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So I just got back from another college's campus (they're the only college that has the books I need, that's not important).
Two scenarios.
As I was waiting for my articles to print, this cute girl turned around (she was printing stuff at the next printer a few feet away), maybe seeming slightly nervous and asked what today's date was. Unable to shake Mean Girls from my head, I thought this could be a tactic to "put herself out there". She just seemed like she "noticed" me. Or she really was just asking for the date, but something in her face just seemed like she had ulterior motives. Anyway, obviously I didn't know how to follow up if she was trying to give me something. I guess there isn't much TO say, and HOW you say it matters more, and this is ultimately an "assume attraction" situation, but I just stood there, letting this small window of opportunity pass me by after I answered her benign question. Is this a situation where I can be direct? It was in a library so it wasn't like the context is friendly to attraction (unlike nighttime at a bar where everyone knows everyone's motives). "Hey, speaking of dates..." Is this brave or clumsy?
Regardless, striking up a conversation is less risky but I couldn't think of anything to say (well, nothing that wasn't dull). "So...what're you printing?
" Maybe make a joke? "I hope you're not printing anything that isn't school-appropriate." Tell me what you guys think because I think I just discovered my go-to conversation starter for pick up at library printers. At the time though, my mind was completely blank. Not that I KNOW she asked me the date because she was trying to put herself out there, but it's (however small) a possibility- women do this. Just trying to enlarge my arsenal and capitalize when I can. It sounds like I need "more" to go off of. Thoughts?
Now, the other scenario:
This other girl (also real cute) was looking up a book for me a little later (long, unimportant story). I almost wish I chose this school, it's seriously stacked to the brim with beautiful women. Anyway, we did some small talk, but because she was in "work mode" and I was in "getting schoolwork done" mode, the conversation never really went past small talk.
How do you capitalize on these infinitesimal opportunities? As the leader, how can I take these almost-shut windows and throw them wide open? Without trying too hard, of course.
Two scenarios.
As I was waiting for my articles to print, this cute girl turned around (she was printing stuff at the next printer a few feet away), maybe seeming slightly nervous and asked what today's date was. Unable to shake Mean Girls from my head, I thought this could be a tactic to "put herself out there". She just seemed like she "noticed" me. Or she really was just asking for the date, but something in her face just seemed like she had ulterior motives. Anyway, obviously I didn't know how to follow up if she was trying to give me something. I guess there isn't much TO say, and HOW you say it matters more, and this is ultimately an "assume attraction" situation, but I just stood there, letting this small window of opportunity pass me by after I answered her benign question. Is this a situation where I can be direct? It was in a library so it wasn't like the context is friendly to attraction (unlike nighttime at a bar where everyone knows everyone's motives). "Hey, speaking of dates..." Is this brave or clumsy?
Regardless, striking up a conversation is less risky but I couldn't think of anything to say (well, nothing that wasn't dull). "So...what're you printing?
" Maybe make a joke? "I hope you're not printing anything that isn't school-appropriate." Tell me what you guys think because I think I just discovered my go-to conversation starter for pick up at library printers. At the time though, my mind was completely blank. Not that I KNOW she asked me the date because she was trying to put herself out there, but it's (however small) a possibility- women do this. Just trying to enlarge my arsenal and capitalize when I can. It sounds like I need "more" to go off of. Thoughts?Now, the other scenario:
This other girl (also real cute) was looking up a book for me a little later (long, unimportant story). I almost wish I chose this school, it's seriously stacked to the brim with beautiful women. Anyway, we did some small talk, but because she was in "work mode" and I was in "getting schoolwork done" mode, the conversation never really went past small talk.
How do you capitalize on these infinitesimal opportunities? As the leader, how can I take these almost-shut windows and throw them wide open? Without trying too hard, of course.
