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Hey guys, I decided to keep a journal here which will cover pretty much all my field work, and any encounters with girls that I don't feel are as detailed to warrant separate field reports, but are important nonetheless.
This first post's gonna outline everything about me at this point.
Basic Info:
Age: 19
Height : 177 cm
Weight : 143 lbs
Skin Colour: Brown
Based in: Toronto
Fundamentals:
General thoughts: Honestly I haven't really approached too many girls but a lot of what I read on GC that I did try and apply are the fundamentals outlined in articles. I'd say I've been working on and off on my fundamentals for 11 months. That being said, I still notice that women fail to display overt signs of attraction. This means my fundamentals are most likely off, and I haven't really been consistently logging in what I do and what I slip up on so here goes:
1) Posture: This one's mostly good. When I'm sitting alone in my room I kinda slouch, especially over the course of time when my mind's busy on homework etc. I try to combat this by just taking breaks where I stand up and stretch. However, it's not uncommon for me to sit in a slouched manner for even a few hours. When I'm out or with other people, though, it's a different story, I stand as tall as I can, with shoulders pulled back and sit straight in class, restaurants etc. When I talk to people, walk past them and approach them (guys, girls, cashier's, registrars etc) I have my chest out (very slightly so, I don't exaggerate it) and my head's either level or, sometimes, slightly tilted up and to the side. This is the one fundamental I'm pretty happy with.
2) Eye Contact: Mixed. I'm improved tons and I never look down anymore, I do break eye contact but it's always to the side. I noticed last year over a few months (from Sept-Dec) when I was approaching more girls than I had before (and honestly approaching for the first time tbh) I used to gaze into their left eye. Chase mentioned this has the outcome of inducing a "weird" feel, so I dropped it. I actually look at the bridge of girls' eyes and neck (and guys too, even though I'm not seducing them, they're still practice?) a lot more BUT this is only when I've settled into conversations with them. I need to develop a more piercing look, with more probing eye contact and have a sexier and dangerous look right from the onset. I kind of achieved this with one of the girls I approached almost 2 weeks back. But I need to be more consistent with this. I also maintain eye contact fine, it's never been a problem lately and yeah I don't stare for too long. I also try to use peripheral vision as much as possible while checking out chicks from afar. Bedroom eyes: Wow, I noticed that initially I used this a lot and got great reactions out of girls, especially when I was (trying to) flirt or while smiling, but I find I rarely use it these days (at least not that I know of). Need to bring this back immediately Blinking - I don't blink too often, and I blink a lot more slowly and sporadically these days. Gaze intensity: I'm pretty good with this I feel, but to really check and be more methodical about this I'll do the pencil exercise more regularly.
3) Walk: Very mixed. When I tend to be in a hurry to class OR in "not waste time" mode, I tend to walk hurriedly. But this is BAD and I need to stop this at all costs. There are other times where I feel like I've just got my walk handled. Usually when I'm approaching girls this isn't a problem. The key here is my rhythm. Interestingly, I was listening to LL Cool J's "Doin' It" yesterday night (I need to absorb that vibe of a pimp/seducer haha) and I was walking very slowly, controlled with my shoulders swaying (maybe a bit tooo much?), my legs a bit spaced, feet straight and not flayed, kind of like the gunslinger walk Chase mentions but I have a smaller frame so not sure. But anyway, I was walking like this and as I approached my res, this girl who's around just stared at me with intrigue/curiosity, and then I felt her friends shift their eyes too me too, AND then even the guys in that group turned their heads and looked at me until I was out of sight (this is what I intuitively felt, and I've come to believe your intution w/ regard to who is watching you is very accurate). So the deal is to maintain that walk consistenly. I'm gonna actually listen to the same song while walking for the next few weeks bc the rhythm was perfect and it just makes me feel like a G. The goal is to incorporate this walk at all times.
4) Mannerisms: Boredom - when I'm sitting alone in the dining hall and or thinking about my work I have a zoned out, brooding look (think Don Draper in a bar ) or a reflective look (think young Vito Corleone). Passion - when I talk about rugby, or gymming or the things that interest me I don't fuck around and be chill about it. I make it sure the girl or guy knows it's something I'm highly driven about. I don't mention that I put in a lot of effort (that's breaking the law of least effort) but I imply it's a high priority. What I need to do is to incorporate this passion in a sexual manner. So next time while approaching women I need to try and bring this vibe. Interesting I find it much easier and more natural to do while cold approaching really beautiful women.
