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stratvm

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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for two reasons:

- she was on her period
- i made the mistake of getting emotional about having an awesome girlfriend though no actual penetration took place

technically its an ongoing story that is very similar to the story with my last girlfriend that i originally posted as FR++ last year - could still end up in LR but im not actively pursuing anything as of now, already left the ball in her court & deleted the number to prevent further contact from my side.

short story:

after having about 20mins texting with a really nice girl whos working 500ms from me we agreed to meet up next day after work. i instantly noticed the attraction in her eyes when we first noticed each other which became more and more obvious as we progressed (flaming eyes, playing with hair, getting closer and closer) so i decided to move as fast as possible. she was remarkably beautiful and was not aware of this fact(!). much more beautiful than on photos, really rare gem.

my routine was the usual: we went to 2 places and in about 2 hours instead of going to a 3rd she suggested to go back to my place to try my special wine that cant be bought around here - i mentioned it earlier we could check out my vintage booze collection in which i had 2 bottles of exotic import wine to set up the logistics.

when we got to my place and were going up with the elevator she seemed confused that we were actually going to my place (!?!?!?!?) which i just considered a shxttest - i told her we could go back to where we came but she just said just lets go. i do think it was token resistance judging from the fact she didnt protest at all afterwards.

after getting in the flat i showed her around, offered a variety of drinks but we stayed with the wine. after sitting down and chatting about 5mins i pointed out why she raised my attention and to give an emphasis i kissed her - she kissed back passionately and we made out for about an hour during which i took her clothes & bra off and she took my clothes off too - and i noticed the obvious fact she was on her period so i didnt progress with the penetration, i mean during her period with that stuff inside her pants?. i didnt think at this point this was a mistake considering the circumstances the but this seems to be the problem to me. she mentioned a few times she should have left but using the simple "stay 5 minutes more" she stayed. eventually we agreed we met the next day and kissed goodbye and closed the night in a very sexual mood with her really expecting the next day.

aftermath:

an hour before meeting i dropped a text to check if the meeting was on for which she sent a message she couldnt meet me that day. i thought it was because she had to stay late but i had a bad feeling about it - i sent a text "chicken!:)" for which she sent a text 3 hours later saying "not chicken just thinking you only want one thing from me and im looking for more".

i considered this to be an information request what she should have expected - i pointed out im thinking in a bigger picture and eventually persuaded her to meet anyway setting up a chase framing and "blaming" her what happened that day. she said she couldnt meet the next day but will let you know about the weekend. i sent her a text when i was free and was waiting for the message which of course didnt come so i sent a light, cool followup text if she knew her schedule to set up the meeting. my message got ignored so i deleted the number, conditioned my brain what a huge asshole she was to be able to stop thinking about her and expecting anything further with her.

maybe i should have kept her number and sent a text next week for a followup but i sensed i was emotionally too involved in the story to keep a cool head.

the moral of the story is that without actual penetration you shouldnt have any positive expectations and not get emotional because you cant follow up the situation properly.

on a sidenote im really pissed off nowadays, getting tons of stupid stuff from girls from tinder. not doing this as a droid without any emotional expectations is the only way - problem is i have patience with girls this way i dont really fancy. should need to start daygame & going out but i approach anxiety totally blocks me. also try to refrain from porn but now after this i just snapped. i noticed a clear trend that giving up porn increases attraction from girls.
 

Verisimilitude

Cro-Magnon Man
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on a sidenote im really pissed off nowadays, getting tons of stupid stuff from girls from tinder. not doing this as a droid without any emotional expectations is the only way - problem is i have patience with girls this way i dont really fancy. should need to start daygame & going out but i approach anxiety totally blocks me. also try to refrain from porn but now after this i just snapped. i noticed a clear trend that giving up porn increases attraction from girls.

You need to go out and approach real girls. I think tinder is great. But there is no substitute for meeting girls in person. None. That doesn't mean give up on tinder, but you need to go out and get your ass in gear and meet more girls.
 
you miss 100% of the shots you don't take

Franco

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stratvm,

...and i noticed the obvious fact she was on her period so i didnt progress with the penetration, i mean during her period with that stuff inside her pants?. i didnt think at this point this was a mistake considering the circumstances the but this seems to be the problem to me.

This is a limiting belief here, my friend. As a matter of fact, girls can be very horny when they are on their period, and I have little doubt in my mind that this girl was a horny one -- she was literally leading you toward sex. But she sensed a lack of confidence at two points:

1)
i told her we could go back to where we came but she just said just lets go.

Never suggest going backwards. It shows a lack of confidence. If you can't think of anything too witty to say, then just reply with something like, "Of course we're going to my place! How else will we know what happens next? ;)"

Pretty much any confident response showing that you know exactly what you're doing is the correct course of action here.

2)
i didnt progress with the penetration, i mean during her period with that stuff inside her pants?.

Sounds like you have a fear of menstruation, which is a completely natural thing that happens to women every month! Instead, you need to throw down a towel and get busy! ;)

P.S. If you're unsure of how to respond when a girl tells you she's on her period, check out how charming responds to it here.

- Franco
 

stratvm

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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thanks Franco for the insights especially your comment on her being horny - she wrote this BS on me wanting only one thing but now im pretty sure she was disappointed. which makes me think the reason why she ignored me afterwards was because I mentioned subtly that I would deflect all her moves should we meet next time. :D

also good point on the need to be confident at all times - reason why I was tentative in the elevator was because I lost a girl before by taking her home without properly turning her on but this time I shouldnt have ignored the fact that she was the one making things faster.

re period its actually kind of gross to me... I know that girls are SUPERhorny but its just... idontknow. but after this story I know I should just ignore this somehow and proceed otherwise I lose her. without magic pill im pretty sure it wouldn't work though :D



re approach anxiety yeah I know I know I should start daygame & going out its just online is too comfortable. :D
 

Just_Dave

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Verisimilitude said:
on a sidenote im really pissed off nowadays, getting tons of stupid stuff from girls from tinder. not doing this as a droid without any emotional expectations is the only way - problem is i have patience with girls this way i dont really fancy. should need to start daygame & going out but i approach anxiety totally blocks me. also try to refrain from porn but now after this i just snapped. i noticed a clear trend that giving up porn increases attraction from girls.

You need to go out and approach real girls. I think tinder is great. But there is no substitute for meeting girls in person. None. That doesn't mean give up on tinder, but you need to go out and get your ass in gear and meet more girls.

This!

I know a majority of my LR's have come from Tinder, but a vast portion of my lays as a whole have come from face to face interactions as well. Cold approaching is how to get over approach anxiety. When you get over approach anxiety you can get your process down pack and then any application such as Tinder or whatever become child's play.
 

stratvm

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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she actually reappeared today but i managed to scare her off with an overly enthusiastic text.

next time all im going to write to failed escalations will be probably something like: "so when are you free?"
 
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