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So, I write this in hopes of improving with girls.
I am a beginner to game and rather young, so cold approach is still very hard for me, I can barely overcome myself to approach a girl around my age on the streets, especially if she isn't alone.
Nevertheless, in my social circle, there was a dinner last night. There is a pretty blonde there, and most of the guys are competing for her attention. As the dinner progressed, two things happened. The seats left to me where free after deserts, and another cute Bulgarian girl came to sit next to me. I talked with her a bit, teasing her for not liking chocolate, but in the end I didn't know what more to talk about and she left.
Then, the pretty blonde got up a short while later and sat opposite to me. She is normally a very gregarious person, but around me she is quite and shy, which I take as a signal of attraction. She sat opposite to me too, but there was another guy that came and showed me photos on his phone which I was engrossed with, and the blonde returned to her other spot again.
Lessons: I shouldn't have ignored her like that, I acted too aloof, and ignored both the approach invitations. I also am in conflict between strong silent type and BMOC. Half of the time I am one, then I am the other. Writing this, I realize that means I am incongruent, and should opt for one of the two, or go for a hybrid version.
I also need to improve my conversation skills.. How do I start doing that? Hmm.
I read somewhere, probably from chase, that cold approach makes you a man. I really want to approach the pretty girls I see on the street, but somehow I'm never in the mood for it, or it seems like a tricky situation.
If she doesn't meet my eye at all and doesn't give me any sign of interest, I don't approach. I probably should anyway, maybe I am mistaken, but it's hard. I really want to try though.
I also want to be more aggressive and bold, especially in approaching and touching women. The only concern I have is if I start touching more now, I might come across as uncalibrated and/or creepy. That's a risk I'll have to take them, if it makes me become more aggressive.
I want to go through my asshole phase, and am definitely being ruder and being more devil-may-care, but I don't think such small changes matter that much. Perhaps it would help if I become an asshole overnight
I am a beginner to game and rather young, so cold approach is still very hard for me, I can barely overcome myself to approach a girl around my age on the streets, especially if she isn't alone.
Nevertheless, in my social circle, there was a dinner last night. There is a pretty blonde there, and most of the guys are competing for her attention. As the dinner progressed, two things happened. The seats left to me where free after deserts, and another cute Bulgarian girl came to sit next to me. I talked with her a bit, teasing her for not liking chocolate, but in the end I didn't know what more to talk about and she left.
Then, the pretty blonde got up a short while later and sat opposite to me. She is normally a very gregarious person, but around me she is quite and shy, which I take as a signal of attraction. She sat opposite to me too, but there was another guy that came and showed me photos on his phone which I was engrossed with, and the blonde returned to her other spot again.
Lessons: I shouldn't have ignored her like that, I acted too aloof, and ignored both the approach invitations. I also am in conflict between strong silent type and BMOC. Half of the time I am one, then I am the other. Writing this, I realize that means I am incongruent, and should opt for one of the two, or go for a hybrid version.
I also need to improve my conversation skills.. How do I start doing that? Hmm.
I read somewhere, probably from chase, that cold approach makes you a man. I really want to approach the pretty girls I see on the street, but somehow I'm never in the mood for it, or it seems like a tricky situation.
If she doesn't meet my eye at all and doesn't give me any sign of interest, I don't approach. I probably should anyway, maybe I am mistaken, but it's hard. I really want to try though.
I also want to be more aggressive and bold, especially in approaching and touching women. The only concern I have is if I start touching more now, I might come across as uncalibrated and/or creepy. That's a risk I'll have to take them, if it makes me become more aggressive.
I want to go through my asshole phase, and am definitely being ruder and being more devil-may-care, but I don't think such small changes matter that much. Perhaps it would help if I become an asshole overnight
