Date Plans Using FRACTIONATION on a date

[ThePicker]

Hey everybody !
Recently I have been exploring this whole concept of fractionation, and I would like to start testing it.
It really interests me, but I have no idea how to apply it on dates.
Does anyone know any precanned routine I could use?.
I have seen some on the Internet, but I would like them to be appliable to my own life/history. What I mean is, If I used the examples I read, I would be lying. I read one about a "person whom you get to know, and evergthing is going great blabla, but then she died in a car accident". I would like some precanned materials I can adapt to my history of life or that are just general enough.

Last, I came up with one (based on my own life experiences), I would like to know your thoughts on it:

At first on the date, they always ask:
-"So what are you doing in my country? Why did you move? " (I am living abroad)

Here would be my line:

-The short story is, I did a student exchange here, I fell in love with the country and wanted to live here, but then I had to return to my home country to finish my university degree. And now it's finished so here I am.
(Here begins the real technique)
The long story is,
(Positive emotional swing)
The experience was so incredibly amazing etcetcetc (powerful storytelling here, emphasizing the positive emotions of my stay)
And since the 1st day I knew I wanted to come back to live here. But when I returned to my home country, I wasn't sure I would anymore. My life here was really happy, full of adventure and energy,

(Negative emotional swing)

but At that time, my grandfather was really sick, he had an irreversible degenerative condition. And it had gotten much worse. I was afraid that something happened to him while abroad and I couldn't spend his last days with him. So that was holding me back. He finally passed away during that year, in the beginning of the pandemic.

(One last positive swing)

I am really happy I could spend his last days with him. Together.

And afterwards I would add:
(Note: I will tell my date beforehand that she 'transmits me trust due to X)
(Qualification
Damn, I never tell the full long version of the story when I am asked, you really transmit me trust & and made me open up so quickly, I am impressed!
Well, now your turn ... What are you working? I am sure you ......


what do you think about it?
of course, I only wrote the general thematic and emotional line of the story, about which I am asking your opinions, but I would still need to improve the copy/storytelling and make it sound more beautiful, use more adjectives, etc..

Would my line be a good application of the fractionation technique? How could it be improved? Am I missing something?

And specially, Do you think that sharing such type of emotional things so quick can look weird and make us look "weak" and "Easy"? (That's why I mixed it with a bit of qualification, I am basically letting her know that normally I don't do that, but she's " Special")


Thank you all !!!!

 

[Rakkum]

Does anyone know any precanned routine I could use?.

I think it would be more fruitful to think of fractionation more as a meta-tool rather than something specific you do.

In his article on the topic, Daniel explains fractonation thus:

It’s a concept that deals with this fact: the more times you take somebody into a state, the deeper they will go into it, and the effectiveness of said state increases.

When it comes to fractonation in conversation and your example, I'd wager, the grandfather story is overkill and potentially risky. Aim is not swing between negative and positive states but rather to take her into the positive state, then reverse just a bit and then in again.

I do it with attention. When she's doing most of the talking, I listen attentively but may a few times shift her focus away and fall into a deep reverie for a short while. It does many good things imo but it also function as fractonation.

As always, I may be wrong. Maybe the grandpa emotional swing will work just fine. Try it out and let us know!

 

[Vision]

My first question would be... WHY do you want to use fractionation?

Are you trying to create a deeper connection with a girl? Are you trying to make her more attracted to you? Are you trying to get past some type of resistance?

BTW, push/pull is probably a better starting place if you're just looking to do fractionation... that or actually taking a girl through an induction and using symbols to fractionate the emotion.

Then branching out to storytelling from either one of those places is usually better than starting at storytelling, imo.