The Mindset

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I've found that in every successful person, the success does not lie in what he does, rather in how he thinks. The success comes from a particular way of thinking. People then say "what does he do? what equipment does he use?" and they try to copy his actions, use the same type of equipment. But while aping certain actions may bring you a degree of success, one still has to learn certain actions. Like, for instance, openers. With the right mindset, openers are automatically generated. Without the right mindset, openers must be learned and rehearsed. Perhaps you managed to replicate a lighting setup that a photographer used. But can you come up with another lighting setup that looks as good, consistently?

This is true in trading. This is true in photography. This is true in practicing piano. And a friend told me once that in fighting, it's not about the strength, it's all about the mind.

Since this board has been the most helpful, allow me to record some of my thoughts here as they pop up.

 

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Not worrying about things that are out of your control.

I try not to worry about things that are out of my control. Of course, I wish my ex would reply to me when I message her. Of course, I wish this hot chick down the street would like me. I wish this particular person would behave differently towards me. I wish women wouldn't treat me colder after they've found new boyfriends.

But I cannot control any of this. It is all up to the other person. What will worrying and angsting about this do?

Instead, I try to maximize the chances that I get treated a certain way. I make myself hotter, not so this particular chick will like me, but so that I have a higher chance that this particular chick, or another one just as hot, will like me. I make myself better at conversation, so that there is a higher chance that people will find me an interesting person. I make my own safety net, so that if a girl leaves me, her being cold to me is not such a big deal. All that is under my control/influence, I bother about. All that is not under my control, I have to simply say "that's the way it is, let it be".

This is a fundamental truth of the universe. We observe it naturally when making friends. Thus it is automatically unattractive when you try to get one particular girl to like you (or a similar social situation), because you are violating this fundamental truth.

The world is uncertain, unpredictable, but life has found a way to cope and survive - shotgunning. Looking for a job, we are taught to apply for multiple positions at the same time. For universities as well. And women? Haha!

A wire is composed of many twisted strands of fine copper wire. Engineers can't even trust a single strand of copper wire to carry voltage (especially when you bend it). Why should you pin your hopes on one thing exclusively?

 

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On Happiness and how it affects Attractiveness

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