The third world countries and pick-up mentalities

[D'EmpEroR]

The third world countries and pick-up mentalities.

I have read series of GC posts for the past months ranging from mindsets, picking women, relationship 101, etc to mention few. But I haven't come across any posts relating to the nature of seduction games in the third world countries.
I have been in this most populous West African country - Nigeria for a couple of years, but the cultural, religious, social lifestyles and environment, the pick up games and dating mentality here is some what different from that of the European countries and other Western parts of the world.

THE NIGHT CLUBS
Night clubs here is something of 'no-money-no-pickup', no matter how sexy you may be or how fine you lay your fundamentals, without money a girl would hardy follow you home - picking up girls in clubs is strickly on financial bargain (even if you have zero social skills). Here, a girl is willingly to go suck your corck to dryness and give you any position on bed if you can pay the money bargained.

COLD APPROACH
Though, cold approach here is a bit normal like other countries but you've got to polish your fundamentals so fine, else no cheese to crunch, it's a bit fine but the prime mentality here is like ''NO SEX ON FIRST DATE, WE JUST MET'', (but I know if the game is well played, that resistance wall will definately be broken). On average, 95% of guys here fall on the Nice-guy and chaser quandrant. I can't just remembered how many 'bittered-nice' guys I've coached for the past months, (with the help of GC posts I've read and my little experience gathered so far). One funny statistics I have discovered here so far is that :

(a). 90% of GIRLS you'll meet will say; '' I already have a guy'', ''i'm in a (serious) relationship'', ''I'm with someone else''.

(b). 90% of GUYS you meet will say: '' I'm single'', ''I'm searching''.

WHERE ARE THOSE GUYS DATING THE 90% OF GIRLS CLAIMING TO HAVE GUYS. Could it be that they are say those as a tool for laying off guys? (so I believe anyway).

My question and suggestion here is: How can the good results be achieved here?

SUGGESTION: I would suggest a post on such topic relating to the dating and pick -up mentalies in those kind of countries so that guys in this forum or anyone can learn something important, should they go to such countries. ASAP.

Still anchored to the moving train,
Thanks!!!

 

[moolar]

Well,truth be told,I've always wondered how relatively easy and smooth seduction would have been in Africa if only we are a little flexible with our beliefs and follow up flourishing trends in the West and Americas.
I totally concur with you,D'Emeperor,on ALMOST every point you have raised. I reside in Lagos,Nigeria...and from my experience,GAME as alien to 99% of the guys as condoms are alien to any serious catholic living in the Vatcian. More so,there's this pervasive mindset that,every girl is out for your buck and until you 'spray some money',you gonna die celibate. It's very sad because,majority of guys,instead of focusing on their fundamentals and self-improvement,they are focus on making money: their aim and believe is that,when the money comes,the girls too will. Whatever then happens when the money does not come? Your guess is as true as mine.

Now,because majority of girls down here have practically zero experience with some smooth,badass GAME,they mostly do not know just how well to respond to one who approaches them with utter smoothness. It disturbs their comfort zones...and most of them can even reject you for your GAME and awesomeness. It can be very frustrating for the aspiring seducer who's still yet to master the social and cultural variance in Africa.

WHAT I DO
After learning from experience,I realize that,for now,any seducer who approaches the average Nigerian girl residing in Nigeria with too much of smoothness and GAME is going to meet his waterloo! It's not in their experience to be approached in such a fashion.
Personally(and I ONLY do day game),I've learned to calibrate my approaches such that,I would always be SLIGHTLY above,in terms of ratings,the other 99% of AFCs out there. I believe it's all about being fluid and flexible and learning how to tailor one's GAME to flow with that of the ladies. Knowing what they are missing,at times,I feel terribly sorry for them.
Be that as it may,I keep working on self-improvement 24/7. It's crucial it is done that way.
Finally,i'm quite happy to find you,a fellow Nigerian?,here. Pls,if you live within Lagos or any of it's neighbouring states,drop me a line,D'Emperor. I would love to team up with any fellow GC member,especially when that member is from my hood.

Nice to meet you,D'Emperor.

 

[D'EmpEroR]

Thanks alot Moolar!

You know, this country comprises of over 250 Ethnic groups of different socio-cultural beliefs, traditions, religious beliefs, mentalities and local Languages. Those beliefs and mentalities are strongly held in each of those various ethnicities of which anyone not from them is perceived a total stranger. Here, a native of Yoruba marrying any other tribes, say Housa or Ibo is a problem.

You wrote: ''majority of girls down here have practically zero experience with some smooth,badass GAME,they mostly do not know just how well to respond to one who approaches them with utter smoothness. It disturbs their comfort zones...and most of them can even reject you for your GAME and awesomeness. It can be very frustrating for the aspiring seducer who's still yet to master the social and cultural variance in Africa.''

This is a point I strongly agreed to because those beliefs had engrave their seduction mentalities so bad that it affects their experiences.
I'M NOT SAYING THAT GIRLS HERE ARE NOT EXPERIENCED, BUT THAT'S ON A SCALE OF 2% AGAINST 98%. The PRIME mentality here on a relationship is that the guy should be nice and be a provider ALWAYS. Experienced girls are labelled 'SLUTS' and guys trying to be lovers are labelled 'PLAYERS'. On a serious note A POST ON THE GC WEBSITE ON COPING WITH SEDUCTION GAMES IN SUCH COUNTRIES WILL BE APPRECIATED.

Finally, @ Moolar; I like your technique on coping here, it's something I will try to adopt for the GAME. Glad to meet you too.

Still anchored to the moving train,
Thanks!!!

 

[Tim Iron]

You don't mean it.... I don't believe it... so there are Nigerians on GirlsChase also? I thought I was the only one! I need to tell my Oga at the Top about this new develoIpment!

Ps: Chase and the other guys cant write about Developing countries because they don't live there. It is guys like us that are serious about becoming good with women that has to refine what he says to the environment and maybe write about it for others to learn.

 

[demainor]

At least an not the only african, though am Kenyan. Sthng l can note about Nigerians who have moved to Nairobi,these guys have serious game. No,let me not say game,but their get laid alot. I was curious about it and made friends with some ot them. What l saw was amazing.
You guys put the Agre in Agressive! A guy wld stop a Kenyan lady and within minutes would be explaining to her in detail how he was goonna fuck her. And they loved it coz our ladies are pretty aggresove too. Now the added advantage they is ur accent ,to kenyan Ladies its like African British,their panties just drip when they hear it.
Now as a Kenyan,l've umped my agrression to insane levels but its not as effective maybe because of the accent and the thought that you guys are here short term helps them be loose. I on the other hand can hardly use that.
Anyway,if theres a Kenyan in Nairobi,drop a line here.

 

[BeeJay]

Could any Nigerian who has upped his game with Nigerian girls chat me up

 

[Mr STIF]

My fellow Nigerians I greet you all. I live in Lagos, would love to connect with like minded folks like You?