Haha who are you? Dr. Phil? Who made you the judge of what relationships are valid or not? You miss the point about Abundance mentality.
First off, don't take this personal. I don't know what I said pushed your buttons to the point you had to brag about all the girls you have and your looks.
If it makes you feel any better, I'll tell you I'm not that good looking like Vin Diesel or like you, I maybe a 7 if the lighting's right but I just don't care about things like that anymore. A true Alpha male raises above all the petty bullshit like looks and social conditioned labels like Boyfriend, Husband etc that people stick with. Don't get me wrong, I dress to impress but I just don't look for validation from a girl if I'm hot or not. And BTW, I don't mean I'm the Alpha male in any way, maybe that was the impression you took away from my OP that ticked you off. I'm not running for the Mr. Alpha Male title here. Steve Harvey will probably mess things up for me. That term is just the all-encompassing term for describing someone cool in my book. Now, I hope we get the bragging and indirect name calling (there are geeks and tools part....blah blah blah) out of the way. I for one, definitely think shit like this should stay out of this board.
Second, the point that I was trying to make in my OP was, abundance mentality is a given when you believe you are the prize, not the other way around. And with this, I was making a point that that particular logic he (I was surprised to find it wasn't you) came up with it is flawed IMO. The logic that a guy with abundance mentality doesn't need that taken girl and needing her (there is no needs in my book, just wants) or wanting her makes him needy. The deal with this logic is, you are pulling all these assumptions out of somewhere like having abundance mentality meaning
Believing in the ability to get a lot of womensomehow makes you needy when you go for taken girls. So with this logic, you came to the conclusion that all guys who go for taken girls are needy and therefore they don't have abundance mentality. Psyche. Did you see the fallacy in your logic? If the alpha male you are describing is abundant, why limit yourself from banging taken girls? Why does your abundance mentality limits itself when you see a taken chick? Is it because of lack of confidence in yourself that makes you lose your
abundance mentality - ability to fuck loads of chicks when you meet a taken chick? Is it because you believe she's not gonna go for a ford when she has a rolls royce wraith? I don't wanna get personal but something tells me you guys are trying hard with all these logical fallacies not to go for taken chicks. I don't know if it's your socially conditioned upbringing that it's a sin for a man to go for a taken chick. I just can't wrap my head around your thinking.
Haha who are you? Dr. Phil? Who made you the judge of what relationships are valid or not? You miss the point about Abundance mentality.
It doesn't take rocket scientist to tell that something's off in the relationship when you have fucked a taken girl and she doesn't wanna even wanna talk about her boyfriend until later in the morning. I cannot mind read, but I can pick up some cues.
So, to counter these logical fallacies and conclusions that he came up with, I came up with an analogy of two lost souls walking arm in arm but once a stranger gets into this relationship. The girl leaves the guy or at least for the night to have some fun with the new man. I said, if this is the case, that's a pretty good indicator the relationship is not all that, it was just two people wanting to fuck happened to be in the same room. But with the Alpha male, now, it's something different. She's living life, having fun time with this new guy while the old guy just wasn't treating her right. The alpha male (the prize) enhanced her life. Analogy time. You were walking to your college everyday (being single). Suddenly, one day you get a lift from your friend's Honda Civic 1999 (she gets a boyfriend). And then, months later, your friend doesn't pick you up when you needed him. You feel like you're walking somewhere all alone. But once in a while, you do get that lift from your friend with Honda Civic. Hey, you think Honda Civic's all she can get in her life. And...Lightning strikes. Another stranger picks up with his Bugatti Veyron Super Sport(Alpha Male) and says we're going to Vegas. And they ride off into the sunset. Fucked happily ever after.
It's "there are so many girls available to me in my Rolodex that I don't need to focus on taken girls. Let that guy have his girl, I have access to 10 more of my own that are as hot if not hotter." That's abundance mentality.
That let his have that girl part is just what I can't wrap my head around. Why be so dogmatic about it? And why throw all these abstract things like Abundance Mentality up there to see if it sticks to your point of view?
"This chick is cool but I don't need *this* one girl, her pussy isn't any more special than any other girl's pussy." That's abundance mentality.
Reframe time.
Nothing can stop me or the girl that like me from having the time of our lives, not even her boyfriend that doesn't make her feel good. That's Abundance Mentality. My love for women is so abundant, damn, all these boyfriends and husbands, can't top the kind of way I'm making them feel. I have no
Stop putting taken girls on a pedestal. They're taken - move on to the next girl. Abundance.
Damn bro, I'm not putting her on any pedestal. She just won't let me get off her pedestal. I'm telling her, "Hey bitch, go back to your boyfriend, I want to take care of my other girls". Nah, she's not having any of it.
There are so many tools and geeks who read this alpha male stuff and they let it get to their heads. You don't know alpha male.
You only read about alpha male characteristics and hope to emulate some of their mannerisms and try to fool a girl long enough to think you are one. But you're not. If you were standing next to a real alpha male - the kind of alpha that exists everywhere in the animal kingdom, the kind that are on top of their species and all other males fall in line to - you would know it. And if you were to see an actual alpha male with his girl the last thing you would be thinking of is trying to take her from him.
