Text shit test could use help

[StrayDog]

Hey guys. I could use help with this text shit test. I met this HB and we went on a date. There was some good chemistry but it didn't quite pick up steam. She was really hot on me and I think it sent her into a bit of auto reject. She mentioned she is new to town and open to finding a casual sex partner. We have been texting and it has been going mostly well but I texted her recently saying
"Hey blue eyes"
I guess her eyes are actually more grey green and she is making a stink about it. She is I like
" I don't think this should continue If you can't see the real me"

Any thoughts on how I can respond. I am pretty sure this things will really pick up steam

 

[Warped Mindless]

Silence is better than most witty remarks. When women do that to me I just go radio silent for a while and then text back when I feel like it. That said, waiting to long will make the flame die out.

But also since she’s looking for casual sex you can take a more direct route and text her “come show me the real you *wink emoji*”

 

[Skills]

Hey guys. I could use help with this text shit test. I met this HB and we went on a date. There was some good chemistry but it didn't quite pick up steam. She was really hot on me and I think it sent her into a bit of auto reject. She mentioned she is new to town and open to finding a casual sex partner. We have been texting and it has been going mostly well but I texted her recently saying
"Hey blue eyes"
I guess her eyes are actually more grey green and she is making a stink about it. She is I like
" I don't think this should continue If you can't see the real me"

Any thoughts on how I can respond. I am pretty sure this things will really pick up steam

send her a ?

 

[StrayDog]

just re read her text. It actually said "I don't think you see who I am as a person" because I got the eye color wrong. Similar gist, but different wording. and wording counts for a lot in texts. If I take @Warped Mindless approach, I might have to find some different wording. The concept is nice though. i reframe things in a low-effort way and am still closing in the face of her absurd assertion.

send her a ?

Any way. What would "?" accomplish? I get that it is low investment but I am curious,what it implies

 

[Skills]

Any way. What would "?" accomplish? I get that it is low investment but I am curious,what it implies

subcommunication is you don't understand her text(since is ridiculous) you are confused, for her to explain herself, once she does address her issue....

?


^ if she does not respond, "can you elaborate on that?"

if she says: my eyes are actually pink

oh my bad, let me try again hey pink eye!

and cont the things like normal....

Strategic position of weakness

There are some possible strategic position of TEMPORARY weakness that may be perceived as beta, weak, needy, chasing... But in reality they are not if it will give you another chance with an OBVIOUS lost opportunity... The main one that comes to mind is apologies but there are many such as...

www.skilledseducer.com

 

[StrayDog]

Well, pretty sure this one is dead in the water. Used both methods @Warped Mindless and @Skills offered. Slowly veered the conversation in another direction with @Warped Mindless method but then when I changed the subject she literally brought it right up again and was insistent. So I switch to @Skills strategic weakness and say "my bad. We'll do this again. Hey Green eyes" she insists ya too late. I am pretty sure I sent her too far into auto reject after four first date and just did poor at recovering. Thanks anyway guys.

 

[Zoro]

"my bad. We'll do this again. Hey Green eyes"

"My bad. Hey Green Eyes." I think shorter is better. The frame is "anyways, I was about to say..."

"actually I appreciate your personality immensely that's why I enjoyed your company" - Thoughts on that guys? That's how I would handle it in person, over text I would be at a loss.

 

[foggy]

she gave you an objection as soon as there was a misunderstanding. an opportunity for her to express how she's been feeling about you lately

rather than handling the objection, you ignored it.

and when it came up again, you took it as literally being about her eyes, and not her feelings.

next time, would be better to figure out the deeper root of the objection and explore her emotional concern with her.

 

[Rakehell]

A bit late to the party but I personally try not to comment on obvious stuff that she has no control over. Unless I know it’s an insecurity of hers that may get in the way (like a tall girls height).

Eye color is one of those things that people with them tend to hear about all the time. Even if they may not like their eye color personally.

But i’m gonna agree with @fog and say this probably had nothing to do with her eye color at all.

In my opinion she expected to hear something more qualifying after you two went on the date, and she may have felt hey *eye color* was kind of generic/not tailored to her.

In addition to that nothing happened on the date despite her feeling hot for you.

Speaking in retrospect here but maybe this could’ve been saved with more vulnerability/showing u paid attention after her objection.

For examples sake lets say your girls name is kelly. A librarian who rides motorcyles and cliff dives on the side

“which kelly? the kelly who reads romance novels and has a crush on edward from twilight? or the kelly who jumps off cliffs and rides her motorcycle home to tell the story?

I think both are pretty cool”

Play on her insecurity of being a book nerd, and gas up the cool parts of her life.

This goes against most pua advice and looks nice guy, but it’s a seductive way to empower her connection to you and show that you see her as a person.

Keeping us in the game a bit longer.

 

[Skills]

Well, pretty sure this one is dead in the water. Used both methods @Warped Mindless and @Skills offered. Slowly veered the conversation in another direction with @Warped Mindless method but then when I changed the subject she literally brought it right up again and was insistent. So I switch to @Skills strategic weakness and say "my bad. We'll do this again. Hey Green eyes" she insists ya too late. I am pretty sure I sent her too far into auto reject after four first date and just did poor at recovering. Thanks anyway guys.

Bro this is the problem i have with helping guys and why i am probably go private next time one advice or the other as fog said and why i specifically gave u a post, the point was not the eyes my example was with the goal of not typing a block of text, my point was @fog says to find out and adress the objection along with an apology....

P s. You still can do this an save it... post screen shots

 

[StrayDog]

Thanks for the advice guys and I hear you saying I can save this, but I definitely sent too many dumb texts on this one (I guarantee it) I would be extremely surprised to hear from this girl again. @Skills I hear you, if the offer still stands next time I will DM you, appreciate it tons.

I am gonna be honest with you guys. I have been a bit withholding on the boards in general with my field reports and shortcomings. There are some bigger-picture challenges I won't get too into, but I have been in a bit rock and a hard place with my career and it has left me in a smaller city that has really run its course. I don't always have the most opportunities to practice game. Sometimes it is weeks before I even see a girl worth approaching (that I haven't already ;P ). I do well enough for myself, that I rarely go without female company in my life (yes I mean sexually), but I have been especially inconsistent in attracting the quality of women I would like to date. It's like I am good enough to get by, and that gets in my own way. I often try to go at it alone, instead of coming on here looking for specific advice.

All of this is to say that I am going to be more committed to sharing my challenges, here on the forum, so I can actually level up.

 

[happynanako]

Girls are free in general, she can spend the whole day texting you. Think you caught the big fish but in fact you got nothing other than a waste of time.

 

[StrayDog]

Girls are free in general, she can spend the whole day texting you. Think you caught the big fish but in fact you got nothing other than a waste of time.

I don't see it as a waste of time. Just an opportunity to learn and sharpen the skills. And in terms of catching the "big fish", naw she's just another girl. Plenty more like her. Plenty I've already dated, and plenty more to come

 

[happynanako]

I don't see it as a waste of time. Just an opportunity to learn and sharpen the skills. And in terms of catching the "big fish", naw she's just another girl. Plenty more like her. Plenty I've already dated, and plenty more to come

Well, if you have 10 - 20 girls that you're texting and meeting on hand then this is fine. If you're just texting 2 - 3 and this is in your list. I must still say it's a waste of time.

 

[Skills]

I don't see it as a waste of time. Just an opportunity to learn and sharpen the skills. And in terms of catching the "big fish", naw she's just another girl. Plenty more like her. Plenty I've already dated, and plenty more to come

Correct ignore negativity, guarantee u, you have more experience than that dude..