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I have been way too busy with work to go out in the field to find a catch for myself. So instead I decided to take the lazy route with a semi-blind date. I saw a hot girl on my friends phone, asked for her number and within 5 texts I had a date. Simple and easy.
My date was an interesting one. I had only seen one picture of the girl when I got her number and she had absolutely no connection with social networking sites to see a better picture. I only sent a few texts. I started off with a very direct, "hey I got ur number from ____ because I thought you were cute." 2 texts later it was, "we should get together sometime. whats a good day for you?" Done deal. I used to hate texting as I am much better face-to-face with communication. But I've learned to just keep it short and sweet and that works 9/10 times.
We set up some logistics and I let her pick the restaurant. When I went to pick her up, she had some friends over and they all came outside when I got there. As I had only seen one picture of her, I wasn't positive about which girl it was, so I opted to stay in the car and whichever one got in was the one I would take out haha. When the hottest girl there got in, I knew I was in for a good time.
I have a pretty tough scale when it comes to grading women. I feel very confident with 7s and 8s because I've been with enough of them that its nothing new. But for the same reason as 90% of other guys, I still get a little nervous around a 9 or 10. Now if I'm being honest, I've never been with, or even met, a 10. But like I said, my scale is pretty critical. This girl was a 9. So it was almost a goal for me. I've been with a few 9s and a few 8s that others might count as 9s but if I could get this one in the bag, I would know that I need to start doing it more consistently.
With every date I go on, I set goals for myself. I make sure that even if the date is a disaster, that I at least accomplished my goals. I set goals like,
-hold your eye contact stronger and longer
-deep dive farther than you did on your last date
-make sexual innuendo a comfortable thing with your frame
-be a little nicer
-be a little edgier/badass
etc.
Luckily I accomplished the goals I had for that date, and got more out of it.
We went to eat. I got her to talk about things that I could really care less about, but I knew she was passionate about. I'm not a genius with any one topic, but I have a decent amount of general knowledge on many topics, so adding to a conversation on just about anything is easy for me. She loved the fact that I was deep diving with her and she genuinely thought I cared about everything she said and it only made her want to open up more.
I took her out early at 5 because I had other plans at 7:30. So we hit it off at the restaurant and I could already tell she liked me. Unfortunately, our time was drawing to an end and I had to drop her off. I brought her back to her place, and as we said goodbye, I went in for a kiss, but she jumped to a hug instead...
That threw me off a bit. Definitely a first for me.
I was headed to a party that I was co-hosting and on my ride there, I just couldnt shake what had just happened. A date that had gone so well, plus my seduction skills, should equal at the very least, some sexual contact. I would be lying if I said that it didn't frustrate me a little.
But she texted me about 30 mins after our date, and said, "I had a really good time with you, I'd love to go out again (
"
I was a little pre-occupied, but I eventually got back to her and we got to setting up another date. But I couldnt wait for another date. I wasnt gonna go through the wine-and-dine process for another hour just to get a hug.
So i told her about the party I was hosting, and she practically begged me to let her come. So I said yes, she came later in the night, closer to midnight, and I was determined to set things straight. She got there and I had a decent buzz going with the help from a little liquid confidence. And I kissed her immediately. booyaa. Blew her away. She didnt see it coming and she took it very well.
A little while later, we found ourselves with a little alone time, and I decided to take advantage of that. Making out, clothes beginning to come off, and then the classic cock-block. Friend walks in and says there's a situation going on and I need to handle it. blah blah blah. I wont get into the details of that. But clothes had to go back on and that sucks. But by the time I got back to her it was close to 3 or 4am and she had work in the morning. Conveniently, she just got hired at the same place I work so that should make for an interesting situation later on haha.
But she had to get going and we kissed goodbye. I know I could have closed, but shit happens. So she texted me when she got home and said some very good things about our alone time.
We have another date in a few days and I know Im going to make it happen. I dont care if its in the backseat in the alley haha.
Event those with plenty of experience with women can learn something new with every outing. From this, I learned that its my time to consistently go after 9s and 10s.
