Hello friends,
I’ve had some really helpful and eye-opening advice on my last (first) post so since I just had a kinda epiphany I wanted to share it and see if any of you dealt or are dealing with the same kinda thing and how you proceeded with it in the process.
I wasn’t sure how to describe it until I had to give the thread a name and I think that sums up the whole thing.
With a bit more details it looks like this:
Since I am in the beginning stages and it’s still a lot of investment for me dealing with a woman I want to seduce I’ve noticed that I tend to slow down or suppress my ‘I want her’ so to not get too involved.
I rechannel that into learning and focusing on the skill but by that one thing I see is that that pure sexual magnetic thing goes away from my side (because I’m just thinking process) and also because I can’t create that feeling of a romance in me (or better I’m afraid to allow myself to feel that due to the fear of becoming too invested/attached) and thus stop myself somewhere creating it for her.
I know one solution is meeting more girls but I think there is also another part to it. The better I get the less I have to invest (thoughts, calibrations etc.) but to get better and meet more women I feel like I don’t allow myself to put everything into seducing one girl because of the fear it will make me too attached to her.
Not sure if I can bring across what I mean but is there a mindset part/ perspective part to it that can help me or did you guys just go through that phase and at some point I don’t have to worry about it anymore?
Appreciate every advice and hint very much!
Have a great day. Konrad
I’ve had some really helpful and eye-opening advice on my last (first) post so since I just had a kinda epiphany I wanted to share it and see if any of you dealt or are dealing with the same kinda thing and how you proceeded with it in the process.
I wasn’t sure how to describe it until I had to give the thread a name and I think that sums up the whole thing.
With a bit more details it looks like this:
Since I am in the beginning stages and it’s still a lot of investment for me dealing with a woman I want to seduce I’ve noticed that I tend to slow down or suppress my ‘I want her’ so to not get too involved.
I rechannel that into learning and focusing on the skill but by that one thing I see is that that pure sexual magnetic thing goes away from my side (because I’m just thinking process) and also because I can’t create that feeling of a romance in me (or better I’m afraid to allow myself to feel that due to the fear of becoming too invested/attached) and thus stop myself somewhere creating it for her.
I know one solution is meeting more girls but I think there is also another part to it. The better I get the less I have to invest (thoughts, calibrations etc.) but to get better and meet more women I feel like I don’t allow myself to put everything into seducing one girl because of the fear it will make me too attached to her.
Not sure if I can bring across what I mean but is there a mindset part/ perspective part to it that can help me or did you guys just go through that phase and at some point I don’t have to worry about it anymore?
Appreciate every advice and hint very much!
Have a great day. Konrad
