Socializing Trouble with Slow Physical Movement

[GregorDeVillain]

Greetings my fellow students,

I have a problem.

I've been following this site for a long long time now and I have done my absolute best to integrate its teachings into my life to great success... With one exception.

Moving slowly.

No, I'm not talking about violating the "Move faster" motto, easy peasy lemon squeezy on that one. I am talking about moving slowly through space, talking slowly in a conversation, switching my attention slowly to other things.

I have tried and practiced and done everything I could. I have gotten great at complete silences mid conversation and being comfortable in them and utilizing pregnant pauses and staying still without fidgeting and not blinking...

But it all falls apart when I have to regulate the speed. Be slow but not still, talk slow but not be silent. I can never do so for more than a few minutes, I get excited or passionate and lose focus. I have literally gone to the top of olympus and meditated there for 4 hours alone in the cold. Silence came naturally and easily. But the moment my friend and fellow cohiker asked me a question, I started speaking like a machine gun.

Any help you can provide? Exercises? Personal stories? Anything to escape that plateau is most welcome

 

[James D]

I second that post.

Same issue here.

I'd love to hear some more experience members share their ways around this issue.

 

[Glow]

continue doing it,
suddenly you will tip into it
the first step is when you start recalling it before you open
or before you order coffee from the local barista
suddenly itll start just sliding in along your doings
good
then keep doing it

just to be aware this suddenly slides in by itself and is not a choice in the moment

+ do different drills - not just one type
some where you shift between fast and energetic and slow, cool, sexy
notice if theres resistance to it, feel that and just stay a lil with the feeling. sense it.
some where you just do one
but start getting the idea of a mix of both into your mind and system
find many drill types where you play with it
one of them will suddenly push through

remember that the energised part is natural to you and youve been doing it for a life time presumably
aka its looooong time ingrained

Also feel into the motivation behind going fast and getting excited
just connect with it and realise whats going on there
this is not easy and will be unclear and foggy in the beginning
stay with it
it will gradually unveil itself
this will often shift things...
diffuse the motivation
open up for new ones..