The ideal relationship? (response to GirlsChase article)

[Ryan]

I left a response to Ricardus' article 'What Do Girls Look for? They Look for This (Part II)' which can be found here:
https://www.girlschase.com/content/what- ... ment-18386

As Ricardus doesn't seem able to reply to my question, I wondered if the members on the forums would have the solution.
If you followed the model of an 'ideal' relationship explained in the article, then what are you meant to do if you want kids and a faithful wife and mother to these children?

And eventually, by the time you hit 35 (at least), a warm, loving and committed relationship with a wife would probably be more beneficial and pleasurable than a never-ending cycle of hook-ups.
Another issue is that the transition from an 'ideal relationship', to a committed one is unlikely to be as smooth as I would like, considering it's such a drastic change in relationship style for both the woman and myself.

I know i may be the minority here, but i personally can't wait to have kids one day. Especially an adorable little daughter. The 'ideal relationship' may sound like a lot of fun, but endless hookups over a cute wife and kids doesn't satisfy me at all.

Thanks everyone

 

[Thedoctor]

Ryan,

I think you're not getting a response cause that article is a year and a half old and I don't think Ricardus has written anything in a while so he may not be visiting the site at this time..purely speculation though.

All that aside, here's a quote from the article you mentioned:

First off, a disclaimer – this model won’t be right for everybody, and there are certainly a lot of people who will find relative happiness in a traditional relationship.

It seems he's well aware that it's not a lifestyle for everyone and everyone wants different things in life (despite the fact he wrote "relative happiness" which gives me the impression it truly isn't a lifestyle he believes anyone could be completely happy with).

Not everyone on here is gonna want the George Clooney life, just like not everyone here is gonna want marriage or kids. That's what is great about this site. It continually advocates not settling for anything less than what you want, regardless of what it is that you do want. If you want a wife and kids, great! Just make sure you're not settling for a "good enough" girl to make that happen.

If you do choose that life, it is inevitable that things will get stale. Stay with a person long enough and you always develop some sort of routine. That's why seducers are so effective at what they do; They break people out of their routines.

Here's my advice if you want the "wife and kids life" one day:

-Don't rush into it. Enjoy your youth!
-Don't settle.
-Don't lose the ability to walk away (short post for those who haven't read it : viewtopic.php?f=8&t=4314 )
-Consider an "open marriage." Swingers, for instance, are becoming more and more common.
-Find a way to keep life exciting and break routine (last minute trips etc.)
-Make damn sure it's what you actually want - marriage that is.

Last, I'd make sure to communicate any deal breakers early on. For example, I absolutely hate watching people let themselves go. I make this clear early on and if it happens, I walk away.

Hope this answers some of your questions regarding the article.

-Doc

 

[DesiBro]

I think you are getting ahead of yourself. Right now, your pressing need is to improve your skills with women. 15 years from now is too far ahead to plan.