FR+ This is why you don't make out with girls on the dance floor.

[Verisimilitude]

KIDS DON'T TRY THIS AT HOME!


Ok, but seriously, don't make out with girls on the dance floor. I'm still a little drunk so this post might be edited later for clarity/soberness.

Anyways, tl;dr is Don't make out with girls on the dance floor!

I only accomplished two of my three goals because of my mistake. But also a little bit of poor banter is probably a bit of a problem too. So....

My goals were:

1. Meet three new girls
2. Move one girl
3. Make out with a girl

Pretty easy goals. I'm a little rusty, so I'm trying to get back into seduction shape. But starting the FR+:

My fraternity had a mixer with the athlete girls. Now I've always had a thing for soccer girls and dance team girls, so I was pretty excited. I also got into law school this week, so I was breaking out the good shit. But I still got hit with a good amount of approach anxiety. But fortunately, I got to meet three girls within the first five minutes of me playing a drinking game. Goal #1 down.

But again, approach anxiety was killing me. Multiple girls were giving me the "come and get it look", but I kept pussying out. I went to the bathroom and gave myself a pep talk. I actually had my iphone browser up and it was on a post about approach anxiety (viewtopic.php?f=2&t=4495). I checked it out, and had one of my friends say to me, "FUCK IT! LET'S DO IT ANYWAY!" (no lie, he looked at me weird but FUCK IT).

So after a while of conquering A.A., I used one of Chase's dance floor openers and grinded up against a girl who looked like she was looking for a guy. She laughed, smiled, and started dancing the right way with me. I'm so fucking lazy. I did an incredibly lame/weak pull and still got a hot (dance team) girl to go for me. I guess that's good because my fundamentals are down, but man, imagine what I could do if I tried. I would love to have someone PM me and remind/ bitch at me to approach girls.

So anyways! I was dancing with this girl and she was INTO it. I'm a pretty good dancer (lots of practice), and I was pounding her, running my hands up and down her legs. The mental alarm in my head went off "Move her you idiot!", but I was stupid and drunk and didn't listen. Instead I turned her around, grabbed her chin and made out with her. Goal #3 down. The good thing is I got to check off a box on my college bucket list (make out with a dance team girl).

BUT the bad thing is that almost immediately she wanted to leave. She wanted to make sure her roommate was ok. I told her (like an idiot!) that she didn't have to worry about her roommate, because she wouldn't be sleeping in her room tonight (this was supposed to be confident, but it came off creepy/needy). UGH. Don't do this. I tried to move her. Goal #2, but she wouldn't go. I'm stupid motherfucker. Do as I say, not as I do.

After that, it was pretty much over. She excused herself and while I had a chance to dance with her later, I didn't bother.

The plus side is I got props from my fraternity bros, who told me I did great. I told them I fucked it up (TRUE). Making out with girls doesn't mean shit if you don't get a number/have sex with them. If I had followed my process/not been a drunk idiot/not been a creepy fuck, I could have layed the girl or at least gotten her number.

ANYWAYS: The positives from this are:

1. I'm a sexy man. Not trying to sound cocky, but if I conquer my Approach Anxiety and WHEN I approach (need to do this more), things go damn well. I had plenty of chances, I just pussed out. Even after at a sports bar off campus, I had a girl stare at me three or four times, until she left disappointed.

2. I get to check off a box on my college bucket list. Which is: Make out with a dance team girl. And she was hot. Damn. Messed up the chance to have sex with her.

3. I know what I'm doing wrong (not approaching enough/not following my process/drinking too much)

4. I got a make out on the first real party weekend of the semester. Not great, but not bad. Last semester, it took me waaaaaaay too many weeks to get a make out (I had other priorities, like the LSAT)

5. Dominance. I spun her around like a boss. Too bad I fucked up after. But still.

6. I have a good intuition. I just need to fucking follow it

Negatives are:

1. DONT MAKE OUT WITH GIRLS ON THE DANCE FLOOR!!!! She flaked as soon as I made out with her. Messed up what could have been a lay.

