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Hi gents
Wonder if you can help me out with a tricky situation.
A girl at work has made it fairly clear that she's interested in me. Early this week she suggested I take her number down and our conversations in general have been pretty flirtatious.
I was reluctant to do anything for a while because I didn't want to make things awkward at work. So barely any texts have been exchanged since I got her number earlier in the week. The first day after getting the number I just acted cool, like we had been before. Yesterday, I reconsidered and thought 'you know what, fuck it - she's pretty hot so I'll just go for it.' I was alone with her in the staff room for a short while and was planning to invite her out at the weekend. Things seemed to be going well at first - fairly flirty conversation and she seemed nervous but in a good way.
Unfortunately things didn't quite go to plan after that. She'd somehow caught wind of an offhand comment I'd made to another staff member about a different girl working elsewhere in the building being hot. That was brought up and kind of derailed things. I tried to plough on anyway and asked her how she was fixed for the weekend - I assumed she'd take that to mean 'are you free to do something this weekend'? Instead she just told me about her plans for Saturday night, as if I was just making casual conversation. Doh!
Before I could bring things back on track, some other people came into the staff room, sitting right by us. From that point onwards she was much quieter than usual and group conversation in the room was minimal. We were sitting opposite each other, eating lunch, in a mostly quiet room. It was extremely awkward, partly because I couldn't think of anything to say and also because I wasn't sure where to look. I didn't want to be staring her down, but nervously scanning around the room wasn't too hot either. Before her lunch break ended, she left the room, presumably from the awkwardness. So then I'm thinking - 'Jesus Christ I've well and truly fucked this up.'
But then about half an hour later, one of the other girls in the office tells me: 'X has just said that she's REALLY jealous that you like Y and that you don't fancy her.' Hmm. Since when did finding one girl attractive mean that you don't like all the other ones too? I saw X briefly once more before the end of work (with other people about) and this time it wasn't awkward.
I was planning on sorting things out today, but in the event I never actually saw her at work - we got sent home early due to heavy snow and didn't bump into each other.
Now I'm not entirely sure what to do. I know the jealousy angle could work to my advantage, played right, but I can just as easily see her reacting by going out and pulling some random dude this weekend.
Given that I don't really want anything serious here, what do you suggest I do? How fast do I need to act in this situation, and would it really matter that much if she got with someone else before I saw her again?
I know Chase now advocates using texting for logistics only, but in this situation, I'm thinking of sending her a quick text or two, just so she doesn't go off into auto-rejection. Potentially just rapport building texts, or maybe trying to set up something for the weekend, supposing that doesn't look too weak under the circumstances...
Any thoughts on this?
Cheers
GG
Wonder if you can help me out with a tricky situation.
A girl at work has made it fairly clear that she's interested in me. Early this week she suggested I take her number down and our conversations in general have been pretty flirtatious.
I was reluctant to do anything for a while because I didn't want to make things awkward at work. So barely any texts have been exchanged since I got her number earlier in the week. The first day after getting the number I just acted cool, like we had been before. Yesterday, I reconsidered and thought 'you know what, fuck it - she's pretty hot so I'll just go for it.' I was alone with her in the staff room for a short while and was planning to invite her out at the weekend. Things seemed to be going well at first - fairly flirty conversation and she seemed nervous but in a good way.
Unfortunately things didn't quite go to plan after that. She'd somehow caught wind of an offhand comment I'd made to another staff member about a different girl working elsewhere in the building being hot. That was brought up and kind of derailed things. I tried to plough on anyway and asked her how she was fixed for the weekend - I assumed she'd take that to mean 'are you free to do something this weekend'? Instead she just told me about her plans for Saturday night, as if I was just making casual conversation. Doh!
Before I could bring things back on track, some other people came into the staff room, sitting right by us. From that point onwards she was much quieter than usual and group conversation in the room was minimal. We were sitting opposite each other, eating lunch, in a mostly quiet room. It was extremely awkward, partly because I couldn't think of anything to say and also because I wasn't sure where to look. I didn't want to be staring her down, but nervously scanning around the room wasn't too hot either. Before her lunch break ended, she left the room, presumably from the awkwardness. So then I'm thinking - 'Jesus Christ I've well and truly fucked this up.'
But then about half an hour later, one of the other girls in the office tells me: 'X has just said that she's REALLY jealous that you like Y and that you don't fancy her.' Hmm. Since when did finding one girl attractive mean that you don't like all the other ones too? I saw X briefly once more before the end of work (with other people about) and this time it wasn't awkward.
I was planning on sorting things out today, but in the event I never actually saw her at work - we got sent home early due to heavy snow and didn't bump into each other.
Now I'm not entirely sure what to do. I know the jealousy angle could work to my advantage, played right, but I can just as easily see her reacting by going out and pulling some random dude this weekend.
Given that I don't really want anything serious here, what do you suggest I do? How fast do I need to act in this situation, and would it really matter that much if she got with someone else before I saw her again?
I know Chase now advocates using texting for logistics only, but in this situation, I'm thinking of sending her a quick text or two, just so she doesn't go off into auto-rejection. Potentially just rapport building texts, or maybe trying to set up something for the weekend, supposing that doesn't look too weak under the circumstances...
Any thoughts on this?
Cheers
GG