So heres the story. A girl that I don't know is selling a book on an online group that I want, and so I message her to pick it up. We exchange contact information and meet up. After picking up the book, I realize she's gorgeous (asian model), but I don't think too much of it until later. I text her to meet up and its pretty clear my intentions. We end up eating somewhere cheap, have a great conversation that last for about an hour, and go back to my place to watch something i said I would show her. Keep in mind she is a foreigner who speaks perfect english but is not completely familiar with american customs. At my place, were watching something on the couch. I comment on her hands, and she uses this as an excuse to play with my hands for a few minutes and read my palms. I get a little nervous/excited and don't respond too well to her advances. After a few minutes of silent watching the movie pass by, I suddenly go in for the kiss (in a not-smooth manner) and she very lightly responds and we start making out. However, she is still nervous I can tell, and I start to get nervous. I live in a studio apartment (everything is close together in one room-including the bed and couch). Making out with her is nice, but slightly awkward because we are both tall people and the couch is small. I again, (not smoothly) suggest we go on the bed, and at this point she is very skeptical and uncomfortable, but she follows me and we proceed to make out on the bed for a bit. Again, I can tell she is feeling uncomfortable, as am I and I decide to ask her if she's alright. She says "I should go." I panic and don't know how to respond. I first ask "was I too forward," with which she responds, "yes a little" in a manner that suggests the following tone "yea you were way too forward." I then ask her if she'd like to stay and just watch the movie, and she says again "I should go." At this point, I let her go, offer to walk her home and make sure she knows how to get home, with which she says, "if you could show me how to get home, that would be great." So I walk her outside, explain to her how to get home. We hug goodbye, though i think she was trying to go in for the kiss. Thinking this, I go in for the kiss after we hug and she accepts it and we part ways.
Now, there's nothing much I could do about feeling nervous as this is the first time I've brought someone home. However, I am not sure if there were a few things I could have fixed right then and there. For one, was asking her if she's comfortable a good move? She was 4 years older than me and my theory is that asking her if she was comfortable only confirmed to her that I was nervous. If I had just continued, perhaps she would have started to get into the making out again and things could have proceeded and we would have both had a great night. However, one of my friends said what I did was good, that i wasn't to be pushy. She was, after all, a foreigner and perhaps her culture didn't believe in such fast moving. Furthermore, when she said "i should go" how should I have responded?
Lastly, I believe some of my problem was that I was very chill with her from the moment we met up until the kiss, and then i made a sudden move to kiss her which was incongruent with the way I was acting before. Any thoughts would be appreciated. I think this girl is extremely interesting, I like her a lot but I tried to submerge my feelings for her during the date so that I wouldn't fall into the trap of not escalating, after all chase always advocates trying to move the interaction as far as possible. (I tend to move slower with girls I care about)
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student94
Now, there's nothing much I could do about feeling nervous as this is the first time I've brought someone home. However, I am not sure if there were a few things I could have fixed right then and there. For one, was asking her if she's comfortable a good move? She was 4 years older than me and my theory is that asking her if she was comfortable only confirmed to her that I was nervous. If I had just continued, perhaps she would have started to get into the making out again and things could have proceeded and we would have both had a great night. However, one of my friends said what I did was good, that i wasn't to be pushy. She was, after all, a foreigner and perhaps her culture didn't believe in such fast moving. Furthermore, when she said "i should go" how should I have responded?
Lastly, I believe some of my problem was that I was very chill with her from the moment we met up until the kiss, and then i made a sudden move to kiss her which was incongruent with the way I was acting before. Any thoughts would be appreciated. I think this girl is extremely interesting, I like her a lot but I tried to submerge my feelings for her during the date so that I wouldn't fall into the trap of not escalating, after all chase always advocates trying to move the interaction as far as possible. (I tend to move slower with girls I care about)
Thanks!
student94
