Texting: What should I do after I've proposed a time for date and girl says she can't make it at that time?

[Merchant's-Kin]

Hi guys, based on Ricardus's article on minimalist texting, the results I've been getting so far are quite good,

However, there are situations I've run into where I send a text like the one in the article:

"Meet me at (location)... Say (Timing: For example: 2pm)?"

and then she says she can't make it at that time, what would be a good follow-up text to send in that case?

Generally, before suggesting the meet, I would text the girl "What's ur schedule like next week?"
And she'll give some information on a rough timing that is good such as "I'm off on Sunday" or "I'm meeting a friend Saturday afternoon"
But sometimes I suggest a time when she didn't explicitly say she can't make it, and I don't know what to text her following that

Should I ask her what other day she's free? Does that sound like too much chasing?

Would appreciate ideas from anyone
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[Fluxcapacitor]

@Merchant's-Kin dude! Ask her what times good or work with what she gives you.

Her: I'm meeting a friend Saturday afternoon
You: That's cool, when are you free? We can grab those drinks we talked about

Her: I'm free Sunday
You: cool what times best for you? We'll go for that ice cream/we'll grab drinks food or whatever

Her: I'm free Monday night
You: that's good for me, say meet at X at 9?
If she can't..
Her: I can't make 9
You: no problem, what times best?/ what times good? / what time can you make?

If she proposes a shit time tell her you can't make it and schedule another day.

Her: I'm free Wednesday
You: I can't make Wednesday, what other days are good for you?

If you don't find out the availability you can't plan around it. Open questions are better than are you free Monday? Are you free Tuesday? Excellent, are you free at 2? Maybe 3? How about 4? ... just ask what time is good, if she tells you it's a good time she's less likely to cancel or flake dude.

 

[ulrich]

Chasing is not an objective value, it is subjective to the context.
What chasing is is putting a higher effort than the girl you are trying to seduce.

In text, you only need to write less than the girl you’re talking to.
As long as you’re putting 40% or less of the words and she is putting 60% or more, you are not chasing.

I’m pretty sure that Ricardus’ minimalist approach is to encourage more guys to write less because most guys chase hard over text.
But sacrificing logistics is taking it too far and actually shooting yourself in the foot.

 

[Merchant's-Kin]

@Merchant's-Kin dude! Ask her what times good or work with what she gives you.

Her: I'm meeting a friend Saturday afternoon
You: That's cool, when are you free? We can grab those drinks we talked about

Her: I'm free Sunday
You: cool what times best for you? We'll go for that ice cream/we'll grab drinks food or whatever

Her: I'm free Monday night
You: that's good for me, say meet at X at 9?
If she can't..
Her: I can't make 9
You: no problem, what times best?/ what times good? / what time can you make?

If she proposes a shit time tell her you can't make it and schedule another day.

Her: I'm free Wednesday
You: I can't make Wednesday, what other days are good for you?

If you don't find out the availability you can't plan around it. Open questions are better than are you free Monday? Are you free Tuesday? Excellent, are you free at 2? Maybe 3? How about 4? ... just ask what time is good, if she tells you it's a good time she's less likely to cancel or flake dude.

Thanks @Fluxcapacitor ! I understand now I'll figure out the availability first then.

Chasing is not an objective value, it is subjective to the context.
What chasing is is putting a higher effort than the girl you are trying to seduce.

In text, you only need to write less than the girl you’re talking to.
As long as you’re putting 40% or less of the words and she is putting 60% or more, you are not chasing.

I’m pretty sure that Ricardus’ minimalist approach is to encourage more guys to write less because most guys chase hard over text.
But sacrificing logistics is taking it too far and actually shooting yourself in the foot.

Thanks @uriel ! 40-60 sounds like a good balance. Alright logistics first, text volume second.