Texting with a Total 10

[theprize]

I've been on 3 dates recently with this woman that I met online. She's been very into me in person, and even ended our last date by pulling me in for a makeout session, right in front of a bunch of other people. We haven't seen each other in over a week, and the text conversation has gotten really weird. I would normally walk away, but she's a smoking hot 10 and I actually enjoyed her company on the last date. So I thought I should get your opinion before calling it quits.
Is it ok for me to post our recent text conversation here to get feedback? I won't include any names or other identifying info about her.

 

[zeroman2]

First thing you should have moved fast on her. And try to sleep with her on the first date (second at most). The fact that she's pulling you to make out is a sign that she's ready to move fast. That can be a reason relationship kind of died down.

Second yes seeing what she said over text could help us out with your problem.

 

[theprize]

Ok here's every text since the 3rd date.

05/17 11PM me: I enjoyed kissing you tonight. We should do more of it *sunglasses emoji*
05/17 11PM me: Let me know if you're able to come. [date & location] (When we said goodbye she asked me what I was doing tomorrow morn. I told her I was going to a volunteer event. She asked me to send her the details and she might come.)
05/17 11PM her: I had a nice time, thanks for me inviting me out! Will let you know in the morning, It's been a long week *wave*
05/18 830AM her: Good morning! *sun* I'm not going to make it, I really need to do some other things today. Let me know how it goes!
05/18 9AM me: Sure, have fun this weekend (I had already told her I wasn't available the rest of the weekend)
05/18 9AM me: Enjoy your week in Detroit (she told me her job was sending her to Detroit next week)
05/18 930AM her: Thanks, I'm really looking forward to it *smile* I'll send pics *thumbs up*
05/18 12PM me: Yes *smile*
05/21 7PM me: How's Detroit treating you?
05/21 1030PM her: Pretty good. Long day, getting under the covers now in my hotel *sleep*
05/21 1030PM her: [pic of scene taken from the plane] (this was the only pic she sent)
05/22 830AM me: Very nice pic. When are you back?
05/22 530PM her: Friday *wave*
05/22 730PM me: Cool. What's your schedule like this weekend? (this is the first text she never responded to)
05/23 8PM me: Hey hope your week's going great. What's your availability this weekend?
05/24 1PM her: Hi Dave, my week is going well. Just got back from Detroit. Weekend plans are to clean my house and buy some furniture *wave* How about you? (this is the first time she used my name in a text)
05/24 3PM me: Good thing to have. I'm going to a pool party this weekend, going to enjoy fun times around the pool *sun*
05/24 3PM me: I wouldn't mind having you along *sunglasses*
05/24 5PM her: Oh cool, when is the pool party?
05/24 6PM me: Sunday
05/24 7PM her: I'm free in the late afternoon. What time is it at?
05/24 715PM me: Great. It starts at 4 and goes till whenever (she didn't actually confirm so I wasn't sure if she was a yes)
05/26 11AM me: Hey can you take a call now? (I wanted to have her come over to my house and drive the last mile together so she could get comfortable with the idea of being in my house. I wanted to say it over the phone because it would be hard to say as a text)
05/26 10PM me: The ladies were sad you couldn't make it to the party. Happy Memorial Day (I was obviously pretty unhappy that she stood me up. I thought about writing her off, but decided to send this because what the hell)
05/26 1030PM her: Hi there! Sorry, I've been tied up. I wish I could've made it. Hope you enjoyed it *smile* (it's hard to imagine her being this friendly if she's uninterested, but zero explanation for why she stood me up and no attempt to schedule something later really makes me feel like walking away)
05/26 11PM me: No worries (I've been playing the text game pretty chill the whole time, and I haven't called her out on bad behavior. I feel like nothing good ever happens when you do)


And that was 12 hours ago. Here's a couple other thoughts.
She's been VERY slow responding to texts from the start. And she NEVER texts first. Only to respond to me. Seems like a classic hard to get move. I've been playing it pretty chill the whole time.
We haven't sexted at all. I told her after 2 dates that I enjoyed kissing her. She didn't respond to it either time so I didn't escalate.
I don't use text to chat, only to arrange plans. I've had too many bad experiences trying to do so, and I would rather chat in person.
On the 3rd date I kissed her a few times, and put my arm around her. She leaned into it. At the end of the date, she pulled me in for a makeout session. I asked her if she'd like to come home with me, but she said she wasn't ready because she doesn't know me well enough yet.
We met online, and the site tells me how recently she has been on the site without opening her profile. I did check, because I'm lame like that. She was on it every night while in Detroit. She logged in Sat afternoon but not again until Mon. Maybe she went out with other guys Sat and Sunday.
If we met IRL I would think she's playing hard to get, but she's a total 10 using a dating site. She could easily meet someone else anytime and decide she's interested in him.

 

[zeroman2]

There a lot to unpacked so lets get started

1. You should really look up Articles on how to text a girl on Girl Chase that would really help. But Basically you should only use text to set up dates and meet ups and make them as short as possible.

