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So I guess I'll just dive in.
I've been obsessed with women like, my whole life? So just about everything I do now comes with the question 'Will that get me more girls?'. I've been reading on meeting girls for ~10 years, and approaching for maybe 5.
I still hardly ever approach girls, which is my biggest 'problem' I guess. But having done an enormous amount of personal development and even some major healing of old wounds. I'm pretty ok with who I am now. In fact, lately I've stopped making myself feel guilty when I'm not 'working', so it seems putting that kind of pressure on myself isn't going to work. But it's only been a couple of weeks, maybe I will continue to guilt myself in the future
I use discipline a lot on myself. I actually enjoy seeing if I can have the self control. Unfortunately I'm way more interested in abstaining from things, rather than making myself take action. For example, I quit fapping in an attempt to force myself to go approach girls, since I am so ridiculously horny. It works pretty good in the way that it gives you a huge amount of energy to work with, also it makes you naturally really social and outgoing, it's kind of like magic. I must restart that one... anyway besides that, it didn't really work to make me do approaches in the way I thought, if you don't use/redirect the energy in other things, and you just get too obsessed with sex, (for me at least) my brain doesn't think I can go and get a girl to fuck on the same day that I am horny as hell. And therefore it didn't work like I hoped in terms of making me go out and approach girls, as the pay-off was perceived as 'sometime in the future' therefore not solving my problem of 'needing to fuck a girl now'.
I'm dating one girl at the moment. I can never seem to get myself to be dating too girls at once. My lazy system seems to stop working as soon as I have one girl. I still approach girls, a little less often than normal, but I seem to get a new girl as soon as the old one goes away. I've had one night stands while dating a girl, but haven't yet gotten to be dating two girls I actually want to date.
I'm pretty into spirituality type stuff, but so far hasn't helped me get laid much. It sort of 'happened' when I broke up with a girl at 23 and thought I'd try to 'hit bottom' fight club style with a lot of alcohol. I guess it worked then huh... I used to say my 'purpose' is to help people evolve spiritually, if you're into that kind of stuff.
I haven't really cracked the approach anxiety thing. I don't even have approach anxiety in night clubs, only during day-game. I'm still pretty lazy about it and rarely go out. I quit drinking for about 3 years and still rarely drink, so I love connecting with girls in the club but don't really enjoy going out drinking much. I basically don't have a social circle, just a few friends scattered around the country, so that's another reason why I don't end up going to the club a lot.
This one girl I'm dating is starting to message me and like me a bit. I'm a bit worried she will fall in love. I broke up with another girl recently who had totally fallen in love. I really think I helped to transform her life and build her confidence so I think it was better that she met me, but even so, not so cool breaking hearts. It's like the most un-fun thing you can do.
I'm about to head overseas for a couple of weeks. Korea. I've been a bit unsure of what to do with myself next, what to focus on. So hopefully some clarity will come from that. And, much more importantly, hopefully I will meet some very cute, very sexy korean girls in korea
I've been obsessed with women like, my whole life? So just about everything I do now comes with the question 'Will that get me more girls?'. I've been reading on meeting girls for ~10 years, and approaching for maybe 5.
I still hardly ever approach girls, which is my biggest 'problem' I guess. But having done an enormous amount of personal development and even some major healing of old wounds. I'm pretty ok with who I am now. In fact, lately I've stopped making myself feel guilty when I'm not 'working', so it seems putting that kind of pressure on myself isn't going to work. But it's only been a couple of weeks, maybe I will continue to guilt myself in the future
I use discipline a lot on myself. I actually enjoy seeing if I can have the self control. Unfortunately I'm way more interested in abstaining from things, rather than making myself take action. For example, I quit fapping in an attempt to force myself to go approach girls, since I am so ridiculously horny. It works pretty good in the way that it gives you a huge amount of energy to work with, also it makes you naturally really social and outgoing, it's kind of like magic. I must restart that one... anyway besides that, it didn't really work to make me do approaches in the way I thought, if you don't use/redirect the energy in other things, and you just get too obsessed with sex, (for me at least) my brain doesn't think I can go and get a girl to fuck on the same day that I am horny as hell. And therefore it didn't work like I hoped in terms of making me go out and approach girls, as the pay-off was perceived as 'sometime in the future' therefore not solving my problem of 'needing to fuck a girl now'.
I'm dating one girl at the moment. I can never seem to get myself to be dating too girls at once. My lazy system seems to stop working as soon as I have one girl. I still approach girls, a little less often than normal, but I seem to get a new girl as soon as the old one goes away. I've had one night stands while dating a girl, but haven't yet gotten to be dating two girls I actually want to date.
I'm pretty into spirituality type stuff, but so far hasn't helped me get laid much. It sort of 'happened' when I broke up with a girl at 23 and thought I'd try to 'hit bottom' fight club style with a lot of alcohol. I guess it worked then huh... I used to say my 'purpose' is to help people evolve spiritually, if you're into that kind of stuff.
I haven't really cracked the approach anxiety thing. I don't even have approach anxiety in night clubs, only during day-game. I'm still pretty lazy about it and rarely go out. I quit drinking for about 3 years and still rarely drink, so I love connecting with girls in the club but don't really enjoy going out drinking much. I basically don't have a social circle, just a few friends scattered around the country, so that's another reason why I don't end up going to the club a lot.
This one girl I'm dating is starting to message me and like me a bit. I'm a bit worried she will fall in love. I broke up with another girl recently who had totally fallen in love. I really think I helped to transform her life and build her confidence so I think it was better that she met me, but even so, not so cool breaking hearts. It's like the most un-fun thing you can do.
I'm about to head overseas for a couple of weeks. Korea. I've been a bit unsure of what to do with myself next, what to focus on. So hopefully some clarity will come from that. And, much more importantly, hopefully I will meet some very cute, very sexy korean girls in korea