2. Approach girls you pussy!

3. Drinking doesn't help.

4. Don't be creepy and assume too much. That roommate line was cringe-worthy.

Hopefully people can learn from this. Don't fuck up like I did. Although I got my dance team girl, I could have done a LOT more. I wasn't even dressed my best, I was in a baggy shirt. I hope this doesn't sound cocky/ self-hating. I'm just drunk/angry.

We could just run them red lights,

XC

 

[Mr.Rob]

I know what I'm doing wrong (not approaching enough/not following my process/drinking too much)

Stop doing this! It's so easy to fix. I usually don't drink that much when I do nightgame when I'm trying to pick up a girl. Stick to beer and sip to where you only drink one or two per hour. Set a goal of women to approach. Next time 4 and you can't have more than 2 drinks per hour until you approach 4 girls.

On the approaching issue didn't you used to do a decent amount of approaches? It seemed like you did not too long ago. Either way you're obviously capable of doing it evidenced here

So after a while of conquering A.A., I used one of Chase's dance floor openers and grinded up against a girl who looked like she was looking for a guy. She laughed, smiled, and started dancing the right way with me

WHEN I approach (need to do this more), things go damn well

So maybe you need to slowly and surely trounce that A.A. again.
Sounds like you're just not taking enough action. The harder you work the luckier you become .

-Rob

 

[Verisimilitude]

On the approaching issue didn't you used to do a decent amount of approaches? It seemed like you did not too long ago.

I did. Last semester was kind of a waste because I was focused on academic goals and didn't get out enough. I'm starting again, but this week has been mostly focused on fundamentals. My goal next time will be 5 approaches, and one of them direct. I love the idea of using drinks as motivation. Today's a homework day, so I'm gonna read up on approaches, how to beat approach anxiety, and approach invitations.

 

[Ross]

I told her (like an idiot!) that she didn't have to worry about her roommate, because she wouldn't be sleeping in her room tonight

Try not to confuse confidence with trying to convince yourself xcrunner. It sounds like you are trying to reassure yourself that it's true by trying to tell her that it's true.

It appears that you've, for the most part, figured out where you've gone wrong. Just remember not to be too hard on yourself. Soon enough, you're going to associate feeling bad with going out and approaching people. Which will make it even harder, as the pressure will only increase. Aim to approach, but be light-hearted about your failures. No need to get angry and compromise your whole night just because you've messed up with one girl.

 

[Verisimilitude]

Try not to confuse confidence with trying to convince yourself xcrunner. It sounds like you are trying to reassure yourself that it's true by trying to tell her that it's true.

It appears that you've, for the most part, figured out where you've gone wrong. Just remember not to be too hard on yourself. Soon enough, you're going to associate feeling bad with going out and approaching people. Which will make it even harder, as the pressure will only increase. Aim to approach, but be light-hearted about your failures. No need to get angry and compromise your whole night just because you've messed up with one girl.

Yeah that's why I didn't like that line. It came off creepy. Something better would have been to just go with her, meet her roommate, and then move her.

Yeah for the being hard on myself part, I was drunk and I just get harder on myself when I drink. My biggest fear about approaching is that I'll come off in a socially unacceptable way. Or that I'll come off as that guy who shotgun approaches and is needy. I think brushing up on approaches and approach invitations will help.

 

[BarryS1]

Ok, but seriously, don't make out with girls on the dance floor. I'm still a little drunk so this post might be edited later for clarity/soberness.

What do you thinking about dancing too aggressively? I've danced with three girls till they were moaning/breathing heavy and experienced an abrupt exit as well. The girls gave the same line, "I gotta go check on my friend...ect" and bounced. Maybe the trick is not escalating on the dance floor and saving it for later

was dancing with this girl and she was INTO it. I'm a pretty good dancer (lots of practice), and I was pounding her, running my hands up and down her legs. The mental alarm in my head went off "Move her you idiot!", but I was stupid and drunk and didn't listen. Instead I turned her around, grabbed her chin and made out with her.

Caught in the moment, but awesome how you remembered!