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Hey guys,
So just now, I went on a coffee date with a girl I met via Tinder. In her profile, she looked super cute. Was a slender brunette with big beautiful brown eyes and a yummy smile. Her bio was "Nature, Gym, Raves". So I figured, she's probably in pretty good shape too...just my type of girl!
Skipping past the online conversation (I did nothing special), we setup a day to meet. When that day came, she sent me a text saying she's not feeling well, so we rescheduled. Today, when I went to pick her up, I was thoroughly disappointed.
She was straight up fat. Not just a little bit...I mean she was straight up completely fat. She looked way different from her profile pictures. As soon as I saw her, I knew this was going nowhere. Regardless, I decided to get coffee with her anyways. If for no other reason, just to practice my game for when I meet a girl I do like.
The problem was that I didn't feel very social AT ALL. For some reason, I was feeling rather anxious that day. And, I hadn't really talked to anyone so far, so I had no social momentum. Regardless, I forged on. I attempted to deep dive her, but I often fell flat. The conversation was pretty dry. I've performed FAR better on other dates, and I still got nowhere. So I figured she wouldn't like me anyways, cause I'm doing literally nothing. lol. The only interesting snippet of conversation was this:
Me: So why do you want to go to Germany?
Her: I dunno, it feels like there isn't as much slut shaming over there, people there are so much less judgmental (Not sure where she got that idea LOL, but w.e).
Me: I know right? Its so weird that in the United States, women's sexuality is super repressed. Everyone is super judgmental about women having sex, and for some reason, they always have to hide it. That's why really respect women who have the confidence to go out there and get what they want. Being able to ignore social norms in favor of getting what you want out of life is actually a really desirable and respectable trait.
Her: [ She agrees with me, paraphrases what I just said, and adds a little bit onto it]
...We continue onto a bunch more boring, and rather surface level-low energy conversations. I also feel like I was visibly nervous (like I said, I was feeling very anxious that day for some reason. Probably completely unrelated to the date itself. lol)
After about an hour, I decide to drop her off at her place. I had built zero sexual tension, I had communicated no good or extraordinary traits about myself. Even the emotional connection I had created was weak (relative to other dates I've been on). But at the end of the date, when I leaned in to hug her, she attempted to kiss me.
Considering the earlier conversation I outlined above, I'm pretty sure that had I asked her to go home with me, she would have said yes.
The reason I'm posing this FR is to just give you guys an example that just because you feel like a date is going like shit doesn't necessarily mean that's the case. Also, just because you're not successfully applying the concepts on this site, it doesn't mean you necessarily won't be successful. They should be treated more as guidelines rather than hard and fast rules.
It also makes me wonder...how many of my other "bad" dates could I have escalated had I simply tried? How many girls have I sent into auto-rejection without even knowing it? I don't know...because reactions vs results! So I guess the lesson to take from here is like what they taught me in sales..."always be closing!".
Till next time!
-BBoy
So just now, I went on a coffee date with a girl I met via Tinder. In her profile, she looked super cute. Was a slender brunette with big beautiful brown eyes and a yummy smile. Her bio was "Nature, Gym, Raves". So I figured, she's probably in pretty good shape too...just my type of girl!
Skipping past the online conversation (I did nothing special), we setup a day to meet. When that day came, she sent me a text saying she's not feeling well, so we rescheduled. Today, when I went to pick her up, I was thoroughly disappointed.She was straight up fat. Not just a little bit...I mean she was straight up completely fat. She looked way different from her profile pictures. As soon as I saw her, I knew this was going nowhere. Regardless, I decided to get coffee with her anyways. If for no other reason, just to practice my game for when I meet a girl I do like.
The problem was that I didn't feel very social AT ALL. For some reason, I was feeling rather anxious that day. And, I hadn't really talked to anyone so far, so I had no social momentum. Regardless, I forged on. I attempted to deep dive her, but I often fell flat. The conversation was pretty dry. I've performed FAR better on other dates, and I still got nowhere. So I figured she wouldn't like me anyways, cause I'm doing literally nothing. lol. The only interesting snippet of conversation was this:
Me: So why do you want to go to Germany?
Her: I dunno, it feels like there isn't as much slut shaming over there, people there are so much less judgmental (Not sure where she got that idea LOL, but w.e).
Me: I know right? Its so weird that in the United States, women's sexuality is super repressed. Everyone is super judgmental about women having sex, and for some reason, they always have to hide it. That's why really respect women who have the confidence to go out there and get what they want. Being able to ignore social norms in favor of getting what you want out of life is actually a really desirable and respectable trait.
Her: [ She agrees with me, paraphrases what I just said, and adds a little bit onto it]
...We continue onto a bunch more boring, and rather surface level-low energy conversations. I also feel like I was visibly nervous (like I said, I was feeling very anxious that day for some reason. Probably completely unrelated to the date itself. lol)
After about an hour, I decide to drop her off at her place. I had built zero sexual tension, I had communicated no good or extraordinary traits about myself. Even the emotional connection I had created was weak (relative to other dates I've been on). But at the end of the date, when I leaned in to hug her, she attempted to kiss me.
Considering the earlier conversation I outlined above, I'm pretty sure that had I asked her to go home with me, she would have said yes.
The reason I'm posing this FR is to just give you guys an example that just because you feel like a date is going like shit doesn't necessarily mean that's the case. Also, just because you're not successfully applying the concepts on this site, it doesn't mean you necessarily won't be successful. They should be treated more as guidelines rather than hard and fast rules.
It also makes me wonder...how many of my other "bad" dates could I have escalated had I simply tried? How many girls have I sent into auto-rejection without even knowing it? I don't know...because reactions vs results! So I guess the lesson to take from here is like what they taught me in sales..."always be closing!".
Till next time!
-BBoy
