Well, I have finally graduated and stepped the text game up to the dating game! I want to thank all of those who made it possible because it wouldn't have happen if it wasn't for the informative articles on this site. So please keep up the good work, and feel free to provide constructive feedback if you have any. So, let's get on to the date:
So I was at the workplace and as I was going to the boss's station to talk about something I did wrong, which happens on a day to day basis, I passed a new young girl who was sitting doing relatively nothing. She was attractive and she looked relatively bored. So I made conversation and asked her what does she do here now, to which she replied , "blah blah blah(little to nothing). So I replied, I'm doing blah, and blah and blahhhh( whole bunch of crap)! She commented, " You should send some over here." I then deep dove and found out she had recently moved to the city and is going through the first stages of a divorce (Are you single question: I hope I'm not using it out). Afterwards I empathized and told her, " You should bring a book to read. It would help pass the time." She then stated that's a good idea. I told her I would get her one of my books.
So I go to the desk, and take out my front, which is a book. The company we are at doesn't allow cell phones so I cut out some pages in a book to put my cell phone in so it looks like I'm reading.lol! Well, I take her the cell phone book. I opened it and said, "now that's a book. Put your number in and we'll go out and do something later." That's when the boss came out the office, " Playa, we got a lot of work to do." To which I left the book to her and she returned. Without the phone number of course (lot of chicks find it hard to operate my phone) so during break the next day I saw her at a lunch table and I told her, " I didn't get your number the other day, what happened?" She then said it was mistake and re-entered it to which I agreed to take her out later. The following text occurred on the weekend. (this is from memory).
Me: Hey would like to go out and check out a flick? I want to get away.
New girl: Yes
that sounds like fun.
So, later that friday evening she text back while I was at the game trying to sell some tickets and almost got arrested (that's another story) Houston Rockets vs Atlanta
New girl: Hey, I don't want you to be mad but I'm tired. Real tired.
This is where my persistence training kicked in. So instead of texting her after a failed ticket sale with tons of police officers around and no customer, I picked up the phone and called her.
Her: Hello
Me: Wasup?
Her: Nothing. What are you up to?
Me: Trying to sell some tickets for the game. Ain't nobody buying them.
Her: Oh, you got tickets. The game's already started.
Me: I know! So wasup with you.
Her: Yeah Im tired.
Me: Tired, well we can go drink some coffee.
Her: I don't want any coffee this late.
Me; What about tea?
Her: Well, you're trying to get me out aren't you.
Me: Yeah, tell you what, why don't we get some coffee and if you feel like it we can go from there. If not, you can go home and back to bed (which I was hoping to be joining her)
Her: I don't know. What about at work.
This I know was my opportunity to disarm the anti slut defense
Me: As long as you don't tell no one at work, I wont either. I mean, we keep it strictly professional at work. No one will know unless you tell them.
Her: How do I know that?
Me: Because I got just as much to lose as you. I don't want people coming up to me telling me stuff.
Her: Telling you what?
Me: Like, your girlfriend in the break room you better get out there.
I then put her on some of the history of the company, the gossipers, rumor spreaders and the sort>
Her: Oh. I noticed they do gossip alot.
I then told her that a lady came up to me after she gave me her number in the breakroom and said I saw you out there talking to your girlfriend. To which she was astonished and amused (true story)
Me: Look. You don't have to work tomorrow! You got all day to sleep tomorrow. I have to work tomorrow and Sunday I have to go to church. So tonight is the best night!
Her: You're right
So it took a little coaxing and I learned the value of persistence. Girls spit some reason or logic at you and you have to throw down there logic or reasoning sometimes with persistence. I remember reading it somewhere. As long as it isn't a clear cut NO! So she meets me at the Starbucks. The one she meets me at was renovating so we took her car to another one. We talked and I tried using Kino to which she was receptive in the car. We finally made it and we had some more small talk and I tried to move her to the attached bookstore as the table was awkward and other people were around. She said, "ok" but wanted to wait until her tea cooled. Before going the staff shut off access to the bookstore so we were stuck in the Starbucks. I then motioned for her to leave, and we left in the car. I tried to escalate in the car with a combo of Kino and innuendos.
Me: So why don't we go back to your place and watch some TV (logistics wasn't right for my place).
Her: I don't know about that!
Me: Why, your roommates or something?
Her: No, it's not that! It's just I don't know you that well!
Me: Well that's what makes it great! We're strangers.
Her: What do you mean that's not right.
To which I apologized. I know, force of habit. I kept trying to go back with her and she kept replying: But I don't know you that well? I tried saying, " well my name is playa, nice to meet you. Now we know each other." However she kept deflecting with the fact she wanted to know me first. She then took me back to my car and even deflected my attempts at a kiss. When I got back to my car I decided to check my phone to see some other broads but.......I dropped my phone in this girls car and she left. I panicked. Then I realize I'll call her to get my phone back at the gas station (club BP). She answered on the 2nd ring and told me she would bring me my phone back to which she did. I then tried to take her to another spot of mine (the hotel) to which she seemed interested but I decided not to push and then she left. She said she had a good time on the text and thanked me for getting her out but the next day I texted her and got no response. I text her again 2 days later....no response. I'm thinking I failed to past her LMR and she has went into some type of Anti-rejection. What do you think? I seen her briefly at work but I stood to my promise and stayed away.....Let you know if something more comes of it.
