The Path of a Pickup Wanderer

[Astigmatic20]

Training Begins

After researching and reviewing GirlsChase Material and other related stuff on the net, I decided to put them to the test. From the start, I knew it was gonna be a rough start, doing "treading the waters type of meets" as I would call it, so didn't aim really high to get the girls' numbers.

I only saw 2 girls that I wanted to open throughout the entire day. One of which was in a jeepney, the typical vehicle for public transport in my country. Problem is that it could get awkward trying to open a girl in a cramped setting with a lot of people staring at each other. Plus, it was a short ride going home so I may not have the time to actually get her number at my amateur level. The other girl was in the playground in a subdivision who was with a group composed of a girl friend of hers, a little boy, and an older man. I had assumed that she was with her family so I thought to myself not to proceed with the approach but I realized I had to at least talk to a girl and use what I learned. As a wise man said, "you miss 100% of the shots you don't take."

Boy, did I take a very awkward shot when I did approach her.

I listed a lot of the mistakes I took during that meet:
- Too much stuttering, not the kind of "confident" approach you want to take
- Saying sorry
- Messing up my opener by mixing it with Tagalog (My Local Language), it just comes off as weird
- Asking too many questions (e.g. "What are you doing here?" sounded like an interview to me)
- She was indeed with her family (I don't know if that factors in group approaches but it certainly made her companions feel awkward)
- Didn't persist. I already messed up my first approach along with doing it at the wrong place & group so I just let them off

Anyways, this all led to my first blow-off which felt bad for me at first but I laughed it off soon afterwards. I'll try to keep this journal updated to track my progress and I'm open to any advice to anyone who reads this journal. Till next time!

 

[Astigmatic20]

First Informational Date

It would be more honest for me to say that it was my first date ever. I didn't get it due to my daygame but I did it with my law school classmate who I previously stated in another thread. It took me 3 weeks to schedule this date (though the lack of moving fast was on account of her busy schedule).

I didn't go "all the way" with this girl since this date was more of a dry run for me to test out the stuff I learned in this site like Talking with Girls, IOIs, etc. We ate at a deli near her workplace and unfortunately far from my house since the date scheduled earlier that day (I had to leave town the following day so she slotted the date amidst her packed sched).

Here's some of the things I observed and did during that date:
- I went against the habit of paying for the both of us unlike what popular dating advice dictates to the gullible and split the bill. She had no problem with it anyway though I regret the fact that I made her wait for me to order at the cashier first.
- It was tense for me in the beginning since I did not talk with this girl 1-on-1 as of yet but I managed to keep the laid-back vibe complete with pregnant pauses and the like.
- I could see some IOIs at times such as her laughs and her staring at me.
- Throughout our dialogue, I let her speak most of the time. Although, there were some silent moments because I was either waiting for her response or the topic suddenly went dry. Fortunately, they didn't delve into awkward territory.
- The reason why this date was set up was because I planned for a getaway with our friends in the province and I wanted to inform her about it. Ironically, she forgot about that said reason throughout our conversation and I had to remind her about it when we left the deli. I'm not sure whether it's a sign that she was really interested to go out on a date with me or she just wanted someone to talk to.

After 2 hours, I told her that we should take a walk around but she said she was doing something later on. I accompanied her to her sister who was in a massage parlor (which did not result in a happy ending 3-way FYI to the green-minded readers out there) and we said our goodbyes to each other.

Overall, I can say it was a good date. I managed to carry myself in talking with another girl and didn't end up an awkward, unconfident mess! I'll keep you guys posted if ever I do get dates from my daygame. Till next time & Excelsior!

 

[Astigmatic20]

Nightgame Obstacles

This is a late post (the outing was on June 1, 2013) but I still remember the lessons from my failed nightgame experience. Too bad since I spotted about 4 cute girls that I could have pulled but I ended up having a hangover by the time the sun came up. Fortunately, I wasn't too drunk or else there would have been a tiger in my bathroom...

Some logistical flaws during the outing:
- The outing was in a small bar during my law school orientation party. By small, I mean cramped...the girls were with their respective groups in their tables and there wasn't much space for isolating them without the rest of the people noticing us.
- Ended up too much drinks at that time. I think I overestimated my tolerance for alcohol since I haven't drank in a looong time. It wasn't really my intention to toughen up my confidence through alcohol but I caved into peer pressure.

*Note to self: Drink water or juice in the next outing to be safe.

Now on to my "efforts" to connect with these girls:
Girl #1: She was in the table next to me but she was silent the whole event. However, she was with her blockmates during that time. I haven't mastered approaching girls in a group yet so I didn't force myself on her.

Girl #2: Very cute girl but was in the same situation as the previous girl most of the night. I had a fellow wingman who tried hitting on her but he declined to pull since she was a virgin. (Said he wasn't the type who wanted girls to be attached to him for being their 1st time). However, I did say "hi" to her in passing...couldn't follow up since she was leaving right away.

Girl #3: Another smoking cute girl who was in the "beer pong" area of the bar and was getting a lot of attention from "alcohol-induced" guys. I went up to her and opened her though it was a boring approach and she left when something else came to her attention. I also hesitated since I saw some other guys who gave me a "bad look" and saw me as competition. I still have a lot to build up in myself to make my frame solid.

Girl #4: Wasn't really good-looking but had a good body. I managed to talk to her and deep-dive her along with me doing incidental touches however, I failed to get a genuine IOIs from her. I persisted when she came with my group to an afterparty but I noticed she was getting drunk at that time (along with me). When we got to the afterparty, I wasn't able to isolate her and it ended up being a group affair with drinking games (that didn't have any truth or dare sexy games sad to say) whilst the alcohol had reached my brain and I dozed off soonafter. What's worse is that I met her on another day but she apparently forgot my name...

