The nurturing man

[ulrich]

What are your thoughts about being a nurturing man?
(Helping a girl cook, move, take care of her while sick...)

Personally I am a very helpful dude and I like to help people whenever I can but I have noted that this has neutral to bad reactions from women I'm wooing.
Particularly the sick version:

Her: "I am so sick"
Me: "Damn, I'm sorry to hear that. Perhaps I can drop by your house and get you some medicine or keep you company"
Her: "No, no. Don´t worry about that"

This has happened with three different girls.
(Maybe the "sick" part was an excuse to not date me again but I feel there is something else).

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

@uriel dude! Your relationship with the girl would change this. If she's chasing a relationship with you or after a provider this will be positive and warm especially if you've already slept with her.

If you haven't slept with her this is very nice guy and girls aren't turned on by this. You're qualifying yourself as look at me I'd make a good boyfriend. You don't want that dude.

If you've bedded her, spent a few nights over and she wants to convert you then it's not so bad but caring is typically a feminine trait. If you've been sleeping with her a while it's showing boyfriend material which works within reason as long as it's congruent. If you've established your relationship is just sex this will have the opposite affect unless she's chasing.

 

[Glow]

just do it balanced
think of thug love
bad boy w. tension and ravishing type sexuality
but also a passionate lover and seducer
+ also kind, strong, warm
A powerful combo with a weight to it which is more broad and mature than the one or the other types that seems to be used here - bad boy vs nice guy etc. which are oversimplified.

all these play out together powerfully in the bed too btw

I do it for girls i wanna maintain fb relationship with or a shorter love affair eg make a real date after some fuck sessions inviting her over and cooking for her giving her the treat. doesnt feel fminine at all but more like me steering things and showing a more loving side which can be strength filled and masculine.

only thing is the way you outline it as a nurturing man - sounds a little pathetic to me that way, as a clingy needy savior type. As if its a defining part of that type of man. I see it more as one of several qualities of a man.

 

[Skills]

What are your thoughts about being a nurturing man?
(Helping a girl cook, move, take care of her while sick...)

Personally I am a very helpful dude and I like to help people whenever I can but I have noted that this has neutral to bad reactions from women I'm wooing.
Particularly the sick version:

Her: "I am so sick"
Me: "Damn, I'm sorry to hear that. Perhaps I can drop by your house and get you some medicine or keep you company"
Her: "No, no. Don´t worry about that"

This has happened with three different girls.
(Maybe the "sick" part was an excuse to not date me again but I feel there is something else).

Well this is not something you want to do for every girl cause some girls will take advantage, nurturing could mean = pushover or pleaser = unattractive to women...

if is happening with 3 different girls is cause you are giving the above ^ subcommunication...

with me is different

her:" i am so sick"
me: hold on let me make you feel better then i would blow her a kiss

or
her: "i am so sick"
me: probably cause you are lacking love and affection here is kiss to make you feel better...
her: oh how did you know i fell much better...

0\or

her: i am so sick
me: i have your cure down in my pants it has medicinal powers...


^subcommunication is a bit flirty sexual vs pleaser push over.... I am talking about girls you have not slept with of course

 

[ulrich]

@uriel
If you haven't slept with her this is very nice guy and girls aren't turned on by this. You're qualifying yourself as look at me I'd make a good boyfriend. You don't want that dude.

Well, @Fluxcapacitor, I'm sorry to hear that but I guess it is what it is so no point fighting it.
I will make sure to save that side of me for the right moment.

only thing is the way you outline it as a nurturing man - sounds a little pathetic to me that way, as a clingy needy savior type. As if its a defining part of that type of man. I see it more as one of several qualities of a man.

Don't worry @Glow, I think the same.
I just thought writing it this way would make the question much clearer.
Being nurturing is not something that defines me... rather something I enjoy doing... I'll just need to choose the right situations.

Well this is not something you want to do for every girl cause some girls will take advantage, nurturing could mean = pushover or pleaser = unattractive to women...

if is happening with 3 different girls is cause you are giving the above ^ subcommunication...

with me is different

her:" i am so sick"
me: hold on let me make you feel better then i would blow her a kiss

or
her: "i am so sick"
me: probably cause you are lacking love and affection here is kiss to make you feel better...
her: oh how did you know i fell much better...

0\or

her: i am so sick
me: i have your cure down in my pants it has medicinal powers...


^subcommunication is a bit flirty sexual vs pleaser push over.... I am talking about girls you have not slept with of course

Thanks @Skills, that's exactly what I was going to ask next.
You fuckin' mind reader.