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I believe Approach Anxiety is more nuanced than just the anxiety of talking to a girl.
There is, in linear order, the anxiety of:
- Thinking of actually talking to girls
- Going to the place where you can meet girls
- Actively looking for girls to approach
- Closing the proximity between you and a girl
- Talking to the girl
- Talking to a couple girls in one outing
- Talking to many different girls in one outing
There are probably more in between and after this list.
This list is empowering when considered along with the concept of "desensitization". Meaning, you can take steps at overcoming your anxiety, rather than tackling the whole beast in one go.
For example, the anxiety of talking to a particular girl is lessened after you've closed the distance between yourself and her. Or even easier after you've done it a couple times with a couple different girls.
Anxiety is a lot easier to tackle when broken down into steps.
Nick
There is, in linear order, the anxiety of:
- Thinking of actually talking to girls
- Going to the place where you can meet girls
- Actively looking for girls to approach
- Closing the proximity between you and a girl
- Talking to the girl
- Talking to a couple girls in one outing
- Talking to many different girls in one outing
There are probably more in between and after this list.
This list is empowering when considered along with the concept of "desensitization". Meaning, you can take steps at overcoming your anxiety, rather than tackling the whole beast in one go.
For example, the anxiety of talking to a particular girl is lessened after you've closed the distance between yourself and her. Or even easier after you've done it a couple times with a couple different girls.
Anxiety is a lot easier to tackle when broken down into steps.
Nick