Ten Thousand Rejections

[Saint X]

Hello everybody!

I've already introduced myself some time ago, quite long ago, so let me introduce myself again shortly - Saint_X, 24 years old, a beginner with a bit of experience in the art of seduction. Hi!

Not really a type of a person to post daily, although I said in my journal that I'm gonna stay commited no matter what. I want to show up and admit to being unaccountable and throwing empty words on wind regarding updates of my progression. I felt like I owed that to you, it's quite disappointing to see a newbie hyped-up for a few days promising all that and dissapear suddenly, lol. Especially for those of you that bring a lot of life-changing value, bright insights and field/lay reports - that can't be left alone without big appreciacion. So - sorry I failed to show up and ultimately not let you guys know it is changing another life for better. You are awesome.

Right now, next step for me is... approaching. I believe my fundamentals are well-handled. Last few times, when I went to a nightclub and just sat by the bar sipping a drink, overthinking and pretending that I'm lost in thoughts (lol), one minute later I realized I'm literally swarmed by a lot of girls throwing me signals like crazy, touching me "accidentaly", looking at me, etc., you know the deal. Well, despite that of course I did nothing - stuck in my head thinking how desireable I am... now looking at that, I'm laughing at myself. Being too fixated on fundamentals only, looking cool and nothing else obviously is not effective. Not knowing the language that well to express myself how I want to was a huge excuse as well. I was too scared to approach and make that bubble of feeling high value pop. The lesson - fundamentals good, forget about it, do stuff.

Since my last post, I gathered few expierences. One of them when I was walking through the club, looked at two quite good-looking girls and they instantly showed me harsh hand gestures to go away from them (I didn't even approached them), yet being tipsy and proud I somehow mocked them just a bit, a tiiiny but, and their male friend didn't like it, so confrontated me. I tried to calm things down, yet he didn't want for some reason. Turned out he knew a bouncer... and I got kicked out. LOL! Lesson - don't escalate negative situations, exit gracefully and shrug it off, leaving people in better place if possible. One of better experiences was when I somehow gathered the courage to approach a girl that was dancing around me and it turned out she liked me or used me as a prize to her friends that I was escalating things with her. In short, other her girlfriends were devouring me with their eyes - preselection is very interesting and funny to experience!

Besides that, no lays at all. After taking a break to take care of other things in life, I wondered... what was that, that held me from making things happen? From escalating to bedroom (or to a car)? Wrong mindset? Bad habits? Something was wrong, and I couldn't find the answer, even if I tried to... but today it clicked. It resonated so well I wanted to create a post on the forum.
Fear of rejection. Fear of escalation. A lot of "What, if?"'s. I couldn't get myself to admit to myself that I feared it the most. I was too proud, living in that bubble of being perceived desirable. I was scared to destroy my lovely illusion. I still am, but... where is it going to take me? Not to far.

I left my ego aside and thought to myself... 10000 rejections. It clicked. Strongly. I need to approach and face them. I need to escalate things to the end, and face rejection if there is going to be one.

Therefore, the goal has been created - I want to face 10000 rejections.

Now now... what the hell is even that? 10000 of them? Are you a masochist?

I am aware I'm not gonna reach it. That number only tells me to take massive action despite results. I'm not saying I'm gonna go and literally ask girls to reject me, lol. What I mean is this - approach the right way, escalate things the right way, and if rejection happens (It's going to sooner or later) take it as a win. You did all you could in this interaction with your current experience, take notes and... let your illusion bubble pop. Rejections need to happen, inaction can't be happening.

I'm ready for whatever. Despite that I'm shaking even when I think about facing reality and possible humiliation, there is no other way to progress than to take punches in your face and smile at the end. Bye bye, ego!

There it is. I don't know if I'm going to update, don't want to make empty promises again. Yet, I'm sure if something worthy mentioning happens (and if action is really going to be taken, then it must happen), I'll let you know!

Thanks a lot for reading!

 

[Karea Ricardus D.]

Hi!

Hi!

they instantly showed me harsh hand gestures to go away from them (I didn't even approached them)

The best PUA I've ever talked to had this happen when he was new as well. So it's nothing to get discouraged by at all... It's all about how you come across, which will change with experience, momentum and some stuff you will learn here.

Therefore, the goal has been created - I want to face 10000 rejections.

I am aware I'm not gonna reach it. That number only tells me to take massive action despite results. I'm not saying I'm gonna go and literally ask girls to reject me, lol. What I mean is this - approach the right way, escalate things the right way, and if rejection happens (It's going to sooner or later) take it as a win. You did all you could in this interaction with your current experience, take notes and... let your illusion bubble pop. Rejections need to happen, inaction can't be happening.

Great mindset. You'll go far with this.

Just one comment: Once you get good at opening, you should almost never get rejected on the open:

Why is opening so difficult to master

I find it funny how arguably the easiest part of the mating process to achieve is also the most difficult to master. If you were to plot out seduction in a linear way and tally out each part by # of times done, it’s safe to say that opening would be the most done part. So just by trial and...

www.skilledseducer.com

Unless you're running around opening walking girls with compliments in the street (they call it daygame, I call it "hitting on girls")... but for more on that check my sig.

I'm ready for whatever. Despite that I'm shaking even when I think about facing reality and possible humiliation, there is no other way to progress than to take punches in your face and smile at the end. Bye bye, ego!

Great mindset also. There isn't anybody who got good at this without murdering themselves in field.

"You say you want it. If you really wanted it... you'd be in here, suffering the tortures of the damned with those guys. There's a big difference between being horny and being willing to put in the time night after night after night." - Roger Dodger

Looking forward to hearing about your adventures!

