok, but 10 min later, she told me that she is 2 stations away, another 10 min wents by, shes still not there, so I decided to leave.)
Her firend texted me: shame on you
me: shame on me for respecting my own time
her: voice message: you could have oredred a drink and wait for her (in a slightly disappointed way)
I didnt have an intention to kiss her there, becase I felt that a lot of people were watching us, and It was just not the spot in the bar where you should kiss. Frankly, if she was more attractive, I suppose that my thought process would have been different.
Honestly when I write this, I feel like this sounds like excuses, and just now I realized that I could have moved her upstairs, which is actually a great iso place in the bar...
We talked about her 15 boyfirends, and she something like, she has to spend time with each of them, and I said:
You mean to satisfy them (wink)
then I asked her to tell me her body count, and she got a little serious, and said that we dont know each other well enough to tell me.
I think this girl is not sexual at all, but she is sexually inexperineced for sure.
Other then that I dont remeber what we were talking about, but I think that it was something about a date. I couldnt really read her, I think she was confused and didnt know what to expect.
I decided not to try to kiss her and I thought that the date was secured so im good. ( 2 goals for this month were: to go on 2 dates with 2 different girls, and kiss 2 different girls. I was half succesful before that night so I thought that Im just gonna get this girl on a date, kiss her and move on)
I sensed that they are preparing to go home, and I asked her when she is free next week.
She said for the weekend, but I thought, fuck no, Im not gonna waste time with her for that long, especially because I go out then, plus I got a lot of stuff I gotta do on weekends.
I said lets do it Monday or Tuesday, and after her firend (who was ready to leave) whispered something to her, she agreed. I thought that this was just their way to end this and go home, and maybe the date fell through.
After that night we agreed to meet on monday but she was almost half an hour late, so I left. ( she texted me that she was gonna be late when I HAD ALREADY been WAINTING FOR 5 MIN. I thought its ok, but 10 min later, she told me that she is 2 stations away, another 10 min wents by, shes still not there, so I decided to leave.)
Her firend texted me: shame on you
me: shame on me for respecting my own time
her: voice message: you could have oredred a drink and wait for her (in a slightly disappointed way)
Overall I feel like her firend was really rooting for us, but the blonde was too passive.
On my part, I feel like I should have been more decisive, touching and esclating, and trying to kiss her, or at least more flirty.
What do you think?
