The Three Types Of Men

[Thedoctor]

tell stories that make her want to bang you (generally, stories about other girls you've banged)

Hey Drex,

I was wondering if this has actually worked for you? Through personal experience and observation, I've noticed it's better that it's just implied you're good with women, not just blatantly coming out and telling stories of your conquests. It kind of reminds me of a guy that just sits there and talks about how successful he is (wealth, fame, women, status etc).

Guess that's just me. I'd appreciate if you could elaborate or explain further.

By the way, I've really enjoyed the articles you've written so far. Great to see you on the boards!

-Doc

 

[Whizzy]

I have the same question as Thedoctor, I thought implying those types of things works a lot more than straight out saying them. Although with them being stories it may still be possible as long as its not made out to be a big deal

 

[Marty]

Drexel:

No surprise, I have the exact same question as the other two guys.

Want to Fuck--Work out, dress well, learn some game, tell stories that make her want to bang you (generally, stories about other girls you've banged)

I do the first three; when it comes to the fourth, I often imply I'm "not good at relationships", a bit unreliable, easily distracted etc. but telling stories? Seriously? That's cool that it works for you; I've kinda eschewed that to date, on the grounds that it goes against the principle of not talking about yourself too much. Any clarification you can provide will be very welcome! =)

-Marty

 

[Richard]

Doctor, Marty, Whizzy,

Great Sex FR

When you can tell a story about banging another chick, and make the current girl feel like she's the chick you're banging, then it ramps up sexual tension.

On the same note, when you communicate sexiness through tone of voice, eye contact, etc. while telling a sexual story, you're doubling that sexual tension.

 

[Thedoctor]

Z,

No argument with the tone of voice, eye contact, sexy vibes etc. All of it is crucial, as well as discussing sex in general.

As far as talking about specific stories of girls you've had sex with, I can see that working fine with a sexually-open girl. I would, however, see it as a suicidal move with a girl that is a bit more conservative.

Just my thoughts,

-Doc

 

[Richard]

Doctor,

Not necessarily. Even conservative girls think about sex, and the object is to get the girl thinking sexually first before you tell a story like that.

Think about this though, why do women, or rather, why have women been gobbling up 50 Shades of Grey? Statistically, it's sold one million copies faster than any other book, and it's selling faster than other book series. It's because women, and almost all women (even conservatives) appreciate and love stories about sex/ sexual fantasies/ romantic sex, whatever the case is, the fact is that women love sex, and it's up to you as a sexual man to convey that properly.

If you can use tone of voice, eye contact, etc. to tell the story properly, then almost all women will enjoy it

 

[Thedoctor]

"Experts say the success of the racy books – dubbed ‘mummy porn’ – has been driven by frustrated middle-aged mothers."

-Quote from the dailymail.co.uk (Regarding Fifty Shades of Grey)

Although I do fully understand your point (women being sexual creatures and all), using that book as an example may just be shedding light on a whole different problem. . . Older women who are probably sexually open, but have been blue-beaned like there's no tomorrow.

What I mean by conservative is that I've met quite a few chicks that are too embarrassed to even talk about vibrators, let alone owning one. Yes they are sexual creatures and yes they definitely enjoy sex as much as guys, but I think going too far too fast may lead to them feeling uncomfortable.

That being said, I'm always up to trying out new things. If I get an opportunity in the near future to try this out on a conservative girl, I will. If it works, guess I owe ya a beer.

 

[Richard]

but I think going too far too fast may lead to them feeling uncomfortable.

Unfortunately, this is the draw back to conservative women, you gotta move slower with them, and "gently" ease your way into topics like these. So this stuff which would normally be first date material for "open" chicks, is more like third date material for them, but it still works and still does its job

There's more to it than just this though, I'll leave it here for now.

 

[Marty]

Zphix:

Unfortunately, this is the draw back to conservative women, you gotta move slower with them, and "gently" ease your way into topics like these.

You know that article Why I Quit Dating Girls Who Club, Party, or Drink? I think the point Chase made at the start of that was that once you're pretty advanced, and want quality girls for rewarding relationships, rather than just for practice, you're not gonna find them in clubs and bars.

BUT that's for actually dating girls. When you're relatively new, you need to rack up positive experiences to get data points as well as a reward cycle for good habit-formation. Now what I've noticed as a relative beginner, after doing about 110 daygame approaches so far, is that unless your vibe is spot-on and you positively exude sexual energy and discretion, the majority of girls you meet are too concerned about social consequences and their reputation to permit you to move real fast. (In social circle, of course, it's even more pronounced.)

Whilst if you temporarily disregard the cautionary note on "club girls", and hit the bars or (even better) the streets at night, you quickly find the women with the most contemporary, liberated take on their own sexuality, that is already clearly visible among the social/cultural élite today (actresses, popular singers etc.) but to which the general population is only slowly warming and catching up... the younger generations quickest, of course.

Would you agree?

-Marty

 

[Whizzy]

I have a little free time tonight so I'm going to give this idea a shot

 

[Whizzy]

The screening is the most crucial part to this working but I cant wait to hear more about this. This does work with some people for sure though, even on someone that caught me by surprise ended up warming up to me

 

[NarrowJ]

Interesting discussion being had here! Thought I would join in...

I have talked pretty openly about my sexual exploits with various women.

Two (what should be pretty obvious) things here:

1) She has to be open and comfortable enough about it, and;
2) You don't just bring it up out of thin air

If you get into a sexual conversation with a girl, then she's 9 times out of 10 not going to be put off by you telling her about experiences that you've had.

Just to give a couple more examples in addition to the ones that Drexel and Z provided:

1) I had a girl over for drinks and a movie once and the conversation turned sexual. I told her about something I had done to a girl, and she had me actually go get a pillow and a chair from the kitchen table to show her what I did. This actually got her laughing and turned on at the same time.

2) I was talking to a girl at a bar, and the conversation again turned sexual. Again, I was telling her about something I did to a girl and she had asked me something about how my hands were positioned, and I actually put one on her shoulder and the other on her side and said "like this".

The really cool thing is, you don't have to qualify yourself at all. Don't say something like "oh, she loved it and I made her cum like 15 times!", but you can just rather explain the encounter in a way that would seem appealing to her, and get her thinking about you doing these same acts to her



NJ

 

[trashKENNUT]

The really cool things is, you don't have to qualify yourself at all. Don't say something like "oh, she loved it and I made her cum like 15 times!", but you can just rather explain the encounter in a way that would seem appealing to her, and get her thinking about you doing these same acts to her

What NJ said is on the ball. YOu should not be too enthusiastic too. IT makes you somewhat look "immature". It's rather the explaination itself, which NJ noted.

Zac