 

[leadingbealwaysido]

Good intuition. It is exactly as you say... Your arrogance and pride came in the way of your purpose.

Isn't it cool to see that you actually just want the attention and the status that comes rather than having a meaningful experience with a girl?

It happened to me too!

And I realized it means nothing to me... I realized I am just delegating my worth to the world outside of me. And when i managed to let go of the infatuation I had by being admired by girls, I came to this realization that what I truly want and dream about is having meaningful experiences and connection with girls. So I let go of the fantasy of being admired by girls and started to work toward my dream.

And as law of attraction would have it, even more girls are admiring me now than before, once i let go of my attachment and ego to it. But now its just part of who I am.

 

[Mr.SocialAcceptableHarem]

Hello everybody!

I've already introduced myself some time ago, quite long ago, so let me introduce myself again shortly - Saint_X, 24 years old, a beginner with a bit of experience in the art of seduction. Hi!

Not really a type of a person to post daily, although I said in my journal that I'm gonna stay commited no matter what. I want to show up and admit to being unaccountable and throwing empty words on wind regarding updates of my progression. I felt like I owed that to you, it's quite disappointing to see a newbie hyped-up for a few days promising all that and dissapear suddenly, lol. Especially for those of you that bring a lot of life-changing value, bright insights and field/lay reports - that can't be left alone without big appreciacion. So - sorry I failed to show up and ultimately not let you guys know it is changing another life for better. You are awesome.

Right now, next step for me is... approaching. I believe my fundamentals are well-handled. Last few times, when I went to a nightclub and just sat by the bar sipping a drink, overthinking and pretending that I'm lost in thoughts (lol), one minute later I realized I'm literally swarmed by a lot of girls throwing me signals like crazy, touching me "accidentaly", looking at me, etc., you know the deal. Well, despite that of course I did nothing - stuck in my head thinking how desireable I am... now looking at that, I'm laughing at myself. Being too fixated on fundamentals only, looking cool and nothing else obviously is not effective. Not knowing the language that well to express myself how I want to was a huge excuse as well. I was too scared to approach and make that bubble of feeling high value pop. The lesson - fundamentals good, forget about it, do stuff.

Since my last post, I gathered few expierences. One of them when I was walking through the club, looked at two quite good-looking girls and they instantly showed me harsh hand gestures to go away from them (I didn't even approached them), yet being tipsy and proud I somehow mocked them just a bit, a tiiiny but, and their male friend didn't like it, so confrontated me. I tried to calm things down, yet he didn't want for some reason. Turned out he knew a bouncer... and I got kicked out. LOL! Lesson - don't escalate negative situations, exit gracefully and shrug it off, leaving people in better place if possible. One of better experiences was when I somehow gathered the courage to approach a girl that was dancing around me and it turned out she liked me or used me as a prize to her friends that I was escalating things with her. In short, other her girlfriends were devouring me with their eyes - preselection is very interesting and funny to experience!

Besides that, no lays at all. After taking a break to take care of other things in life, I wondered... what was that, that held me from making things happen? From escalating to bedroom (or to a car)? Wrong mindset? Bad habits? Something was wrong, and I couldn't find the answer, even if I tried to... but today it clicked. It resonated so well I wanted to create a post on the forum.
Fear of rejection. Fear of escalation. A lot of "What, if?"'s. I couldn't get myself to admit to myself that I feared it the most. I was too proud, living in that bubble of being perceived desirable. I was scared to destroy my lovely illusion. I still am, but... where is it going to take me? Not to far.

I left my ego aside and thought to myself... 10000 rejections. It clicked. Strongly. I need to approach and face them. I need to escalate things to the end, and face rejection if there is going to be one.

Therefore, the goal has been created - I want to face 10000 rejections.

Now now... what the hell is even that? 10000 of them? Are you a masochist?

I am aware I'm not gonna reach it. That number only tells me to take massive action despite results. I'm not saying I'm gonna go and literally ask girls to reject me, lol. What I mean is this - approach the right way, escalate things the right way, and if rejection happens (It's going to sooner or later) take it as a win. You did all you could in this interaction with your current experience, take notes and... let your illusion bubble pop. Rejections need to happen, inaction can't be happening.

I'm ready for whatever. Despite that I'm shaking even when I think about facing reality and possible humiliation, there is no other way to progress than to take punches in your face and smile at the end. Bye bye, ego!

There it is. I don't know if I'm going to update, don't want to make empty promises again. Yet, I'm sure if something worthy mentioning happens (and if action is really going to be taken, then it must happen), I'll let you know!

Thanks a lot for reading!

I would just say prepare for when you get discouraged so you don't give up

The biggest threat to achieving your goal will probably be discouragement

I'm at around 500 approaches and sometimes I think "what is the point" when I'm seeing absolutely no results

My horniness stops me from giving up tho, lol, I just want that next lay so bad, and I believe that this will all pay off If I work hard and work smart

I'd say 1,000 rejections separates the strong from the weak, if you can make it that far, your well on your way to being a skilled seducer

A lot of people give up once the rejections start piling up and they realize this is more work then they thought it would be

As long as your prepared for that moment, you'll be fine

Your friend,

The biggest dick in the house

 

[Gram]

I watched the Sunrun solar salesman at Costco while I downed a slice of pizza. I timed it. Over five minutes he said his line about buying solar over 20 times. Most ignored him outright. Some said "No thanks" and two people said more than "no thanks." Rejection for him was part of the job and he just kept going. Inspiring!

 

[Bill]

Next time you go to a club, try RSD Tyler’s classic six steps, it can help you get some momentum.