Things to Do to Move Faster

[Gamecrasher]

I know that we have to move faster, but what are the simple things to do to move faster?

I get sent into auto-rejection way too much for moving too slow with women. I just never know what to do to reward a girl after she complies or invests. I probably just need a little push and motivation to do all this, so please provide it for me guys.

Thanks in advance,
Gamecrasher

 

[Chase]

GC-

I know that we have to move faster, but what are the simple things to do to move faster?

I get sent into auto-rejection way too much for moving too slow with women. I just never know what to do to reward a girl after she complies or invests. I probably just need a little push and motivation to do all this, so please provide it for me guys.

Thanks in advance,
Gamecrasher

I'd take a few minutes and write out a general process for yourself. What should a normal seduction by you look like? What are the steps? How long does it generally take you and how long would you like it to take you to go from one step to the next?

Once you know those steps, you know what you need to do when it's time to move faster: it's time to go to the next stage of your pickup. So if the next step is "Sit and talk," then once you can tell she's really enjoying talking to you, you need to say, "Hey, let's grab a seat over there, it'll be more comfortable." If the next step is invite her home, and you can tell she's really feeling you and enjoying spending time with you, say, "Well... I don't know what else you've got planned for the rest of the day, but why don't we go hang out and watch a movie?" Then take her home.

Chase

 

[Gamecrasher]

GC-

I know that we have to move faster, but what are the simple things to do to move faster?

I get sent into auto-rejection way too much for moving too slow with women. I just never know what to do to reward a girl after she complies or invests. I probably just need a little push and motivation to do all this, so please provide it for me guys.

Thanks in advance,
Gamecrasher

I'd take a few minutes and write out a general process for yourself. What should a normal seduction by you look like? What are the steps? How long does it generally take you and how long would you like it to take you to go from one step to the next?

Once you know those steps, you know what you need to do when it's time to move faster: it's time to go to the next stage of your pickup. So if the next step is "Sit and talk," then once you can tell she's really enjoying talking to you, you need to say, "Hey, let's grab a seat over there, it'll be more comfortable." If the next step is invite her home, and you can tell she's really feeling you and enjoying spending time with you, say, "Well... I don't know what else you've got planned for the rest of the day, but why don't we go hang out and watch a movie?" Then take her home.

Chase

Hey Chase thanks for the reply. The problem I'm having is actually increasing sexual tension. I could have a conversation with a girl and move her, but I never have the balls to touch her. I don't hold her hand, touch her lower back, etc. I think it's my shyness kicking in, but I know that I have to change that. If I don't change that, then I'll get auto-rejected or slotted in the friend zone.

Any pointers on how I can transition myself into opening up and going for some sort of physical escalation right away? I was thinking I could ask the girl, "Okay, so I was wondering...does this move (*putting my hand on her lower back, for example*) really work on girls?" That way, I have the motivation to go with it and not feel any anxiety. Would that work, or is that being too weak?

Thanks in advance

 

[Chase]

GC-

Hey Chase thanks for the reply. The problem I'm having is actually increasing sexual tension. I could have a conversation with a girl and move her, but I never have the balls to touch her. I don't hold her hand, touch her lower back, etc. I think it's my shyness kicking in, but I know that I have to change that. If I don't change that, then I'll get auto-rejected or slotted in the friend zone.

Any pointers on how I can transition myself into opening up and going for some sort of physical escalation right away? I was thinking I could ask the girl, "Okay, so I was wondering...does this move (*putting my hand on her lower back, for example*) really work on girls?" That way, I have the motivation to go with it and not feel any anxiety. Would that work, or is that being too weak?

Thanks in advance

Try this opener, it'll get you touching women right away from the outset and push you outside your comfort zone at the same time:

Cheek Kiss + Hand Hold on Opener (2010)

If you're shy, it'll probably be awkward the first 10 to 20 times you do it. After that, you'll get the hang of it and it'll be a lot easier.

If you're SUPER shy and it's just impossible to touch women, I suppose you could do something like asking her if this or that works and then doing it. You'll get a lot of "no, not really"s or "yeah, if I like a guy"s out of it though, and will probably come away feeling like touch isn't all that effective, when what's actually not effective is touching while TELLING her you're touching. She should feel as though you touching her is almost an automatic / emotional response.

I'd suggest, if you want to put your hand on the small of girls' backs (and that one is a great form of touch), you ask them to lean in, either because it's really loud or because you want to get a better look at their necklaces / earrings, etc. As they lean in, put your hand on the small of their backs and "help" them do so... then, just leave it there as you talk to them.