Thanks for reading and please give any feedback, positive or negative.
-Monsterslimjim
~Stay Classy~
My date was an interesting one. I had only seen one picture of the girl when I got her number and she had absolutely no connection with social networking sites to see a better picture. I only sent a few texts. I started off with a very direct, "hey I got ur number from ____ because I thought you were cute." 2 texts later it was, "we should get together sometime. whats a good day for you?" Done deal. I used to hate texting as I am much better face-to-face with communication. But I've learned to just keep it short and sweet and that works 9/10 times.
We set up some logistics and I let her pick the restaurant. When I went to pick her up, she had some friends over and they all came outside when I got there. As I had only seen one picture of her, I wasn't positive about which girl it was, so I opted to stay in the car and whichever one got in was the one I would take out haha. When the hottest girl there got in, I knew I was in for a good time.
I have a pretty tough scale when it comes to grading women. I feel very confident with 7s and 8s because I've been with enough of them that its nothing new. But for the same reason as 90% of other guys, I still get a little nervous around a 9 or 10. Now if I'm being honest, I've never been with, or even met, a 10. But like I said, my scale is pretty critical. This girl was a 9. So it was almost a goal for me. I've been with a few 9s and a few 8s that others might count as 9s but if I could get this one in the bag, I would know that I need to start doing it more consistently.
With every date I go on, I set goals for myself. I make sure that even if the date is a disaster, that I at least accomplished my goals. I set goals like,
-hold your eye contact stronger and longer
-deep dive farther than you did on your last date
-make sexual innuendo a comfortable thing with your frame
-be a little nicer
-be a little edgier/badass
etc.
Luckily I accomplished the goals I had for that date, and got more out of it.
We went to eat. I got her to talk about things that I could really care less about, but I knew she was passionate about. I'm not a genius with any one topic, but I have a decent amount of general knowledge on many topics, so adding to a conversation on just about anything is easy for me. She loved the fact that I was deep diving with her and she genuinely thought I cared about everything she said and it only made her want to open up more.
I took her out early at 5 because I had other plans at 7:30. So we hit it off at the restaurant and I could already tell she liked me. Unfortunately, our time was drawing to an end and I had to drop her off. I brought her back to her place, and as we said goodbye, I went in for a kiss, but she jumped to a hug instead...
That threw me off a bit. Definitely a first for me.
I was headed to a party that I was co-hosting and on my ride there, I just couldnt shake what had just happened. A date that had gone so well, plus my seduction skills, should equal at the very least, some sexual contact. I would be lying if I said that it didn't frustrate me a little.
But she texted me about 30 mins after our date, and said, "I had a really good time with you, I'd love to go out again (
I was a little pre-occupied, but I eventually got back to her and we got to setting up another date. But I couldnt wait for another date. I wasnt gonna go through the wine-and-dine process for another hour just to get a hug.
So i told her about the party I was hosting, and she practically begged me to let her come. So I said yes, she came later in the night, closer to midnight, and I was determined to set things straight. She got there and I had a decent buzz going with the help from a little liquid confidence. And I kissed her immediately. booyaa. Blew her away. She didnt see it coming and she took it very well.
A little while later, we found ourselves with a little alone time, and I decided to take advantage of that. Making out, clothes beginning to come off, and then the classic cock-block. Friend walks in and says there's a situation going on and I need to handle it. blah blah blah. I wont get into the details of that. But clothes had to go back on and that sucks. But by the time I got back to her it was close to 3 or 4am and she had work in the morning. Conveniently, she just got hired at the same place I work so that should make for an interesting situation later on haha.
But she had to get going and we kissed goodbye. I know I could have closed, but shit happens. So she texted me when she got home and said some very good things about our alone time.
We have another date in a few days and I know Im going to make it happen. I dont care if its in the backseat in the alley haha.
Event those with plenty of experience with women can learn something new with every outing. From this, I learned that its my time to consistently go after 9s and 10s.
Thanks for reading and please give any feedback, positive or negative.
-Monsterslimjim
~Stay Classy~