Struggling again.

[Estate]

Guys!

I know I seem to be going through Phases lately but this weekend has just been one of the dips.

In terms of social life I've been doing my best to get out there. I've joined a lot of things and approached a lot of people but this weekend something sunk in.
I've made a lot of investment for not as much return. It's becoming frustrating. In theory I've got it, I'm actually meeting people, I'm being the likeable guy, everything goes great... but the follow up? Not much.
No matter how big or small the reaction is from the people I'm meeting, they ultimately have very little interest in meeting new people. Had made plans for this Friday night and everyone bailed... this excuse, that excuse... it doesn't really matter... most bailed because of their girlfriend, others made excuses to stay home wanking.
It's becoming so frustrating... I can put myself out there as much as I like, these things are things you just can't do alone, others have to be in the same boat. I don't know if it's me, them, this city... everyone just seems to have their same school/college circle which they just do not leave or expand... the frustration levels are high right now.

On picking up. I just feel stuck at the moment. Nothing has been happening. Given, I've raised my standards considerably. It's not good enough any more just to get a number, or just to get a date or whatever. She's got to be a girl I WANT. Meeting a girl I am not really into very much is just not a success for me anymore.

Last night was a bust after my friends cancelled. My motivation to go out alone just wasn't there.
I spent 4 hours in town today, the weather was great, lots of people around, I really wanted to meet some people... but nothing. Despite the amount of people around... the number of actually attractive, single girls, around my ages... almost none... I know... such an excuse right? But it's just not a success for me now to ask any random person for directions. It's not good enough, it's not the return I want.
I want to meet and attract the right girls, girls I am really attracted to, but it's just no happeneing.

I feel like I'm not going to the right places, not finding the right people... I seem to be rarely running into girls I really and truely want, and even then, success is limited.
Right now since I've just stopped trying with 6's and 7's etc... my options are just so thin. There's not a lot going on and it's geting to me.

I don't know. Sorry, I know this is a rant but something's not clicking right now again. I'm not feeling I'm getting any returns that I want and need.

 

[Chase]

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When I was first learning, I'd struggle with having a night planned to go out with a friend or two, and then my buddy would cancel and the whole night was derailed. I didn't want to go out alone after planning to go out with a friend... that's a totally different dynamic. I'd been mentally preparing for one, and then whoosh - it's gone.

What I started doing instead was for nights I'd planned to go out with friends, I'd prepare an entire solo night too. The idea was, if my buddy wants to go out, cool, we'll do that; if he doesn't, well, I was planning for him to flake anyway and I'm already ready to go out.

This helped immensely. Eventually I mostly even quit asking pals to go out, and I'd just go out myself and pick up. I realized that the nights I had the most reliable success meeting women were almost always the ones when I went out alone. The times I went out with my friends - even the ones who got laid a lot - we mostly ended up just getting drunk and shooting the breeze, and only uncommonly picked up girls to take home.

If the goal is to get girls, best to go out alone, or at least plan to. If that seems scary, just make sure you start early in the night, when everybody's calm and not drunk and in wild party mode. By the time they reach that mode, you'll own the venue and know half the people there - or you'll already have left, girl in arm.

Chase