Chase

 

[Knight]

Hi Gamecrasher,

I learnt a technique last year, probably from Chase, where you notice something that the girl is wearing/holding and signaling/telling her to show it to you. How you do this all depends on how much of a process you have down. When this happens, study the object and don't be afraid to hold and touch the object along with her hand or anywhere else on her body.


Hope this helps.
- Knight

 

[JMP_123]

GC,

A lot of shyness or apprehensiveness comes from inside. I've found it's always an internal struggle people deal with. If you say to yourself "oh damn i'm shy," you definitely will be shy in front of girls. If you tell yourself "oh that girls really attractive over there, but I don't know what i'll say to her," you'll never go over to her and meet her. You just have to tell yourself to smile, meet new people, willingly chat with a lot of girls and in turn you will loosen up and not psyche yourself out.

In terms of physical contact Chase hit it on the head. The cheek kiss is great when meeting someone the first time or when meeting up with someone. That usually gets out of the way the one physical hurdle a lot of people have trouble getting over - kissing. If you're in a loud bar, concert, or club it's is 100% good to put a hand on a girls back or side to have her lean in to hear her or for you to lean in to talk. From there it's always good to segway with a girl if she has an interesting necklace, ring or other paraphernalia on for you to touch it, move it, and ask what it is. Girls don't wear large dangling jewelry for it NOT to be noticed.

Hopefully these help!

JMP

 

[Gamecrasher]

GC-

Hey Chase thanks for the reply. The problem I'm having is actually increasing sexual tension. I could have a conversation with a girl and move her, but I never have the balls to touch her. I don't hold her hand, touch her lower back, etc. I think it's my shyness kicking in, but I know that I have to change that. If I don't change that, then I'll get auto-rejected or slotted in the friend zone.

Any pointers on how I can transition myself into opening up and going for some sort of physical escalation right away? I was thinking I could ask the girl, "Okay, so I was wondering...does this move (*putting my hand on her lower back, for example*) really work on girls?" That way, I have the motivation to go with it and not feel any anxiety. Would that work, or is that being too weak?

Thanks in advance

Try this opener, it'll get you touching women right away from the outset and push you outside your comfort zone at the same time:

Cheek Kiss + Hand Hold on Opener (2010)

If you're shy, it'll probably be awkward the first 10 to 20 times you do it. After that, you'll get the hang of it and it'll be a lot easier.

If you're SUPER shy and it's just impossible to touch women, I suppose you could do something like asking her if this or that works and then doing it. You'll get a lot of "no, not really"s or "yeah, if I like a guy"s out of it though, and will probably come away feeling like touch isn't all that effective, when what's actually not effective is touching while TELLING her you're touching. She should feel as though you touching her is almost an automatic / emotional response.

I'd suggest, if you want to put your hand on the small of girls' backs (and that one is a great form of touch), you ask them to lean in, either because it's really loud or because you want to get a better look at their necklaces / earrings, etc. As they lean in, put your hand on the small of their backs and "help" them do so... then, just leave it there as you talk to them.

Chase

Thanks Chase. Solid techniques there. I'll go step-by-step until I feel comfortable enough to go in with the cheek kiss. I'll get there eventually!

 

[Gamecrasher]

GC,

A lot of shyness or apprehensiveness comes from inside. I've found it's always an internal struggle people deal with. If you say to yourself "oh damn i'm shy," you definitely will be shy in front of girls. If you tell yourself "oh that girls really attractive over there, but I don't know what i'll say to her," you'll never go over to her and meet her. You just have to tell yourself to smile, meet new people, willingly chat with a lot of girls and in turn you will loosen up and not psyche yourself out.

In terms of physical contact Chase hit it on the head. The cheek kiss is great when meeting someone the first time or when meeting up with someone. That usually gets out of the way the one physical hurdle a lot of people have trouble getting over - kissing. If you're in a loud bar, concert, or club it's is 100% good to put a hand on a girls back or side to have her lean in to hear her or for you to lean in to talk. From there it's always good to segway with a girl if she has an interesting necklace, ring or other paraphernalia on for you to touch it, move it, and ask what it is. Girls don't wear large dangling jewelry for it NOT to be noticed.

Hopefully these help!

JMP

Right JMP. It's all about social anxiety, and I have to break that. I have to take action to make it go away