5) Deliberateness - Needs a lot of work. I kinda fidget sometimes when I'm not 'in the zone', and my movements are not that sturdy. Given I'm kinda small too, this might be a deal breaker. There are times where I'm very controlled, so I need to monitor this religious over the next week and significantly control my fidgetting. Also I tend to glance a lot, I need to stop this and maybe resort to peripheral vision.
6) Amusement - Something I've brought in over the last 2-3 days. When some girl says/does something silly in my midst, I put on an amused Daniel Craig-eqsue smile (toward the left side), kind of like a smirk. I need to bring this on to approaches too, where I feel the women is not very receptive to me or is just being polite. I need to convey "Ha, little girl thinks I'm just another regular suitor. That's cute, I wonder how long it takes for her to realize she's missing out"
7) Hairstyle and Facial Hair: Got a much more expensive and trendier haircut since November, got a new one again right when school started. It's a good short sides, long messy top. Style it with Brylcreem and it maintains a good dry look. What may be lacking here is EXPLICIT bad boy ness. I planning to get a lineup soon in like a couple of weeks where I shorten my sides again but keep the length on top so that I tousle my top towards one of the sides more. I may be falling short in the styling, it's a kind of generic messy top style. Maybe the lineup with the tousled to a side top might help. I don't want my hair too long since I'm doing job interviews this semester and I want to be able to style my hair to a good decent look too.
I've been sporting a good beard since the end of October. It got toward a full beard by December but I feel girls my age don't like I too much so I'm experimenting with length. I keep a heavy scruffy look these days (about an 8 on a beard trimmer), I might just get it a teeny bit shorter and tighter to the face. I also keep a clean neck, I love the contrast between the scruff and the clean neck.
8) Physique: This one's the important one. I'm a skinny guy and this needs to change. I was 97 (!) lbs by the end of 11th grade, and after 3 years (exact) of gymming (on and off, maybe really about 20 months of gym) I'm at 143 lbs. I've been gymming HARD the last 2 months and eating tons too, also bc I want to transform my physique for rugby (I was a wing but now I'm playing outside centre and being small is tough). I've noticed a few changes - my back is much better defined, I've always had a V-taper (the natural look, not the steroid insane V) but now it's much more visible. Shoulders look good too and my quads are a strength too (but they're really hair so I actually need to flex these to show em. I might shave them off soon). My weaknesses are my upper body, arms + forearms (forearms and wrists especially, my bi's and tri's have some definitions at least), my calves and my neck. My lower body lifts are ok for my bw I guess but nothing spectacular. My upper body lifts are really shitty so I need to work on this hard. This is the fundamental I've the most hope and certainty about in the future partly bc I'm very committed to this, and it's not exclusively related to seduction. I've always very vividly visualised myself as being a muscular, athletic guy (I'm already pretty athletic, but I mean like a really FIT guy you just look at know he's the deal) in the future. And if I keep going at it like I am rn, I don't see myself coming out of the summer without a physique to kill for. But this is the fundamental that could bring me the biggest results. Getting a bit bigger might just be the key to getting girls swooning soon.
9) Voice - Ah, wow. Last May when I approached women (1 or 2 times, I was so nervous) my voice was so laugh-worthy, high pitched and insecure. I worked on it the whole summer, I'm pretty sure my parents thought I lost it. BUT it paid off. When I came back to school last September, I still had a kinda shitty voice (but that was due to a heavy cold I had). But I kept noticing that over October and November, my voice kept getting deeper and better! I lost momentum after I got one-itis for this Russian girl and stopped approaching. But again since December (the month I really started to turn myself into this powerful man I've really dreamt of being the last 3 years) this has been great! Even when I'm nervous, my voice is deeper, masculine and grounded, I can inflect very well. I've noticed when I'm nervous, it still wavers a tiny bit, although nothing terrible but I wanna get rid of this. I need to work on a sexy purr too. Maybe bring this in while flirting, or teasing. The biggest flaw right now is I talk just too fast at time. NEED to slow down, this lets me talk deeper too. This is the one fundamental with which I've seen good results over the last year. For a guy who though he was doomed to have a fail voice, it feels pretty good to have turned this around. My cousin (girl) told me during holiday this Christmas that I had a great voice (she hadn't seen me since May).
