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Steering conversation for chase framing

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Cro-Magnon Man
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Hey guys,

So I've read the articles on chase framing and being sexy... here come the newbie questions :)

I was on a date this evening with a girl. It went... okay... not bad but could have been better.
I understand the theory of the above articles but I don't seem to have a lot in my arsenal to steer the conversation in the right direction for chase framing or making the conversation more sexy.
When an oppertuinity arrises I am able to use the information at my disposal but I'm not sure how to steer it towards more sexual topics easily.

I hope that makes some sense. How do I steer a conversation in the right direction to set chase frames?
My problem with dates is that I don't do bad. I can sit with a girl for 3 hours and have a good time with her but often it will end a little neutral... as in, it wasn't a BAD date but I know there wasn't a giant spark there as I kept it too safe.

Any advice? Much appreciated.
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Ross

Tribal Elder
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Oh man are there a lot of routes you can take with this. I'll give you a few examples to test out.

There are chase frames that rely on wit and are unpredictable; ones you cannot possibly have happen, because they rely on the girl you are with to make a comment, such as, Her: "I'm craving meat.." You: "Yeah, probably my meat." These flow well with conversation but you can't really plan on them. But you'd be surprised at how many things you can twist into a chase frame. Things as simple as:

Her: "I'm tired"
You: "Your psychological tricks to get me in bed aren't going to work"

Her: "Where are you from?"
You: "Woah. Trying to get into my pants by 'getting to know me'?"

Just try and get into the frame of mind that everything she says is an attempt to sleep with you.

Another method is by imposing the chase frames into conversation. This is typically not very smooth, but if done the right way you can get away with it (like most things..). Also very good for starting out if you just can't wrap your head around using them as reactions.

You: "So, you're from Canada?"
Her: "yeah"
You: "I hear that a lot of girls in Canada just respond, 'yeah' to whatever a guy says just so they can get into his pants. Is that true?"
Her: "No!!"
You: "It's too late to hide it!"
Her: "You're crazy! (smiling, maybe playfully hitting you)"

It's a lot like a line, but lines can work, especially when they include some personal information.

Hope I could help Estate, any further questions/clarifications and I'd be glad to help.
 

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Cro-Magnon Man
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Ross said:
You: "So, you're from Canada?"
Her: "yeah"
You: "I hear that a lot of girls in Canada just respond, 'yeah' to whatever a guy says just so they can get into his pants. Is that true?"
Her: "No!!"
You: "It's too late to hide it!"
Her: "You're crazy! (smiling, maybe playfully hitting you)"

Love this, Ross. I somewhat used this template a lot, and it gets the girl to beat me, and i get away with a lot of things. :)

Zac
 
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