Stopped closing to be exclusive, undecisive, suggestions?

[Tyme2k]

I'll try to keep this to the point.

I stopped trying to get girls in bed as of late for a girl that i really like, I would say borderline in love with. However I have many options, this is definitely not coming from scarcity. The connection I have with this women is amazing and she is tied for the hottest girl I've ever been with(3 girls all with great individual qualities) Our connection is by far the best I've experienced in my 28 years. We are both on the same level to the point where she couldn't handle the fact I would be(was) sleeping with other girls. One night it came out in a drunken rage and she almost got pulled out of the club by a guy bigger, better looking and better at game than me(natural). They lacked what her and I have though and I was easily able to take her back as mine. However we argued for hours and days over this until finally I decided I wanted to be with her and was OK sleeping with only her.

I think my biggest dilema is she is not that great in bed or even at kissing. She will give me amazing blowjobs, but when we have sex I almost get bored, even taking control and fucking her throat I feel there is something lacking. I also have a FB that is ok with me getting with other girls that will do ANYTHING I desire. Sexually her and I go together like PBJ. We can fuck for hours and I feel like the bedroom is 100% under my control. The biggest problem with her is she is only a 7(face, body is an 8-9) and we don't have the connection. Everything is purely physical, but it is the best sex I've ever had.

Now this brings me to tonight and my dilema. Cant hang out with my exclusive girl til maybe Wed evening or maybe as late as Friday and my old FB is begging to do anything I want TONIGHT. I have a feeling that my sexual desire and my desire to game is outweighing the feelings I have for the other woman. I have a feeling if I go to the club with this girl being in her highly sexual presense I wont be able to control myself. I also fear if I don't fulfill her desires I wont get to keep her later down the road. I have hear Tyler from RSD talk about how out of all the girls you get there will be only a few that are GREAT in bed, I have found this to be true myself. So losing a great fuck to me seems just as bad as losing a love.

That said should I fuck her tonight and pretend like I never did, never telling my main and having it blow up in my face when they meet in a night club, or maybe nothing happens and just hide it forever? If we work out there's no regret if we don't also no regret..

Should I fuck her tonight and tell the girl I'm with risking losing her?

Should I bail on her tonight and never fuck her agian and wait out my relationship that probably wont last anyway?

Some insights would be appreciated and maybe share some experience with something similar..

 

[Franco]

Re: Stopped closing to be exclusive, undecisive, suggestions

Tyme,

It sounds to me like you need to sit down and really think about what it is that you want. I believe that everyone knows deep down what it is that they really want, but sometimes they are afraid to admit it to themselves.

A good way to help yourself figure it out is to write out the pros and cons of each girl, and then write out a timeline. Now apply those pros and cons at varied intervals on this timeline... for example, what do you think you will want tonight? What about tomorrow? What about one week from now? One month? One year?

Of the qualities that both of these girls possess, I think you know which ones are the ones that will keep you happy for a longer period of time. For some guys, that could be the amazing sex. That is completely okay.

Personally, "amazing sex" isn't actually something that is of the highest value to me in a girl. I'm generally pretty dominant in the sack, and I really don't care whether the girl is dominant or submissive toward me because I usually get off in the bedroom by seeing her get off anyway (which is something that is exclusive of her abilities or experience in the bedroom). But everyone has their preferences.

Either way, I think you should still continue to practice approaching women for the sake of keeping yourself "high value" and not be gathering rust, but if you've agreed to exclusivity with one of your girls, you might want to be sure that it is actually what you want. If it is, then make sure to tread carefully with the expectations and promises that you make to her. If it isn't, then you need to let her go properly. Don't hurt a girl.

Anyway, I hope this could provide some help.

- Franco

 

[trashKENNUT]

Re: Stopped closing to be exclusive, undecisive, suggestions

Tyme2K,

If you don't mind losing her, then sleep with the other girl. i remember Chase got into a relationship while he was steamrolling girls into bed. i think yours is somewhat like his. It take awhile for momentum to die down. but then again it's your call to slow down the momentum.

Gd luck,
Zac

 

[Tyme2k]

Re: Stopped closing to be exclusive, undecisive, suggestions

Thanks Franco, it means a lot.

I agree about sex and value and the girl I decided to go exclusive with has tons of value that offset her sexual abilities. I think she lacks in this area cause she had a 6 year period where she didn't sleep with her ex husband. Don't get me wrong we have amazing sex, passionate, but it's not as "dirty" as it is with the other girl. Also her vagina is a bit shallower which is uncomfortable for me at times and different positions. I hit that wall and it kills my momentum.

See I KNOW what I really want and it's my cake and eat it too. I want to keep fucking them both and my other fuck buddies too. I cut the others off easily, but this one and my main now is where the dilemma lies.

I want to have my passionate connection and fuck other girls, I wish she was OK with this. Of course I don't want to hurt them, but I'm torn between potentially hurting or fulfilling my wants.

Just got a call from my girl and she was going to stop by my house. I wasn't home which is unfortunate, but she is the sweetest. If I met her 3 years from now I'd probably marry this woman.

Well anyhow I need to show up to this club since I have quite a few girls on my guest list. The FB will be there and I'm going to do my best avoiding sex. Maybe I'll even tell her whats up and tell her we need a break while I figure some shit out, or maybe I'll fuck her brains out..

 

[Franco]

Re: Stopped closing to be exclusive, undecisive, suggestions

I guess the bottom line for my point is to make sure you have some idea of where each of these relationships is going. If you keep going forward recklessly without planning ahead (at least a bit), then you could end up losing both girls simultaneously, or at least lose some of your "control" or "power" you currently have over one or both of those relationships.

Always helps to set your own expectations for the relationships as soon as possible so that you can correctly manage their expectations. If you don't set your own, then you won't be able to manage theirs, and that's where things can get ugly!

- Franco

 

[Tyme2k]

Re: Stopped closing to be exclusive, undecisive, suggestions

Very true kind sir.

Well I made my decision last night, I'm fine with it and don't really want to talk about it anymore. This thread can be deleted, not sure if it offers value to the forum..

Thanks again Franco