Also if you feeling sad or angry she stood you up DON'T SHOW IT ON THE TEXT.

Its okay to feel that way just don't show that emotion to her over text its a turn off.

2. On the 3rd date she was giving you some resistance. What you should have done was try to Persist. Also you should have frame that better like "Do you want to come over to talk some more" "I have a great music at my house would you like to listen to it for a few minutes." etc. Just straight up asking her to come over is going to Trigger her anti - slut defense.

3. Your coming across as needy and your putting her on a pedestal. Saying things like " she a 10 and she could have any guy she wants". Don't ever do that. When it comes to game you have to realize that your the prize that ever women wants. Yes you want girls but at the same time you don't need girls to have a fulfilling life.

4. Also yes she most likely is talking to other guys. Unless you guys are and official couple she is going to look at her other options (that why we tell you to move fast).

My Suggestion for you is try to get her in bed one last time. If it doesn't work move on from her because how it sounds she slowly starting to more on from you

One last thing, why should it matter if she is a "10" and she using online dating. Women are just like everybody else with passion and desires. So even if its Night-Game, Day-Game, Online, or Social Circles women are going to get theirs no matter what. So it really shouldn't matter if she using online dating or not.

 

[foggy]

call it quits bro. you moved too slow to begin with, but the texting was the nail in the coffin.

if i didnt know it was a girl, i would have assumed the text convo was two males talking. its that platonic!

the other texting mistakes that were made include getting into small talk territory, overinvesting, and texting unnecessarily. although the texting unnecessarily is part of a bigger problem that you have, maintaining conversational tension to keep her engaged. shes leaving you on read, and it gets you wondering, right? you should be the one doing that to girls - try this out - just disappear for a few days the next time youre having an amazing convo over text with a girl, then reappear.

 

[theprize]

call it quits bro. you moved too slow to begin with, but the texting was the nail in the coffin.

if i didnt know it was a girl, i would have assumed the text convo was two males talking. its that platonic!

the other texting mistakes that were made include getting into small talk territory, overinvesting, and texting unnecessarily. although the texting unnecessarily is part of a bigger problem that you have, maintaining conversational tension to keep her engaged. shes leaving you on read, and it gets you wondering, right? you should be the one doing that to girls - try this out - just disappear for a few days the next time youre having an amazing convo over text with a girl, then reappear.

Thanks for that insight. Can you point out some examples where we got into small talk and texting unnecessarily? Understanding that would help me avoid it next time.

 

[theprize]

Well, it's definitely over. Here was our last exchange.

05/29 7PM me: Hey I was just thinking about you. Hope you're having a great week
05/29 10PM her: Hi Dave I'm having a pretty good week. You?
05/29 11PM me: Really good, I actually performed in front of some friends tonight. You game to do something fun this weekend?
05/30 10AM her: I'm having flooring installed in my house so I won't be free. My schedule has been insanely full lately *sweat emoji* That's cool you did it, was it all you thought it would be? *smile*
05/30 11PM me: I noticed haha

If she's using a floor as an excuse, I'm walking away. Next.

 

[foggy]

call it quits bro. you moved too slow to begin with, but the texting was the nail in the coffin.

if i didnt know it was a girl, i would have assumed the text convo was two males talking. its that platonic!

the other texting mistakes that were made include getting into small talk territory, overinvesting, and texting unnecessarily. although the texting unnecessarily is part of a bigger problem that you have, maintaining conversational tension to keep her engaged. shes leaving you on read, and it gets you wondering, right? you should be the one doing that to girls - try this out - just disappear for a few days the next time youre having an amazing convo over text with a girl, then reappear.

Thanks for that insight. Can you point out some examples where we got into small talk and texting unnecessarily? Understanding that would help me avoid it next time.

the whole conversation is super small talk-y. these lines:

Hey hope your week's going great.
Hope you're having a great week
Enjoy your week in Detroit
How's Detroit treating you?
Happy Memorial Day

...are just filler sentences that don’t move the conversation forward in any way or accomplish anything. Use those opportunities to be more polarizing. If that were me I would have said something like, “how many felonies did you commit in detroit so far?”

05/18 830AM her: Good morning! *sun* I'm not going to make it, I really need to do some other things today. Let me know how it goes!
05/18 9AM me: Sure, have fun this weekend (I had already told her I wasn't available the rest of the weekend)
05/18 9AM me: Enjoy your week in Detroit (she told me her job was sending her to Detroit next week)
05/18 930AM her: Thanks, I'm really looking forward to it *smile* I'll send pics *thumbs up*
05/18 12PM me: Yes *smile*

Two different types of unnecessary texting. First, you’re saying goodbye. I avoid saying goodbye to girls over text because it doesn’t accomplish anything and is always a tension killer.

Second, you didn’t need to answer the bolded text. She won’t reply to it. No point in texting a girl something she wont reply to in this case.

Try randomly not replying to your text conversations for a few days without saying goodbye, more often than not. Imagine when she said “let me know how it goes,” you just fucked off? She’d wonder where you went.