It's times like this that me wonder if I'll ever be the Social Artist I've always dreamt to be. Stuff in school is getting busier by the moment so I doubt I'll be getting frequent outings to develop myself. However, I thank Chase and this community for showing me that everyone has his downs at some point but they all succeed in the end when they fight on. Until next time...Excelsior!

 

[Astigmatic20]

*Ended up Double Posting...will edit this when I have something new coming up!

 

[Astigmatic20]

The Trials of Daygame & Cold Approaching

Well, I finally had the balls to go out exclusively for the purpose of picking up women for the whole day.
It was supposed to be smooth sailing for me since I basically read every book and watched a lot of videos to the point that I know to how to do the interaction process right up to a full close.
I just never realized how hard it was for me to actually TALK to a girl in the first place...now I know how hard it is to cold approach girls after being stuck in the matrix for so long.

Approach Anxiety is like a parasite that tries to pull me back from realizing the Truth.

I went to a mall near my place, though there weren't a lot of solitary HBs around the place. Most of them were with their families since it was a Sunday and I wouldn't approach a girl in full view of her family (including overprotective dads that might beat me up if he saw me hitting on his little girls).

I heard Sunday Mass by myself and for some reason, the priest's homily struck me. He was talking about how people should act with Conviction and face Challenges to reach their goals. My main goal in starting pickup is to get better in socializing with women. I don't really care about laycounts, I just want to be a better man by having the courage & confidence to talk to women anywhere and anytime!

After the mass, I swear God must have listened to my prayers since there were HBs abound that were just sitting ducks for me to approach. Then again, they say "Old Habits, Die Hard"...Approach Anxiety bites me in the ass again! Either I waited too long or chickened out in approaching them in the first place. I was literally frustrated at myself in dealing with my limiting beliefs...

But I'm not giving up on the Game. I have only began to fight.

At least I managed to go out to try and meet women in the daytime and I know most people wouldn't even bother doing this. AA can go f*ck itself.

I shall get better at this...no matter what it takes.

 

[Astigmatic20]

Beyond Pick-Up and Nightgame Experimentation

It's been a month since my last post but a lot of things have happened to me this past month. For one thing, AA hasn't been much of an issue now as it was before since I can do direct openers now. Although, my main issue happens midgame wherein I "choke" during a set to the point that I don't know what to do next. Another issue is that I become results-oriented at times when I sarge during the day which causes me to get frustrated. I don't have a good vibe due to this and this is added to the fact that my wings suffer from AA in which I get affected by them.

I found myself associated with a new PUA group called Beyond Pick-Up and met alot of friends and contacts in the process. I saw what these PUAs can do and learned what they have achieved from game. They never needed the looks, height, or status and I even noticed that the chodes are the ones who have all these qualities. It's pretty inspiring for me to see these guys at work and, coming from a background of insecurity and sexless social conditioning, I'm definitely motivated to keep my head up in this journey.

Anyway, my wing Cross wanted to do some nightgame and got me along for the ride. I've always hated the nightclub scene back then and was never comfortable with talking to party girls. However, I decided that if I'm going to be good at this Game, I have to tackle and master all aspects of it. He told to being an avatar for peacocking and I ended up bringing orange sunglasses for the lulz. When I got in the club with my wing-mentor (For FREE! It pays to have good connections with PUA promoters), the HBs were practically overflowing. However, there was this one gay Dude who was the dancing monkey of the club...Heck, he even fooled some chodes into being close with him. I got in with the DHV group of the club which was composed of the promoters of the club and magicians as well and it was an unreal experience for me for the top HBs of the club to be coming to our group often. Aside from that, I even learned a coin trick while I was with them!

If I was in that club before I ever learned about this site or Game theory in general, I'd be acting all needy and AFC-ish around them. I ended up with nothing at the end of the night though since it was my first night out with PUAs but it was definitely a learning experience. I did some approaches throughout the night and these are the lessons I learned:

1. DON'T THINK AND HAVE FUN. I've been a chronic overthinker most of my life so I mildly messed up my mental state wherein I would look like a lost puppy looking for a bone. (The Bone being an HB that gets me a Boner)
2. APPROACH QUICKLY. I've wasted so many sets, some having given me IOIs, during the night because of my reluctance to go for them right away.
3. DON'T RELY ON YOUR WINGS. I've depended on my wings so much that I asked permission for a go-signal from them to open and I would leave certain sets when they leave even if these sets were accommodating to me. Indeed, I need to think for my own and not depend on others if I was going to be a big-time Casanova mofo.
4. TAKE YOUR TIME. I followed my wing's advice of Mystery's message to open early during the night and escalate afterwards. It makes more warm approaches and easier to end with seduction.
5. IMPROVE RAPPING. I tried using daygame openers during the night and I received lukewarm responses...probably because it lacks the confidence and aggressiveness commonly associated with nightgame. I also asked a girl how she wanted to be approached by a guy in a club...I never thought it would be awkward for a girl to be asked that. Moreover, I need to not use boring openers like "How's your night?" or "Are you having fun?" Even hearing myself say that during the night makes me snooze.

Overall, I think the root of my problems is my lack of self-belief. I always thought that I was awkward when being with a girl and preferred to be a spectator of people in relationships & hook-ups.

THIS HAS TO STOP.

Cross told me to think that everything I do during the night is awesome and I should always think that I am a master seducer in all the things I do. I've got my goals & knowledge right. All that's left is refinement of technique through PRACTICE. GAME ON WORLD...GAME ON.