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Hey guys so I just had an epiphany and I wanted to get it written down before it gets washed away by the strong current which is my brain.
So here it is. The concept of “shit tests”, or value tests, or tests in general when it comes to seduction have always been one of those terms that was foggy to me.
Most information on seduction i’d been aware of before even reading it just off of personal experience. But shit tests have never been something that resonated with my mind. The only thing I could compare me trying to grasp the concept to is something like being told how to solve a really long really complicated algebra problem.
But while I was on lunch today talking with this girl who’s very attracted to me, she hit me with a polarizing question seemingly out of nowhere.
I’ll fill you guys in on the question later, but once it rang through my ear drums, it was like time froze and my brain was moving really fast. At that moment I was thinking “THIS, THIS IS IT!!”. And immediately came up with a response. She then walked away, came back, and invited me outside away from everyone else.
Now for the question. I am a long haired individual, it is jet black and curly and pairs well with my golden complexion. I wear it in a bun going toward the back. I’ll just say i’m 95% secure in my appearance on most days looks wise excluding fashion etc.
This girl who I was aware had the hots for me but always plays it rather aloof for whatever reason asked me a simple question. “Why do you wear your hair like that?” in a skeptical tone. I realized she was attempting to see how i’d react to the question. This obviously would have flustered anyone who was insecure in their appearance. But not me. So I responded by looking deep into her eyes smiling and saying nothing at all. She the became flustered, walked away, and you know the rest. Eureka!!
It was like finally finding the last word on a crossword puzzle that you’d spent days on. It was like finally finding the answer to a trigonometry question you’d skipped over and came back to 3 times.
I’m not sure why the concept never clicked to me when other people explained it but I get it now atleast a tiny bit. So this leads me to my questions and I need you guy’s help.
Is it safe to say that shit tests are any piece of a woman’s dialogue, that seems like it wants to provoke an unfavorable response? For example in my story was she trying to see if i’d become defensive? If I’d reacted defensively would that have been me failing the test?
And if so, what are the best ways to respond to a woman’s test in order to gain the upper hand in the interaction?
Is expecting to be tested the best way to prepare for tests? Kind of like keeping your guard up around a snaggle tooth kid known for kicking people in the nuts?
These are all the epiphanies I experienced while rolling the interaction around in my head. Let me know if i’m on the right track. I swear the more I focus on girls the more it feels like a game that women play everyday without most men’s conscious knowing. It’s possible I’ve just responded favorably to these tests because i'm generally confident, but I could see myself responding in a distasteful way if they had struck a sensitive chord. I feel so relieved in my ability to handle things going forward because knowing anything is half the battle so i’m told.
So here it is. The concept of “shit tests”, or value tests, or tests in general when it comes to seduction have always been one of those terms that was foggy to me.
Most information on seduction i’d been aware of before even reading it just off of personal experience. But shit tests have never been something that resonated with my mind. The only thing I could compare me trying to grasp the concept to is something like being told how to solve a really long really complicated algebra problem.
But while I was on lunch today talking with this girl who’s very attracted to me, she hit me with a polarizing question seemingly out of nowhere.
I’ll fill you guys in on the question later, but once it rang through my ear drums, it was like time froze and my brain was moving really fast. At that moment I was thinking “THIS, THIS IS IT!!”. And immediately came up with a response. She then walked away, came back, and invited me outside away from everyone else.
Now for the question. I am a long haired individual, it is jet black and curly and pairs well with my golden complexion. I wear it in a bun going toward the back. I’ll just say i’m 95% secure in my appearance on most days looks wise excluding fashion etc.
This girl who I was aware had the hots for me but always plays it rather aloof for whatever reason asked me a simple question. “Why do you wear your hair like that?” in a skeptical tone. I realized she was attempting to see how i’d react to the question. This obviously would have flustered anyone who was insecure in their appearance. But not me. So I responded by looking deep into her eyes smiling and saying nothing at all. She the became flustered, walked away, and you know the rest. Eureka!!
It was like finally finding the last word on a crossword puzzle that you’d spent days on. It was like finally finding the answer to a trigonometry question you’d skipped over and came back to 3 times.
I’m not sure why the concept never clicked to me when other people explained it but I get it now atleast a tiny bit. So this leads me to my questions and I need you guy’s help.
Is it safe to say that shit tests are any piece of a woman’s dialogue, that seems like it wants to provoke an unfavorable response? For example in my story was she trying to see if i’d become defensive? If I’d reacted defensively would that have been me failing the test?
And if so, what are the best ways to respond to a woman’s test in order to gain the upper hand in the interaction?
Is expecting to be tested the best way to prepare for tests? Kind of like keeping your guard up around a snaggle tooth kid known for kicking people in the nuts?
These are all the epiphanies I experienced while rolling the interaction around in my head. Let me know if i’m on the right track. I swear the more I focus on girls the more it feels like a game that women play everyday without most men’s conscious knowing. It’s possible I’ve just responded favorably to these tests because i'm generally confident, but I could see myself responding in a distasteful way if they had struck a sensitive chord. I feel so relieved in my ability to handle things going forward because knowing anything is half the battle so i’m told.
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