That's all for this post. Next post will be other fundamentals (social calibration), my brand and goals w/ seduction and the man I want to be. And then I'll post approaches from this year (I've approached, or just talked to about 10 different girl so far. Not much but better than last year)
This first post's gonna outline everything about me at this point.
Basic Info:
Age: 19
Height : 177 cm
Weight : 143 lbs
Skin Colour: Brown
Based in: Toronto
Fundamentals:
General thoughts: Honestly I haven't really approached too many girls but a lot of what I read on GC that I did try and apply are the fundamentals outlined in articles. I'd say I've been working on and off on my fundamentals for 11 months. That being said, I still notice that women fail to display overt signs of attraction. This means my fundamentals are most likely off, and I haven't really been consistently logging in what I do and what I slip up on so here goes:
1) Posture: This one's mostly good. When I'm sitting alone in my room I kinda slouch, especially over the course of time when my mind's busy on homework etc. I try to combat this by just taking breaks where I stand up and stretch. However, it's not uncommon for me to sit in a slouched manner for even a few hours. When I'm out or with other people, though, it's a different story, I stand as tall as I can, with shoulders pulled back and sit straight in class, restaurants etc. When I talk to people, walk past them and approach them (guys, girls, cashier's, registrars etc) I have my chest out (very slightly so, I don't exaggerate it) and my head's either level or, sometimes, slightly tilted up and to the side. This is the one fundamental I'm pretty happy with.
2) Eye Contact: Mixed. I'm improved tons and I never look down anymore, I do break eye contact but it's always to the side. I noticed last year over a few months (from Sept-Dec) when I was approaching more girls than I had before (and honestly approaching for the first time tbh) I used to gaze into their left eye. Chase mentioned this has the outcome of inducing a "weird" feel, so I dropped it. I actually look at the bridge of girls' eyes and neck (and guys too, even though I'm not seducing them, they're still practice?) a lot more BUT this is only when I've settled into conversations with them. I need to develop a more piercing look, with more probing eye contact and have a sexier and dangerous look right from the onset. I kind of achieved this with one of the girls I approached almost 2 weeks back. But I need to be more consistent with this. I also maintain eye contact fine, it's never been a problem lately and yeah I don't stare for too long. I also try to use peripheral vision as much as possible while checking out chicks from afar. Bedroom eyes: Wow, I noticed that initially I used this a lot and got great reactions out of girls, especially when I was (trying to) flirt or while smiling, but I find I rarely use it these days (at least not that I know of). Need to bring this back immediately Blinking - I don't blink too often, and I blink a lot more slowly and sporadically these days. Gaze intensity: I'm pretty good with this I feel, but to really check and be more methodical about this I'll do the pencil exercise more regularly.
3) Walk: Very mixed. When I tend to be in a hurry to class OR in "not waste time" mode, I tend to walk hurriedly. But this is BAD and I need to stop this at all costs. There are other times where I feel like I've just got my walk handled. Usually when I'm approaching girls this isn't a problem. The key here is my rhythm. Interestingly, I was listening to LL Cool J's "Doin' It" yesterday night (I need to absorb that vibe of a pimp/seducer haha) and I was walking very slowly, controlled with my shoulders swaying (maybe a bit tooo much?), my legs a bit spaced, feet straight and not flayed, kind of like the gunslinger walk Chase mentions but I have a smaller frame so not sure. But anyway, I was walking like this and as I approached my res, this girl who's around just stared at me with intrigue/curiosity, and then I felt her friends shift their eyes too me too, AND then even the guys in that group turned their heads and looked at me until I was out of sight (this is what I intuitively felt, and I've come to believe your intution w/ regard to who is watching you is very accurate). So the deal is to maintain that walk consistenly. I'm gonna actually listen to the same song while walking for the next few weeks bc the rhythm was perfect and it just makes me feel like a G. The goal is to incorporate this walk at all times.
4) Mannerisms: Boredom - when I'm sitting alone in the dining hall and or thinking about my work I have a zoned out, brooding look (think Don Draper in a bar ) or a reflective look (think young Vito Corleone). Passion - when I talk about rugby, or gymming or the things that interest me I don't fuck around and be chill about it. I make it sure the girl or guy knows it's something I'm highly driven about. I don't mention that I put in a lot of effort (that's breaking the law of least effort) but I imply it's a high priority. What I need to do is to incorporate this passion in a sexual manner. So next time while approaching women I need to try and bring this vibe. Interesting I find it much easier and more natural to do while cold approaching really beautiful women.
