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About a month ago I had a threesome opportunity that I didn't fully see, and just wanted to bang the hotter one of the two. Instead of going for both I chose the path of least risk and least reward.
There were two girls in my room, one on my bed, one on my chair, and it would have been very easy to move things forward by simply getting both of them on the bed and escalating. Still kicking myself on that one.
More recently, it was brought to my attention that a girl who I want to fuck has brought up having a threesome with our mutual friend and me.
Basically my excoworker was texting me the morning after I had been flirty with the girl I wanted to fuck, and in some flirty exchanges she brought up the girl's interest in a threesome with me. I chase framed and she accepted.
I asked Hector for help on the instagram account and he helped me move forward with locking it down. He said I was basically good - I just had to schedule it (it was gonna be dinner and wine at my house).
Instead of scheduling the threesome, I scheduled a date with the sexy one. I was gonna try to fuck her first, and then at a later date, say a night we're all out on the town, invite both of them back.
So I had the individual date scheduled for last weekend and then here's the sequence of events:
- I go out to the club with some friends and see my coworker, we start dancing
- The girl who I set up the date with sees us moments later
- We lock eyes and she goes "I can't do this" and goes home
- I text her the next day to confirm our date and she flakes, saying she got puked on last night and needs rest
- I go out with my friends, she texts me that night saying she changed her mind and is going out
- I call her, and when I ask where she is she hangs up
- A quick exchange of texts ends with her saying sorry her friends are so loud, which I ignore and repeat "where are you" because I'm a bit tired of her fucking around
- She ghosts me
- My coworker texts me last night to meet her at the bar (from snapchat I found out her friend wasn't with her), I never answered because I was busy
Hector says I should have called them the day we talked about the threesome and did it that night. I think this basically means strike the iron while its hot, especially in such a unorthodox situation like a threesome.
Is this irreparable?
Obviously I made a mistake in how I reacted to the flake, but I don't think the attraction is gone.
I've talked to friends who have had threesomes, and read about threesomes on the boards here. It seems most of them occur in the moment, basically unexpectedly, by great seducers. Then again I saw Richard's, and his was set up by his girlfriend of the time, and a slower development.
Perhaps my comfort just isn't there with my coworkers' friend, how might I build this? Her autorejection will probably be pretty readily triggered at the moment, if she's not already there.
In such a delicate social dynamic, how might you guys proceed?
As for now I'm just continuing to approach other girls, but if I run into them one night (and I know I will) I'd imagine there'd be a good attitude to go about it with.
Hueman
There were two girls in my room, one on my bed, one on my chair, and it would have been very easy to move things forward by simply getting both of them on the bed and escalating. Still kicking myself on that one.
More recently, it was brought to my attention that a girl who I want to fuck has brought up having a threesome with our mutual friend and me.
Basically my excoworker was texting me the morning after I had been flirty with the girl I wanted to fuck, and in some flirty exchanges she brought up the girl's interest in a threesome with me. I chase framed and she accepted.
I asked Hector for help on the instagram account and he helped me move forward with locking it down. He said I was basically good - I just had to schedule it (it was gonna be dinner and wine at my house).
Instead of scheduling the threesome, I scheduled a date with the sexy one. I was gonna try to fuck her first, and then at a later date, say a night we're all out on the town, invite both of them back.
So I had the individual date scheduled for last weekend and then here's the sequence of events:
- I go out to the club with some friends and see my coworker, we start dancing
- The girl who I set up the date with sees us moments later
- We lock eyes and she goes "I can't do this" and goes home
- I text her the next day to confirm our date and she flakes, saying she got puked on last night and needs rest
- I go out with my friends, she texts me that night saying she changed her mind and is going out
- I call her, and when I ask where she is she hangs up
- A quick exchange of texts ends with her saying sorry her friends are so loud, which I ignore and repeat "where are you" because I'm a bit tired of her fucking around
- She ghosts me
- My coworker texts me last night to meet her at the bar (from snapchat I found out her friend wasn't with her), I never answered because I was busy
Hector says I should have called them the day we talked about the threesome and did it that night. I think this basically means strike the iron while its hot, especially in such a unorthodox situation like a threesome.
Is this irreparable?
Obviously I made a mistake in how I reacted to the flake, but I don't think the attraction is gone.
I've talked to friends who have had threesomes, and read about threesomes on the boards here. It seems most of them occur in the moment, basically unexpectedly, by great seducers. Then again I saw Richard's, and his was set up by his girlfriend of the time, and a slower development.
Perhaps my comfort just isn't there with my coworkers' friend, how might I build this? Her autorejection will probably be pretty readily triggered at the moment, if she's not already there.
In such a delicate social dynamic, how might you guys proceed?
As for now I'm just continuing to approach other girls, but if I run into them one night (and I know I will) I'd imagine there'd be a good attitude to go about it with.
Hueman