So I was at the workplace and as I was going to the boss's station to talk about something I did wrong, which happens on a day to day basis, I passed a new young girl who was sitting doing relatively nothing. She was attractive and she looked relatively bored. So I made conversation and asked her what does she do here now, to which she replied , "blah blah blah(little to nothing). So I replied, I'm doing blah, and blah and blahhhh( whole bunch of crap)! She commented, " You should send some over here." I then deep dove and found out she had recently moved to the city and is going through the first stages of a divorce (Are you single question: I hope I'm not using it out). Afterwards I empathized and told her, " You should bring a book to read. It would help pass the time." She then stated that's a good idea. I told her I would get her one of my books.
So I go to the desk, and take out my front, which is a book. The company we are at doesn't allow cell phones so I cut out some pages in a book to put my cell phone in so it looks like I'm reading.lol! Well, I take her the cell phone book. I opened it and said, "now that's a book. Put your number in and we'll go out and do something later." That's when the boss came out the office, " Playa, we got a lot of work to do." To which I left the book to her and she returned. Without the phone number of course (lot of chicks find it hard to operate my phone) so during break the next day I saw her at a lunch table and I told her, " I didn't get your number the other day, what happened?" She then said it was mistake and re-entered it to which I agreed to take her out later. The following text occurred on the weekend. (this is from memory).
Me: Hey would like to go out and check out a flick? I want to get away.
New girl: Yes
that sounds like fun.So, later that friday evening she text back while I was at the game trying to sell some tickets and almost got arrested (that's another story) Houston Rockets vs Atlanta
New girl: Hey, I don't want you to be mad but I'm tired. Real tired.
This is where my persistence training kicked in. So instead of texting her after a failed ticket sale with tons of police officers around and no customer, I picked up the phone and called her.
Her: Hello
Me: Wasup?
Her: Nothing. What are you up to?
Me: Trying to sell some tickets for the game. Ain't nobody buying them.
Her: Oh, you got tickets. The game's already started.
Me: I know! So wasup with you.
Her: Yeah Im tired.
Me: Tired, well we can go drink some coffee.
Her: I don't want any coffee this late.
Me; What about tea?
Her: Well, you're trying to get me out aren't you.
Me: Yeah, tell you what, why don't we get some coffee and if you feel like it we can go from there. If not, you can go home and back to bed (which I was hoping to be joining her
)Her: I don't know. What about at work.
This I know was my opportunity to disarm the anti slut defense
Me: As long as you don't tell no one at work, I wont either. I mean, we keep it strictly professional at work. No one will know unless you tell them.
Her: How do I know that?
Me: Because I got just as much to lose as you. I don't want people coming up to me telling me stuff.
Her: Telling you what?
Me: Like, your girlfriend in the break room you better get out there.
I then put her on some of the history of the company, the gossipers, rumor spreaders and the sort>
Her: Oh. I noticed they do gossip alot.
I then told her that a lady came up to me after she gave me her number in the breakroom and said I saw you out there talking to your girlfriend. To which she was astonished and amused (true story)
Me: Look. You don't have to work tomorrow! You got all day to sleep tomorrow. I have to work tomorrow and Sunday I have to go to church. So tonight is the best night!
Her: You're right
So it took a little coaxing and I learned the value of persistence. Girls spit some reason or logic at you and you have to throw down there logic or reasoning sometimes with persistence. I remember reading it somewhere. As long as it isn't a clear cut NO! So she meets me at the Starbucks. The one she meets me at was renovating so we took her car to another one. We talked and I tried using Kino to which she was receptive in the car. We finally made it and we had some more small talk and I tried to move her to the attached bookstore as the table was awkward and other people were around. She said, "ok" but wanted to wait until her tea cooled. Before going the staff shut off access to the bookstore so we were stuck in the Starbucks. I then motioned for her to leave, and we left in the car. I tried to escalate in the car with a combo of Kino and innuendos.
Me: So why don't we go back to your place and watch some TV (logistics wasn't right for my place).
Her: I don't know about that!
Me: Why, your roommates or something?
Her: No, it's not that! It's just I don't know you that well!
Me: Well that's what makes it great! We're strangers.
Her: What do you mean that's not right.
To which I apologized. I know, force of habit. I kept trying to go back with her and she kept replying: But I don't know you that well? I tried saying, " well my name is playa, nice to meet you. Now we know each other." However she kept deflecting with the fact she wanted to know me first. She then took me back to my car and even deflected my attempts at a kiss. When I got back to my car I decided to check my phone to see some other broads but.......I dropped my phone in this girls car and she left. I panicked. Then I realize I'll call her to get my phone back at the gas station (club BP). She answered on the 2nd ring and told me she would bring me my phone back to which she did. I then tried to take her to another spot of mine (the hotel) to which she seemed interested but I decided not to push and then she left. She said she had a good time on the text and thanked me for getting her out but the next day I texted her and got no response. I text her again 2 days later....no response. I'm thinking I failed to past her LMR and she has went into some type of Anti-rejection. What do you think? I seen her briefly at work but I stood to my promise and stayed away.....Let you know if something more comes of it.
