This is what I meant, yes. Girls that are used to positive attention and admiration generally need more stimulation (= attraction, arousal etc.) and maybe even some sex before they (can/want to) open up about more personal stuff
If you are up for it, you can initiate a deep dive and see how she responds. Basically you lead your deep dive the way you usually would. But your intention is to use it as a screening tool to see if she is open to tell you personal stuff.
If she just starts talking with no or little resistance --> go ahead and dive further
If she seems uncomfortable, gives short answers that are not going anywhere or changes the subject --> forget it for now and maybe circle back to it later
I was talking about the influencers with a huge online following. Those that get bombed with online comments about how beautiful/sexy/hot they are every time they upload a spicy picture.
Guys who do this are not real to these women. They are just a comment on their screens.
This is what I meant, yes. Girls that are used to positive attention and admiration generally need more stimulation (= attraction, arousal etc.) and maybe even some sex before they (can/want to) open up about more personal stuff
If you are up for it, you can initiate a deep dive and see how she responds. Basically you lead your deep dive the way you usually would. But your intention is to use it as a screening tool to see if she is open to tell you personal stuff.
If she just starts talking with no or little resistance --> go ahead and dive further
If she seems uncomfortable, gives short answers that are not going anywhere or changes the subject --> forget it for now and maybe circle back to it later
I was talking about the influencers with a huge online following. Those that get bombed with online comments about how beautiful/sexy/hot they are every time they upload a spicy picture.
Guys who do this are not real to these women. They are just a comment on their screens.
Hey "Lover Guy"
(It feels awkward addressing you as just "Lover")
So how do you present yourself to these Queens in the beginning to set the Frame that you are a sexual option, and not just an average guy, who's one of their "Fans?" And then get compliance accordingly?
Case in point 4 recent female experiences:
1. So, outside the Silverlake Wholefoods, I approached this tall, modelesque platinum blonde, who turned out to be using ear buds and talking on her cell phone. She put her finger in my face, with kind of a scold and said - "I'm a talent agent on the phone with an important client," and turned on me... I was like "Fuck You Bitch, don't put your finger in my face like I'm some kid" -BUT I didn't say that, I was thinking it - I was caught in weird spot. If I was reactive like the previous - I LOSE, and look like a butt hurt guy.
YET, if I just walk away, then I'm kind-of a pansy accepting defeat.
I'm not a pansey, but I didn't really know what to do, and didn't want to be reactive so I left the set...
How would you set the Frame (as a sexual option) and get compliance with this kinda chick and situation?
2. In Koreatown, there was this attractive Hispanic or maybe Asian mix light skinned early 20's Goth-Hipster chick, tall, knee high black boots, short skirt with ass-cheeks hanging out, a lace teddy top, no bra, red lipstick and jetblack curly hair...
She looked at me, sized me up and down - kinda like an approach invitation, but was with her goth-hipster group of friends. Her look was screaming - EVERYONE, LOOK AT ME!
She reminded me a lot like what Alek wrote about with certain Club Girls, who you think are these total sex freaks, but actually they get off on making you think that - and are actually more into the Attention rather than actually moving a real experience along.
How would you set the Frame (as a sexual option) and get compliance with this kinda chick and situation?
3. The Wilhelmina Model working as a background actress - on the last show I worked. She was tall, looked Persian, or Indian. I opened her by saying - "You remind me of this Persian girl I use to know, Shirley. She was Orthodox in the Pico/Robertson area..." This Wilhelmina Model was kinda snooty. Really thought she was on a high pedestal. She responded smugly and bluntly by saying she was actually Mexican. I asked her what she was up to with the show. She said that she is going to be an actress, and that Wilhelmina set her up with background to begin the process... I was like okay.
ACTUALLY, In reality. Almost no one gets a chance to really become a real actor doing background. Once you are background, you stay background. Everyone knows this, and so would Wilhelmina! So, in reality, she is a Whilhemina Model, who needs to also do background to pay the bills.
Anyway, I got cockblocked by an older female crew member, who pulled me aside and said that it was Racist for me to say that she Persian, or Indian, and that it was creepy that I was talking to her...
I actually encountered this same chick several weeks later on the show, and she was like - "Ohh, you again..."
Internally I was like - "Fuck you bitch, actin' like your shot don't stink!"
How would you set the Frame (as a sexual option) and get compliance with this kinda chick and situation?
4. The actual REAL successful Model at the grocery store. Extremely nice. Overly nice. Almost felt like she was saying - "Ohh, what a cute puppy dog who thinks I'm this hott model. I'll pat him on the head, because it's just so cute to see him give me attention..."
Again, inside I was like - "Don't fucking treat me like a 10 year old, with this overly nice shit..." We had a polite interaction, and then when I tried to close, she gave me the Boy Friend excuse. But, then actually it probably isn't an excuse because a chick that attractive probably does have a boyfriend - and you'd have to accept that getting with her, you'd have to share her with her boyfriend - Totally different post all together!
FINALLY - The Brazilian Dream Woman, just from early this evening. Turned the corner and saw her. Her look hit me "like a slug in the chest." Voluptuous, tall, brown in a Yellow Yoga Suit, with Yoga mat just coming from class. In my head I'd want to approach her and say: "Oh my God, you are my Brazilian Dream Woman... How can we get naked together?"
In her mind, if I approached that way, even not saying it, she's saying - OF COURSE I'm your Brazilian Dream Woman! Of course you want to get naked with me - YAWN.....
But funny the next thing that hit me mentally was - "Ohh, wait, you can't approach her. You're no Ryan Gosling, who has a Penthouse Condo in Downtown, West Hollywood, or Century City. Who drives one of those fancy Range Rovers, takes her on vacations to Morocco, and does Yacht weekends. - You can't approach her!"
Or, you just aren't the cool guy who got to Fuck her this weekend!
I didn't approach her.
How would you set the Frame (as a sexual option) and get compliance with this kinda chick and situation?
Pretty thick, I know, but Thoughts?