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Hey guys,
I had intended on posting something like this for a while, and, in light of recent events, I think it’s an appropriate time to post it.
Basically, some time ago, I hit a rough patch in life and started a long downward spiral that I knew was only going deeper and deeper. I was angry at the world for many reasons. And that is an understatement. In order to try and cope with the pain, anger, depression, and just about every other negative emotion in existence, I partied. Not the cool “go out with friends, meet new people and have great times” party, but the “self-destructive-eventually-resulting-in-ones-death” party. You name it, I probably did it. Yup, I topped out my crotch rocket drunk and coked out of my tree. I was fairly certain the lifestyle would eventually catch up with me, but I didn’t care. Things had happened that I didn’t properly know how to deal with and this was how I chose to handle it. I was never one to seek pity. So I decided to be extremely self-destructive in a manner that brought me a little bit of joy.
You see, I do like partying. But I was using it as a coping mechanism and going way too far! And I, like everyone else on here, enjoy the company of the fairer sex, and though I was feeling sorry for myself, I didn't want to do without it. I wouldn’t say that I was the most skilled seducer out there, but I never really had that hard a time with girls (which some guys will read this be pissed at me
). But I did notice I’d lose girls with texting. I tried to figure out the problem on my own using different ways, but if it was up to just my texting, I’d lose ‘em. I guess I had just worked around it in the past, but in my current state, I didn’t want to waste time trying to find yet another girl if I had lost a particular one because I sucked at texting.
I looked online for a while finding answers I knew were wrong. And a lot of suggestions using tactics I knew were wrong, like trying to be the charming witty guy. Finally I stumbled across an article written by Chase. Informing me that I was over-complicating it and only needed to use texting to setup the next date. The light switch clicked on in my head and I was about to just close the window and go back to my sordid life when I saw a link to another post about victim mentality.
After reading that one I started to realize I had been acting like a victim. Then I read the one about depression, then the one about mental models. Over the next few weeks, I started to really get into even the pick-up stuff in an attempt to view the world a different way. It worked. I felt a lot better. I started being more social with people again. I stopped feeling sorry for myself. I started to practice finding my inner zen (which is alluded to in a few articles). It was troubling at first since my mental model was so flawed, I got mad at some of the articles at the truths I now knew existed. In time, however, it all made sense and seemed to come together.
There was definitely a lot of info that helped me improve with girls, but, overall, it wasn’t what I kept coming back for. In all honesty, If it wasn’t for the fact I didn’t know how to text girls, I might not be here today. . . just for the record, if I did die, I probably would have gone down in a Charlie Sheen-esque fashion!
All joking aside, and this may sound a little corny and insincere, but this site very well may have saved my life!
Afterwards, I felt I should try and give back in some way. And that was the main reason I joined the forum. Answering questions on here makes me realize just how much thought, effort, passion, and time it requires of those that do and of those that run the site.
So, if you read this whole story (I tried to keep it as brief as possible), and this site has indeed helped you, then reply to the post with a quick thanks for Chase, the site team, writers, forum contributors and moderators (I’d name everyone but don’t want this to turn into a long Oscars speech )
From the bottom of my heart, THANKS!
-John
I had intended on posting something like this for a while, and, in light of recent events, I think it’s an appropriate time to post it.
Basically, some time ago, I hit a rough patch in life and started a long downward spiral that I knew was only going deeper and deeper. I was angry at the world for many reasons. And that is an understatement. In order to try and cope with the pain, anger, depression, and just about every other negative emotion in existence, I partied. Not the cool “go out with friends, meet new people and have great times” party, but the “self-destructive-eventually-resulting-in-ones-death” party. You name it, I probably did it. Yup, I topped out my crotch rocket drunk and coked out of my tree. I was fairly certain the lifestyle would eventually catch up with me, but I didn’t care. Things had happened that I didn’t properly know how to deal with and this was how I chose to handle it. I was never one to seek pity. So I decided to be extremely self-destructive in a manner that brought me a little bit of joy.
You see, I do like partying. But I was using it as a coping mechanism and going way too far! And I, like everyone else on here, enjoy the company of the fairer sex, and though I was feeling sorry for myself, I didn't want to do without it. I wouldn’t say that I was the most skilled seducer out there, but I never really had that hard a time with girls (which some guys will read this be pissed at me
). But I did notice I’d lose girls with texting. I tried to figure out the problem on my own using different ways, but if it was up to just my texting, I’d lose ‘em. I guess I had just worked around it in the past, but in my current state, I didn’t want to waste time trying to find yet another girl if I had lost a particular one because I sucked at texting.I looked online for a while finding answers I knew were wrong. And a lot of suggestions using tactics I knew were wrong, like trying to be the charming witty guy. Finally I stumbled across an article written by Chase. Informing me that I was over-complicating it and only needed to use texting to setup the next date. The light switch clicked on in my head and I was about to just close the window and go back to my sordid life when I saw a link to another post about victim mentality.
After reading that one I started to realize I had been acting like a victim. Then I read the one about depression, then the one about mental models. Over the next few weeks, I started to really get into even the pick-up stuff in an attempt to view the world a different way. It worked. I felt a lot better. I started being more social with people again. I stopped feeling sorry for myself. I started to practice finding my inner zen (which is alluded to in a few articles). It was troubling at first since my mental model was so flawed, I got mad at some of the articles at the truths I now knew existed. In time, however, it all made sense and seemed to come together.
There was definitely a lot of info that helped me improve with girls, but, overall, it wasn’t what I kept coming back for. In all honesty, If it wasn’t for the fact I didn’t know how to text girls, I might not be here today. . . just for the record, if I did die, I probably would have gone down in a Charlie Sheen-esque fashion!
All joking aside, and this may sound a little corny and insincere, but this site very well may have saved my life!
Afterwards, I felt I should try and give back in some way. And that was the main reason I joined the forum. Answering questions on here makes me realize just how much thought, effort, passion, and time it requires of those that do and of those that run the site.
So, if you read this whole story (I tried to keep it as brief as possible), and this site has indeed helped you, then reply to the post with a quick thanks for Chase, the site team, writers, forum contributors and moderators (I’d name everyone but don’t want this to turn into a long Oscars speech
) From the bottom of my heart, THANKS!
-John
