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Hi guys,
I read Chases' article a while back about the 4 types of women.
So I guess these girls are essentially the dominant independent type... I sort of give them this nametag because they come across as very strong, motivated, high standards, etc..
I'm wondering what you guys think of dealing with these types? I've encountered a few lately.
Something draws me to these guys... some qualities a lot of these girls seem to have:
- Very good jobs/very career motivated: This is very attractive to me, I have the same drive and just can't see myself with the eternal student or un-motivated girls which are in abundance in Boston.
- High Fashion/Great style/Workout: These tend to be girls who really take care of themselves, dress well, take care of their body whether their facial features are a 10 or not. Again, standards I hold myself to. I'm just not a t-shirt and jeans to a formal event type of guy and again, the trend of this in Boston is wearing on me. I'm attracted to a girl who takes care of herself and presents herself well.
- Very active and full lifestyle: They seem to have their work, being active, social life, volunteering work, and never seem to be without plans. A socialite you might say: I don't need someone to be at the top of the social chain, infact these could be some of the hardest girls to attain but someone who is independent, active and has her own life going on and is not looking to hang off a boyfriend 24/7 is also very attractive to me.
- High Standards, for themselves and others: This is the kicker... And this is where I have problems really "getting" them. They obviously hold themselves to high standards which is great. But they hold others to equally high standards and it's difficult to feel like you measure up. These girls tends to easily dismiss and move on to the next guy. They enjoy a guy who can take them somewhere nice and have stimulating conversation but one wrong move and you're out.
Something tells me though that this "lifestyle" is often somewhat of a facade... as much as the independent woman kick is what turns them on, they are still out there meeting and dating men... they want a man who can measure up and ultimately be there for them but they very rarely let this defense down and it can be so difficult to break through.
When I meet or date them they have a very dismissive or aloof attitude. I don't find this part overly attractive but I feel like with the right "know how" it's just a matter of breaking through that but I find myself without a strategy.
Hopefully that made some sense... both as to the type of girl I'm referring to and also how to attract them. The more I date and meet women I'm realizing various qualities and personalities which really do something for me.
I've dated a lot of attractive and "nice" girls in the past but there is something about their eventual neediness in relationships and lack of drive beyond just wanting to get a husband that just doesn't feel like a challenge.
Lack of motivation and personal standards are also a turnoff for me. I hold myself to most if not all of these high standards listed above and want to attract a woman who has the same outlook, it just seems hard to "crack" it.
Any and all input welcomed guys
Cheers,
E.
I read Chases' article a while back about the 4 types of women.
So I guess these girls are essentially the dominant independent type... I sort of give them this nametag because they come across as very strong, motivated, high standards, etc..
I'm wondering what you guys think of dealing with these types? I've encountered a few lately.
Something draws me to these guys... some qualities a lot of these girls seem to have:
- Very good jobs/very career motivated: This is very attractive to me, I have the same drive and just can't see myself with the eternal student or un-motivated girls which are in abundance in Boston.
- High Fashion/Great style/Workout: These tend to be girls who really take care of themselves, dress well, take care of their body whether their facial features are a 10 or not. Again, standards I hold myself to. I'm just not a t-shirt and jeans to a formal event type of guy and again, the trend of this in Boston is wearing on me. I'm attracted to a girl who takes care of herself and presents herself well.
- Very active and full lifestyle: They seem to have their work, being active, social life, volunteering work, and never seem to be without plans. A socialite you might say: I don't need someone to be at the top of the social chain, infact these could be some of the hardest girls to attain but someone who is independent, active and has her own life going on and is not looking to hang off a boyfriend 24/7 is also very attractive to me.
- High Standards, for themselves and others: This is the kicker... And this is where I have problems really "getting" them. They obviously hold themselves to high standards which is great. But they hold others to equally high standards and it's difficult to feel like you measure up. These girls tends to easily dismiss and move on to the next guy. They enjoy a guy who can take them somewhere nice and have stimulating conversation but one wrong move and you're out.
Something tells me though that this "lifestyle" is often somewhat of a facade... as much as the independent woman kick is what turns them on, they are still out there meeting and dating men... they want a man who can measure up and ultimately be there for them but they very rarely let this defense down and it can be so difficult to break through.
When I meet or date them they have a very dismissive or aloof attitude. I don't find this part overly attractive but I feel like with the right "know how" it's just a matter of breaking through that but I find myself without a strategy.
Hopefully that made some sense... both as to the type of girl I'm referring to and also how to attract them. The more I date and meet women I'm realizing various qualities and personalities which really do something for me.
I've dated a lot of attractive and "nice" girls in the past but there is something about their eventual neediness in relationships and lack of drive beyond just wanting to get a husband that just doesn't feel like a challenge.
Lack of motivation and personal standards are also a turnoff for me. I hold myself to most if not all of these high standards listed above and want to attract a woman who has the same outlook, it just seems hard to "crack" it.
Any and all input welcomed guys
Cheers,
E.
