The naive vibe.

[Mr.B]

Naturally, I can talk to people without any fear or nervousness and be totally cool with never seeing them again or what they think of me. I guess you can call it high self esteem.

I enjoy the exchange and connection of good vibes with people, and it seems like girls EAT IT up.

Example:

Why hello *smile*, I saw you standing there and couldn't help but notice you have sexy legs, I'm Mr. B *smile*

It really is all about how I say it... I'm told I'm smooth by my friend A LOT... I guess it's true, who knows.

The conversation then takes a total non-needy, casual, playful, but almost... I do this because it's me vibe; not, I'm picking you up vibe.
Point is, it seems to really inspire chasing without the need to chase frame much... and because of the opener, you come off as confident as hell, totally chill, and giving value but could give a shit the outcome and almost like you're not looking for one. It's totally just, the moment.

Side note on giving value from my experience: Enjoy doing it. Work on yourself and your self confidence so that you don't need peoples validation. It makes you and others feel really good around you; especially because it's genuine.

It's be great for some veteran feedback on this (is this how pick-up is and have you experienced this?) and some new guys to share their thoughts.

Happy Sunday, people!

Mr. B

 

[Smith]

Good job and keep it that way bro! This is what John Cooper teaches if you follow him - Give unconditionally. Just flow and let it happen without trying to control the interaction. You probably don't even have to think of an "opener" really because you just say what feels congruent. The moment you try to take something from her, you fall into a work frame instead of a play frame.

 

[Mr.B]

Good job and keep it that way bro! This is what John Cooper teaches if you follow him - Give unconditionally. Just flow and let it happen without trying to control the interaction. You probably don't even have to think of an "opener" really because you just say what feels congruent. The moment you try to take something from her, you fall into a work frame instead of a play frame.

Never heard of it, but I just watched a few videos and yeah man! It really clicks.

He even said it himself, no one good with woman was always good with them...

I decided to be a giver when number one, I had to much pride and looked down on the 'taker' aspect and when I looked around at all the nervous and sad people around me who don't really make me feel any way. I thought to myself, Bob Marley style: "Be the change you want to see."

I think that naturally, not trying to control the situation (keyword: trying; Chase always says to basically not try to hard) the more in control you are.

You've been at a coffee shop for an hour... the tension is building and everything is going great. Have you ever just felt it was time to leave? But that you both were thinking it.

THAT is natural

Cheers bud, thanks for the reply.

B