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Hi,
I've been with my girlfriend for about two years. A year ago we broke up for a week or so and moved to another country. At that point she was giving me blowjobs without a condom and letting me cum in her. Right after we got back together and she waitied 3-4 months to move with me. Before I left the attraction was really high, but she was still a virgin (she's really conservative and doesnt want to do it before marriage, etc).
When she got here it took some time but we were doing everything from before except she wanted to blow me with a condom on. I waited 2-3 months and we did everything including sex but she was still doing the blow jobs with a condom. I asked her straight out and she said it's smeling really bad and to wash it (she also thought I cheated). She also used to come blowing me but now she doesnt.
After washing it and shes doing it Ive said to do it without it when shes doing it and she nods no and keeps going. I did that a few days ago and after she started arguing with me telling me I don't find her attractive enough because I woudn't care if it was with the condom or not, and that I'm traumatized by watching too many films, etc, that if its so important for me I should find someone else. And she was like I'll do it without it but you can't come in me because thats not 'normal' (I learned to like that from a film) and I'll do it once a year to give you a treat (more than a year went by and she hasn't). I said I don't have to come in you but you can do it until then without a condom so that she'll do that and then just keep going and she agreed (not sure if its gonna work).
I think the issue might be lack of attraction (I have been really tired stressed about work, etc) and her putting me in the boyfriend/fiance category and her switching pills, stress of moving etc. That might be causing her not being as turned on by it as before so when I say not to do it with the condom while shes doing it is not overiding her logic on the subject. She's also not coming as much in general even on her own which she's said is from the pill and the stress. She's also not having as much sex because she's worried about pregnancy, stress and she switched pills, etc.
What can I do about this? Should I try asking, guiding her there next time while having sex? What can I do?
I've been with my girlfriend for about two years. A year ago we broke up for a week or so and moved to another country. At that point she was giving me blowjobs without a condom and letting me cum in her. Right after we got back together and she waitied 3-4 months to move with me. Before I left the attraction was really high, but she was still a virgin (she's really conservative and doesnt want to do it before marriage, etc).
When she got here it took some time but we were doing everything from before except she wanted to blow me with a condom on. I waited 2-3 months and we did everything including sex but she was still doing the blow jobs with a condom. I asked her straight out and she said it's smeling really bad and to wash it (she also thought I cheated). She also used to come blowing me but now she doesnt.
After washing it and shes doing it Ive said to do it without it when shes doing it and she nods no and keeps going. I did that a few days ago and after she started arguing with me telling me I don't find her attractive enough because I woudn't care if it was with the condom or not, and that I'm traumatized by watching too many films, etc, that if its so important for me I should find someone else. And she was like I'll do it without it but you can't come in me because thats not 'normal' (I learned to like that from a film) and I'll do it once a year to give you a treat (more than a year went by and she hasn't). I said I don't have to come in you but you can do it until then without a condom so that she'll do that and then just keep going and she agreed (not sure if its gonna work).
I think the issue might be lack of attraction (I have been really tired stressed about work, etc) and her putting me in the boyfriend/fiance category and her switching pills, stress of moving etc. That might be causing her not being as turned on by it as before so when I say not to do it with the condom while shes doing it is not overiding her logic on the subject. She's also not coming as much in general even on her own which she's said is from the pill and the stress. She's also not having as much sex because she's worried about pregnancy, stress and she switched pills, etc.
What can I do about this? Should I try asking, guiding her there next time while having sex? What can I do?