5) Deliberateness - Needs a lot of work. I kinda fidget sometimes when I'm not 'in the zone', and my movements are not that sturdy. Given I'm kinda small too, this might be a deal breaker. There are times where I'm very controlled, so I need to monitor this religious over the next week and significantly control my fidgetting. Also I tend to glance a lot, I need to stop this and maybe resort to peripheral vision.
6) Amusement - Something I've brought in over the last 2-3 days. When some girl says/does something silly in my midst, I put on an amused Daniel Craig-eqsue smile (toward the left side), kind of like a smirk. I need to bring this on to approaches too, where I feel the women is not very receptive to me or is just being polite. I need to convey "Ha, little girl thinks I'm just another regular suitor. That's cute, I wonder how long it takes for her to realize she's missing out"
7) Hairstyle and Facial Hair: Got a much more expensive and trendier haircut since November, got a new one again right when school started. It's a good short sides, long messy top. Style it with Brylcreem and it maintains a good dry look. What may be lacking here is EXPLICIT bad boy ness. I planning to get a lineup soon in like a couple of weeks where I shorten my sides again but keep the length on top so that I tousle my top towards one of the sides more. I may be falling short in the styling, it's a kind of generic messy top style. Maybe the lineup with the tousled to a side top might help. I don't want my hair too long since I'm doing job interviews this semester and I want to be able to style my hair to a good decent look too.
I've been sporting a good beard since the end of October. It got toward a full beard by December but I feel girls my age don't like I too much so I'm experimenting with length. I keep a heavy scruffy look these days (about an 8 on a beard trimmer), I might just get it a teeny bit shorter and tighter to the face. I also keep a clean neck, I love the contrast between the scruff and the clean neck.
8) Physique: This one's the important one. I'm a skinny guy and this needs to change. I was 97 (!) lbs by the end of 11th grade, and after 3 years (exact) of gymming (on and off, maybe really about 20 months of gym) I'm at 143 lbs. I've been gymming HARD the last 2 months and eating tons too, also bc I want to transform my physique for rugby (I was a wing but now I'm playing outside centre and being small is tough). I've noticed a few changes - my back is much better defined, I've always had a V-taper (the natural look, not the steroid insane V) but now it's much more visible. Shoulders look good too and my quads are a strength too (but they're really hair so I actually need to flex these to show em. I might shave them off soon). My weaknesses are my upper body, arms + forearms (forearms and wrists especially, my bi's and tri's have some definitions at least), my calves and my neck. My lower body lifts are ok for my bw I guess but nothing spectacular. My upper body lifts are really shitty so I need to work on this hard. This is the fundamental I've the most hope and certainty about in the future partly bc I'm very committed to this, and it's not exclusively related to seduction. I've always very vividly visualised myself as being a muscular, athletic guy (I'm already pretty athletic, but I mean like a really FIT guy you just look at know he's the deal) in the future. And if I keep going at it like I am rn, I don't see myself coming out of the summer without a physique to kill for. But this is the fundamental that could bring me the biggest results. Getting a bit bigger might just be the key to getting girls swooning soon.
9) Voice - Ah, wow. Last May when I approached women (1 or 2 times, I was so nervous) my voice was so laugh-worthy, high pitched and insecure. I worked on it the whole summer, I'm pretty sure my parents thought I lost it. BUT it paid off. When I came back to school last September, I still had a kinda shitty voice (but that was due to a heavy cold I had). But I kept noticing that over October and November, my voice kept getting deeper and better! I lost momentum after I got one-itis for this Russian girl and stopped approaching. But again since December (the month I really started to turn myself into this powerful man I've really dreamt of being the last 3 years) this has been great! Even when I'm nervous, my voice is deeper, masculine and grounded, I can inflect very well. I've noticed when I'm nervous, it still wavers a tiny bit, although nothing terrible but I wanna get rid of this. I need to work on a sexy purr too. Maybe bring this in while flirting, or teasing. The biggest flaw right now is I talk just too fast at time. NEED to slow down, this lets me talk deeper too. This is the one fundamental with which I've seen good results over the last year. For a guy who though he was doomed to have a fail voice, it feels pretty good to have turned this around. My cousin (girl) told me during holiday this Christmas that I had a great voice (she hadn't seen me since May).
That's all for this post. Next post will be other fundamentals (social calibration), my brand and goals w/ seduction and the man I want to be. And then I'll post approaches from this year (I've approached, or just talked to about 10 different girl so far. Not much but better than last year)
