Hi,
First of all, I want to say thank you. I've been reading articles since 2013 and I'm a better man for it. Not just regarding women. But in general, my career, everything is going really well the day I decided to be a better man.
Now I've been dating girls for a long time with a high success rate of getting sex, however after the lay, I usually go to the next lay, as I grew as a person I felt that the girls I was getting in my bed were not of the standard that I would consider for a long term relationship. I've learned to value my self/my time and raised my standards a_lot when it comes to long term dating.
I'll try to give some back ground info so that you have the full picture.
I've met this girl online, as I do like to play some video games every now and then. I was trolling a bit and the girl found it very funny, added me as a friend and we ended up gaming and talking together. Turns out she lives in the same city as I do. Now we did not meet for a while as my job requires me to travel weekly, and only after 3 weeks did I manage to find a slot for meeting her. During these 3 weeks I kept texting to the bare minimum, however I would play games with her on the laptop when in my hotel, but I would just banter no real serious conversations. I've had her in tears of laugher a couple of times while playing games online. She in the mean while had found me on LinkedIn, read some articles I have published online, followed me on social media and googled me etc. (she was honest about these things), which to me showed she was quite invested.
I made a joke once, trying to be sexual, she did not really appreciate it and called me out on it: Saying, please don't give me the feeling you just want fuck me, as that's not what I'm looking for. Regardless I recovered and we met up.
We had a great date, went to an arcade hall. Had a drink afterwards with chicken nuggets. She would touch, hold my hand and even feed me the nuggets. I dropped her at home (and for god knows for what ever reason, in the back of my head it was, dont give her the you want to fuck her vibe) I hesitated and gave her a kiss on the cheek instead of her mouth. I noticed a little bit of disappointment there, and I realized I just missed an escalation window.
I went home, she texted me thank you for a good time sleep tight. Next day in the evening, I got her to download a different game and play with me as I like this game. She found the game difficult, kept dying (it was a shooter) , I took a bullet for her in the game and made the joke: Look at that after 1 date ready to take bullets. This is when she did the 180flip and went completely cold. She said, not really liking this game going to work for a bit and go to bed, goodnight.
Next day: I teksted her, saying hey I had a great time Saturday, would like to see you again, want to come over to my place watch Netflix and have sushi. (ye I did a little chasing, I realize) and she did not respond.
I waited 4 days: Sent her a tekst, that I did not mean anything by inviting her to my place (I figured she took it as Netflix and chill) but would have like to meet her in a different setting then playing a game, and wished her a marry Christmas:
Her response: Hey, I really enjoyed our date it was a_lot of fun, and we do click really well. However I'm not feeling chemistry (probably cuz I missed my escalation window) and I'm not sure if we should meet up again. (auto-rejection)?
Now usually I would skip, and move on to the next girl. However, I did some reflecting and I believe this girl does tick my boxes where in addition that she would fit into my current travel/work life style. In addition, I'm absolutely positive I am the best thing that can happen to this girl after thinking long and hard about it and I'm convinced I can make her life better, as she can mine. Considering she has some amount of time invested and her interest level was quite high till, I fucked it up, I think its possible. Therefore I would like to attempt a turn around. I've read the articles on this topic, and the turn around seems very challenging and hard too do, but I'm very certain I would atleast like to give it a shot, in thepast at first i would steer away from it, and then after some practice runs never have needed a turn around, i would like to attempt it.
Has anyone here managed to pull it off and can provide some guidance on how to proceed?
First of all, I want to say thank you. I've been reading articles since 2013 and I'm a better man for it. Not just regarding women. But in general, my career, everything is going really well the day I decided to be a better man.
Now I've been dating girls for a long time with a high success rate of getting sex, however after the lay, I usually go to the next lay, as I grew as a person I felt that the girls I was getting in my bed were not of the standard that I would consider for a long term relationship. I've learned to value my self/my time and raised my standards a_lot when it comes to long term dating.
I'll try to give some back ground info so that you have the full picture.
I've met this girl online, as I do like to play some video games every now and then. I was trolling a bit and the girl found it very funny, added me as a friend and we ended up gaming and talking together. Turns out she lives in the same city as I do. Now we did not meet for a while as my job requires me to travel weekly, and only after 3 weeks did I manage to find a slot for meeting her. During these 3 weeks I kept texting to the bare minimum, however I would play games with her on the laptop when in my hotel, but I would just banter no real serious conversations. I've had her in tears of laugher a couple of times while playing games online. She in the mean while had found me on LinkedIn, read some articles I have published online, followed me on social media and googled me etc. (she was honest about these things), which to me showed she was quite invested.
I made a joke once, trying to be sexual, she did not really appreciate it and called me out on it: Saying, please don't give me the feeling you just want fuck me, as that's not what I'm looking for. Regardless I recovered and we met up.
We had a great date, went to an arcade hall. Had a drink afterwards with chicken nuggets. She would touch, hold my hand and even feed me the nuggets. I dropped her at home (and for god knows for what ever reason, in the back of my head it was, dont give her the you want to fuck her vibe) I hesitated and gave her a kiss on the cheek instead of her mouth. I noticed a little bit of disappointment there, and I realized I just missed an escalation window.
I went home, she texted me thank you for a good time sleep tight. Next day in the evening, I got her to download a different game and play with me as I like this game. She found the game difficult, kept dying (it was a shooter) , I took a bullet for her in the game and made the joke: Look at that after 1 date ready to take bullets. This is when she did the 180flip and went completely cold. She said, not really liking this game going to work for a bit and go to bed, goodnight.
Next day: I teksted her, saying hey I had a great time Saturday, would like to see you again, want to come over to my place watch Netflix and have sushi. (ye I did a little chasing, I realize) and she did not respond.
I waited 4 days: Sent her a tekst, that I did not mean anything by inviting her to my place (I figured she took it as Netflix and chill) but would have like to meet her in a different setting then playing a game, and wished her a marry Christmas:
Her response: Hey, I really enjoyed our date it was a_lot of fun, and we do click really well. However I'm not feeling chemistry (probably cuz I missed my escalation window) and I'm not sure if we should meet up again. (auto-rejection)?
Now usually I would skip, and move on to the next girl. However, I did some reflecting and I believe this girl does tick my boxes where in addition that she would fit into my current travel/work life style. In addition, I'm absolutely positive I am the best thing that can happen to this girl after thinking long and hard about it and I'm convinced I can make her life better, as she can mine. Considering she has some amount of time invested and her interest level was quite high till, I fucked it up, I think its possible. Therefore I would like to attempt a turn around. I've read the articles on this topic, and the turn around seems very challenging and hard too do, but I'm very certain I would atleast like to give it a shot, in thepast at first i would steer away from it, and then after some practice runs never have needed a turn around, i would like to attempt it.
Has anyone here managed to pull it off and can provide some guidance on how to proceed?
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