Unsure what to do next, we're both really busy

[Dylweed]

Working at the front desk of the gym one day was a girl i barely knew from high school. I talked to her for a little bit and she seemed liked she was attracted to me. As i was walking away she said that we should play some basketball after i got done lifting and when she was done working. We ended up not doing that. I think because she had forgot her shoes but not sure. Then a few weeks later she walked out to court when i was there shooting by myself late at night. We slowly played a short game of pig while talking a lot. I had her talking pretty much the whole time and the conversation was pretty good with a little teasing. No chase frames though. We were there together for probably 30 minutes before i said that i had to get going. I then said that we should grab some coffee sometime, she agreed.

I texted her later to set it up and we both were too busy and our free time didn't match up. I said i'd try next week and i did, but again we couldn't find anytime. But she suggested basketball again sunday night, I could make, but don't know if i should. It's been 2 and a half weeks since we played basketball. Should i just try to do that again, treat it like a date, get to know her even better, and then invite myself over to her place after wards and then get intimate? Or should i wait for a different time to get the coffee we talked about?

I'd really appreciate any help, Thanks

 

[charming]

Hey Dyl!

It sounds like you've been friend zoned. Girls emotions are directly proportional to their decisions. It sounds like you made an impression initially but didn't move fast. In my experience if you don't close on the first meeting, you're chances drop to nil. Every text after that is completely dependent on her mood when she receives it, partially because she has little to no investment in you. So if she's had a bad day, her dog is sick, a family member died, or she lost her job,
any communication she receives from you will be shrouded by those emotions and she might not feel like responding or responds but isn't very engaging. All of those things are completely out of your control and would require an extraordinary amount of work to overcome. Don't chase girls, meet new ones. Don't be discouraged, they really are everywhere!

I'd recommend these two articles
Attraction's has an expiration date
Take a girl to bed

 

[Dylweed]

Thanks for the reply. I see your point. Maybe she did friendzone me. It's hard to say. I mean she went on a vacation right after the last time that we saw each other. Also she works a lot and goes to school. So maybe she really has been busy and she actually really does want to see me. We've barely texted but it seemed to me like she was always engaged.

Anybody got any advice on what i should do? See her tomorrow night at the gym? Then try to get us out of there alone together, or wait for a legit date? (coffee, lunch, etc.)