Some random thoughts

[Wolfie]

Every now and then I often fall into depression. The reason for my depression is mostly that I haven't handled my "girls" part of the life, the romantic and sexual life.


This is not me asking for help but I wanna have a discussion with someone here why is it happening.


I started with cold approaches but soon gave up because one of the coaches said to me that I don't have the balls to do it, so maybe he was right and another one said that this path is not for you.The bottomline is the cold approach thing doesn't work in the place where I live and I have seen others also not have much success at all.


I had spent quite good amount in coaching and it didn't worked out very well. Chase once mentioned that coaching isn't for everyone. Which I have come to believe is right. I did believe him back then. Plus I also think a virtual coaching has its cons, the coach doesn't understand fully and can't see another person game. Or maybe I just didn't had a proper coach for seduction life ( please don't pm me offering for coaching).


As I spent more time pondering and some help from few members on here I realised that this is because I am a social beginner and I don't know how to make friends or talk to people but then I gave up altogether and went with the flow ( I didn't put in ANY conscious effort or forced myself to talk to people). I realised that most people just open up very easily and I didn't had to put any sort of effort and that went well with girls too ( and I never talked to them with the purpose of fucking them).




I genuinely feel frustrated as to when can I become good. I have spent enough money to learn this and all that seems to go in vain because....... I have had zero pussy to fuck, even if I had some that were not that attractive. And I even lost a fat bitch who was ready to suck my Cock.


What's happening is that I have spent so much time that I have deluded myself into thinking I need a coach or there is some sort of a secret that chase and other authors or people who are good with women have and are not sharing with the world ( this not an accusation)


But here's my question to normal people here especially those who have not taken coaching. How do you do it.


Because now I want to express my personality, find my personality and express it in the context of seduction.

How do you do it without any guidance and coaching? Because coaching has failed for me

 

[fog]

hey, sorry to hear you havent been having good experiences with coaches. i recently took up occasional coaching, last year.

my experiences have been mixed. i did a call with one coach, it was totally awful, he was not helpful at all. i left feeling discouraged. on the other hand, i recently had a very positive coaching experience that helped me break through. the reason why this particular coach was so helpful is because i have been studying and implementing his stuff for years, so it was a natural synergy and understanding there.

doing it alone is a long slow grind...and requires commitment. the way that i handled it when i was newer was to write field reports specifically for these boards so the experts could guide and shape my understanding and experience. i still do write field reports but mostly analyze them myself to make adjustments, create strategic/tactical documentation and of course still talk with experts.

i dont think ive seen too many field reports from you, is there anything stopping you from posting them here on the forum? because it will accelerate you. i would totally help out.