Thanks
@uriel
I'll add that to my infield criteria to make sure numbers are more solid,
but imo most of my approaches seem to follow these. maybe seem isn't good enough in fact probably isn't, but here's a pretty accurate sample of what I run into and my current level.
HBEastAfrican (Last Monday) 40-50 minute interaction(?) Something about africans and having dat ass. Well I hope so because it was hard to tell with her jacket. She had a very nice shape though. What I looked like sort of. Rough draft of what I was wearing Red sweater fit (Close to this)...
www.skilledseducer.com
HBHorsehips is a pretty good example of my sets then the "texts" after. Real number too haven't talked to her further nor tried to bump into her. No response or sign of a heartbeat. (Also will add most my numbers are daygame.)
This has been enlightening, but I'm still sort of thrown for a loop tbh...
Well, I’ve gotta say
@Mist22, you are certainly doing pretty good.
I like your overall vibe, the fact that you are just out getting some fun and how it is easy for you to open girls. You’re on the right track.
You’re doing a lot of good things, the only bad one that is painfully obvious to me is that YOU ARE NOT SEEDING THE DATE PROPERLY.
Most of your interactions run perfectly until you have to leave, in that moment you ask the girl for her number which she often gives.
Then, once you have her number you go for a “coffee date” ask that feels out of the blue and hurried to the girl.
This is bad form on four levels:
- First, you are pushing for a date form that she may not like.
- Second, because you’re leaving, it feels hurried.
- Third, you go for a double compliance request in succession (“Number it’s cool, then he asks for a date too?! It’s too fast!!”)
- Fourth, you kill your intrigue. (When she gives her number, she doesn’t know what’s going to happen and it excites her… 5 seconds later, she knows it’s a coffee date… there goes the mistery).
You have three options here:
1) Seed the idea of the date during your conversation way before it ends.
For example, you can mention how you love coffee or how it brings all the craziness in you, then ask if she is into coffee. If she says yes, you can say “I know the best coffee place, it’s a super fun place, you wouldn’t believe the coffee is so good. I have to take you there” or something like that.
If she doesn’t show interest on coffee or in that kind of date, you seed something different.
“You really haven’t watched Titanic?? OMG, I can’t let this pass, I have to get you to watch it. It’s for your own good.”
Once you hit something she is excited for, then when you leave, you can ask for the number and it will be a much smaller and reasonable request…. because she already bought in the date.
Also, this could uncover if she has a bf
She may offer this information when you suggest a date and now you have time to probe if the bf thing is really a dealbreaker instead of waiting for the end of the interaction.
read this:
It's easier to get a girl to agree to a date or to go to your place if what you suggest feels familiar to her. But how do you trigger that feeling of familiarity? By seeding your suggestion first. Recently I spoke with a friend who's back in the field after some time off, trying to shake off the...
www.girlschase.com
2) Option 2 is to propose an instadate instead of asking her number.
You would still need to seed the date and have the logistics in order.
3) The last option is just get the number but don’t ask for a date yet.
Leave some mystery open and invite over message or a call.
At the very least you should see your girls being warmer than before because you’re not leaving them in a confused hurried state.
